IS THERE A SEPT 2005 CLUB YET?

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Hi all fellow September mums. If I'm duplicating another thread please tell me. If not, would love to hear how everyone is getting on.
Tom is a week old today. All well - though has a slightly infected cord stump so am going to GP today.
I'm still madly hormonal, could burst into tears whenever I think about the impact all this has on my lovely dd (2y2m).

how are you, LadyLazarus?
Hope you don't mind me saying that I have been praying for you and your DH and baby. I wonder if your DH has realised that an assault (or even threat of one) on anyone else would probably have resulted in criminal charges? It might be good if someone he trusted could remind him of that.
I hope things improve for you. I must say that I admire your courage to walk out like that (absolutely necessary to do, of course, but easier said than done). I hope that things can be healed between you and that you can enjoy your DH and your new baby

Rhumba quote "Must admit not really trying to be supermum as feel that the next 10 weeks or so are just about survival"

That's how I feel Rhumba but I have to keep reminding DH of this. I feel like we cannot expect any kind of nomrlaity or sane routine until after Christmas, when Alice will be 3 months old. It doesn't matter if we have to buy groceries from the expensive shop just down the road, it doesn't matter if DH has to get the later train to work (the one with all the school kids on it - he's their teacher!), it doesn't matter if the washing up isn't done the same night it is created.

Sallie ~ I feel like our baby is ignored most of the time, except when she is being fed. I do get some evening cuddles though as Alice cluster feeds hourly from around 6-9pm. I don't feel like either children get much attention.

I cannot easily make it out the house to do something fun with dd1, who is nearly 3, and then we all get on each other's nerves. If I was trapped inside the house all day with just the baby, then at least I would have spaces of time when I could read, watch TV, listen to the radio and hear it or enjoy a cup of coffee in silence. As most of you all know, with a 2-3 year old, none of the above are possibilities

So, the baby stops me getting out so I can enjoy time with dd1 and dd1 stops me from enjoying my time in the house with the new baby! But, another few weeks down the line and I feel like I'll be able to get out more.

Alice is such a delight. She slept from 9.30 - 3.00 last night and then from 3.30 - 7.30. Bliss.

4 hours between feeds last night hopefully he will settle to this for a bit.

LadyL thinking of you honey. How are you getting on? Did you invite the social worker into the equation or has someone else done it for you? And more importantly is it helping? New babies cause a lot of stress but this is no excuse for assult. There is so much more I would like to say but won't apart from if you need to chat contact me, I have a pretty good idea how it feels and have seen a couple of friends through similar situations without judgment and supported their decissions 100%

Beatie - The joy of expressing and a baby that will drink form a bottle is that I am not prevented from going outotherwise I think I would go insane cause the three year old would drive me up the wall. Hope you can get yourself out and about a bit soon.

Still no post from RZ hope she is ok.

DD breaks up for halfterm today and I am trying to organise playdates etc for her otherwise world war three will errupt here.

Beatie, Sallie,Rhumba - couldn't agree more with you all re our older children. I have both the boys on three days a week, and I spend more time planning how I will organise the day than I did on planning my lessons when I was at work! DH (may well just be referred to as H very soon!)seems to think the day will just go smoothly without considering feeds, DS1's potential public meltdowns etc. Well, it's his half term next week so guess who is going to give him a lovely day with both his boys whilst I bugger off somewhere peaceful!!!

I wish some of you could have witnessed my tantrum at 4.00am this morning! DH had washed up for the first time in ages last night before he came to bed and when I went down to sort out Tom's feed a) no sterilised bottles and b) horror of horrors he had misplaced the little star shaped valve that goes in the breast pump! I was not happy! Finally found valve this morn under table{???)but hunting something the size of a pea in the early hours was not what i needed!

And to top it all the double buggy we bought on e-bay whilst i was pregnant looks very nice but is just so so heavy i can hardly push the thing let alone get it in and out of car. Any recomendations anyone?

Started with Mastitis yesterday evening. Temperature & not in the real world during the night - thought a dog was running on our terrace - kept thinking that I should get dh up to check. Hardly slept as ds4 had wind & was awake & unsettled most of the night but was asleep when I had to get up to take dd3 to school!! Knew this would happen. dh took dds1&2 to school as I was so tired. Will have to pick them all up though.

sarahhal - tantrum fully justified honey I know how difficult those star shaped valves are to find and have therefore invested in some spares. And of course hadn't we realised that bottles sterilise themselves or is it the kitchen fairy that does it all?

Milward - Hugs - hope you feel better soon.

Leaving children with hubby and disapearing for a whole day sounds like heaven to me at the momment.

Why is time flying by so much quicker this time round? Can't believe david is 4 weeks today!

I've just CAT Redzuleika. It's very worrying that we have had no word from her in 3 weeks. Does anyone know anything else about her? I don't even know which part of the country she is from.

dd1 is at nursery school today and the sun is shining so it's a much better day today - so far. I actually got to stimulate Alice and got some more smiles out of her. She first smiled a week ago and I'm ashamed to say I haven't had enough time with her to make her smile again!

DH is on half term next week so I'm excited about having him home again. We're planning to paint dd1's bedroom. I'm happy to be doing something special for her. The following week I plan to start getting a life and will venture out to some toddler groups and see how friendly people are around here. I can't believe we moved in 3 months ago already.

I think that RZ lives in Hertfordshire; possibly St Albans although I can't remember exactly why I thought that. I really hope that she is all right.

Sarahhal - my double pram is alsolike pushing a tank. Ok once I get some momentum, but so unmanouevrable (sp?). Hopefully wont need it for long - when Tom is more upright will be getting a buggy board. It's a cosatto duo traveller.
Poor you Milward
Also worried about RZ. Do hope we hear good news soon.

sarahhal - I got a double buggy from mothercare - duolite twin traveller £140. Have to say, it's not bad - steers well and is easy to put up/take down. Only problem is it doesn't look very comfy, my ds seems to keep slipping down, although he is getting to that 'going rigid in his pushchair' stage.It also doesn't fit through our front door (I think our doors are a bit small tho')!
The lightest doulbe buggy is apparently the twin Aria by M&P - we have the single one, which has been pretty good, and is extremely light. All down to cost with us at the end of the day though. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Sling testing going well... using the Mobywrap today and really like it, although friend bought it on ebay and I can't find any UK stockists at the moment. It's really easy to tie, Nell is v comfortable, and it would be easy to wear as a 'just in case', to the supermarket say, as it is pretty discreet. Back has been sore this week, but doesn't hurt with mobywrap on. Much cheaper than a lot of others too, so definitely the winner so far...babybjorn active next, but expensive..

moby wrap

Andif - I have made my own wrap sling. Well, I already own a bjorn, an Ergo and a pouch sling - I could not justify the expense of another.

I ordered 5m of stretchy jersey cotton fabric and cut it to the width of 50cm. I haven't even hemmed it (although I may in time, to stop the fabric rolling up) I followed the tying guidelines that Kiwikate linked way down, near the bottom, of this thread.

I found it really easy to tie and then put Alic einside afterwards. We had a daytrip out last Saturday and this is how I carried her (although I'd intended the sling to be for indoor use only). Alice slept, she was so snug and cosy. And I had no back-ache at all.

I really recommend the stretchy wrap slings and definitely recommend making one yourself since mine involved no sewing

ARGHHHHHHHHHH having a shit night david only stops screaming when held dd jelous and being a grade a sh*t dh out till 9.30 teaching. have shouted at dd to be quiet and leave me alone only to have all three of us in tears. Am i losing the plot?

I'm a stroller addict too and just a little sad my dd1 is too old for us to have to get a new (double) stroller.

Sorry you're having a rough night Mummyhill. Deep breaths...... and a glass of wine?

Had a shite day today I slept for 3hours last night...from 10:30 til 1:30 and thats it since then!! am not a happy bunny, he fed solidly last night...i usually put him in bed with me after he's woken up the first time, at about 2, but even that didn't work last night he just wouldn't settle. And today well thats an even bigger joke, he's feeding every hour for half hour, which is so unusual, usually only feed for 15mins. Feel like a cow today and not just coz i'm grumpy, o well hopefully it'll better tonight. still love him to bits though

When HRH gets home I am escaping for a bit even if i only get as far as asda. Large malibi and coke is beckoning though so the escape may only be as far as my bed minus kids and dh

HUGS STM sounds as if Noah is having a growth spurt.

Big huhs mummyhill...is it a full moon again tonight?

Hello

Took ds to Kiddiesworld today - to spend some time with him (and thankfully dd slept through it!) still feel terribly guilty - I can be very blunt with him and he keeps poking Rachel - for my attention no doubt but it is so annoying specially if it wakes her up!! hope to get a little more sleep tonight as Rachel has a cold and the noises she makes!!! night night!

Only a little while til your dh home Mummyhill. Have a double!
I've realised how much my mood influences dd. Was really wobbly and tense until about 3 days ago, and as if by magic, the last 3 days have been easier with her. And also Tom seems more alert and more like a person. Very smiley with dh, my father, my mother, Lucy and so on. LEss so with me. Think it's because as far as he's concerned I'm breakfast, elevenses, lunch, supper and a midnight feast. Almost has a predatory look in his eyes sometimes!
No routine to speak of yet. Pretty haphazard really. But not fussed really as I know things will slot into place eventually.
Have rediscovered the joy of an occasional evening drink. Bliss.

hi all

Thanks Beatie for trying to CAT RZ... I don't know how you do it yet and don't feel I'm enough of a MN veteran to venture contacting people personally.

I think Conrad's finally drifted to sleep, I've had to let him cry for a while as he's so exhausted, he's been dragged round campus in his carrier all day as I've had to get notes, catch up with missed lectures etc today - essay writing starts in earnest next week

Had an awful night last night but it was mainly my fault... I invited a friend over for dinner - she brought new Bf and daughter and I felt like a terrible host - flipping from feeding a hungry baby to feeding the rest of us, definitely think it was too early to attempt a sociable evening of my own organising

Oh dear - Conrad's roused again..

There, he IS sleeping now, isn't it lovely when you know they've finally flopped?

Conrad didn't settle till late after friends left and then I got it into my silly head that I simply couldn't go to bed myself till all the laundry and ironing was done... perhaps it's my way of purging events (or non events) from my system... Anyway today seems like it's been a very long day.

Argued with DD as she announced she was off out to meet a friend at ten to eight this evening... I said it was too late to go out, she said I'd see her when I see her???

She rang at nine to apologise and, as she's now on half term, could she stop over at her friends. I was so glad of the apology that I said yes, but also that I'd want a more mature attitude next time - She's a very good girl normally, I just wish I had someone to back me up when I make a descision for her own safety... Oh Bum I'm just too Bloody tired to fight

Just going to curl up in front of the TV to wind down for a bit and then off to bed.

Night Night x

bravery of first degree. Am going to the GP's as can't go on like this. There are no clean plates, the only people with clean clothes are the kids, i can't remember the last time i managed anything other than a quick wash in the sink. DH has finaly realised that he needs to do more to help/support me but is it to late? Love dh and kids to bits would not hurt them or myself but i am feeling so low i can't stop crying think it is more than thyroid levels being out of kilter. Will let you know how I get on.

Mummyhill - I hope you're OK. Sorry you're feeling so low - hope the GP (and DH) can help. Have you got any good friedns/family nearby who can give you a break or help out too?

Mummyhill, hope the doctor can help. I think it's pretty brave to ask for help actually. Feel pretty low here too but can't really admit it to anyone other than DP. Even then can't really talk about it just cry every other second.

I have a question about health visitors. How often are you supposed to see them. Lola will be 4 weeks on Sunday. Health visitor came round once 2 weeks ago but haven't heard from her since. Lola hasn't been weighed since the first week. So don't really have an idea if she's gaining weight properly. (I'm worried she's not getting enough milk) And GP won't see her until she's 6 weeks. I phoned the health visitor yesterday and left a message. haven't heard from her yet.

Is that typical of everyone elses experience??

Just feel like i'm out here on my own now.

Katts - I saw my health visitor four times from 15 days to about a month and that was it. Must admit i really don't even think about contacting them for advise - I just felt that they were doing the paperwork they needed to do and that was that. I know some are fantastic and really support new mums but not round here!

Mummyhill - really hope that you feel better soon and that the doctor can help you. Glad to hear that DH has realised he needs to help out some more - can you escape for a few hours this weekend and leave him at home? You made me laugh with your Asda comment - I actually look forward to a wander round there on my own plus they do some nice clothes!!!