IS THERE A SEPT 2005 CLUB YET?

[pooka]

Hi all fellow September mums. If I'm duplicating another thread please tell me. If not, would love to hear how everyone is getting on.
Tom is a week old today. All well - though has a slightly infected cord stump so am going to GP today.
I'm still madly hormonal, could burst into tears whenever I think about the impact all this has on my lovely dd (2y2m).

Just a quick post before school pickup. Beatie, I have the same bf experience - I think my let down is so fast that dd just can't keep up, so breaks off for a rest (think this is why my babies are always so windy..!) I find a muslin v useful - when she breaks off, I just shove it over my boob, then it soaks up the spraying milk and gives me some privacy!! I really envy people who have babies that just suck away continuously for 20 mins - bf for me always seems very stop start and so not very relaxing.
Been into town this morning to exchange various outfits that were just too trendy/frilly/pink. Slowly adjusting to the whole pink thing! Big new Monsoon has opened which is very dangerous for my bank balance!!
LadyL -don't let dh get away with telling you it's your fault - in your hormonal state, you could end up agreeing - stand your ground! My dh casually let out yesterday that he is out tonight at some awards dinner, until v late. I exploded, made no attempt to clear up kids tea stuff etc so that when he came in he could see exactly why I need his support at the end of the day. Even on a good day I feel very teary by the time he gets in (7pm ish) and having to cook and tidy up all on my own, get kids packed lunches and school clothes ready etc, is just too much, especially if dd won't let me put her down! Must get on with sling testing - rejected huggababy as it really isn't hands-free and can't really be upright in it, which must be better for a windy baby. Moby wrap next, although still thinking I will treat myself to tricotti.

Should add that dh agreed not to go to his do tonight - whoopee!! All that worry over nothing!

Hello!!

Like me is your life coming at you far too fast!??

Now I'm over my mrsa scare - Rachel and I have a cold and I have a slightly swollen lip that feels bruised - came on yesterday pm(not my mouth either sorry tmi ) so sex - no thanks!!! Any ideas what may cause such a thing - hormones again I supose - will keep an eye on and visit the doctor if not resolving!

LL - I'm really sorry things havn't brightened up for you - do you have a mutal friend in common that you both respect and like who could speak to him (make him wake up and smell the coffee?- hes got a lot to lose by being stubbon)and be go between??

I'm also feeling really guilty that I am being far to hard on ds - we have a love/hate relationship currently and I'm ashamed of some of the harsh things I've said to him - always early in the morning when I'm dragging myself around to sort them both out before the school run!!

PS - the first 3 months are the hardest - arn't they??!!

Going to spain on 23rd November for 5 days - can't wait - see the family and show of Rachel.xxx

Andif

Monsoon - fantastic girly denims - I loveeeee it!!!! Glad I don't have one near by or I'd be bankrupt!

andif - I use a babybjorn sling - the basic model.Have managed to use to 18 months with my little ones (don't think it says to but was ok for me!). Now use when I'm walking dds to school after the car - gives me free hands to take care of 2yr old

Morning all.

Feeling quite bright this morning, could have something to do with David sleeping from 11pm till 6am. Few more nights like this and I might feel human soon.

DH is being an arse. He complained about picking up dd's toys when he came in from karate lastnight. I had had the kids on my own from 8 in the morning till 9.30 on the night. Managed to get tea cooked for him and had been doing some washing etc after dd went to bed at 8pm. Ehy is it an issue for him to help out bit with the housework? Well I better get dressed and put out the rubish (the only job I ask DH to do regularly and he can't even manage that) I sometimes think that I am a single parent family with a lodger!!

Glad you had a good night's sleep mummyhill - and thank you also for reminding me that the bin needs to go out .

Alice and I should get dressed I think (DS at nursery). She has a hearing test this afternoon as babies born in Bedfordshire have one at birth (we live in Beds but she was born in Herts). I am pretty sure she can hear though .

Letter from health centre said to try and make sure they are asleep when they have the test. I know which baby will be alert and awake .

Grace has been having betwen one and two hours sleep ONLY at night (from about 1:30am). DH reminded me that with ds we put him in bed and let him cry for 10 minutes (I had forgotten this). The idea is that if they are tired, they'll drift off before 10 minutes is up (if not, then get them back up to feed/change/cuddle/whatever). I did this (reluctantly) with Grace, and she slept for three hours. Subsequent tries have not been so productive, though. I had forgotten that sometimes they cry because they are tired. I remember putting ds in his cot to cry for 10 minutes (and closing the door so I couldn't hear) and having a cup of tea or something to recharge myself and get away from the stress. This really rejuvinated me when I felt that I was about to loose it.

LL - so sorry to hear of your DH difficulties. Please make sure you take care and make sure you have someone to talk to (if you have no one else, most churches will welcome you to chat)

For me with ds, the first three months were definately the worst. Things got a lot better after that.

For those of you still THINKING about contraception BEWARE - despite the common belief that you cannot fall pg soon after having a baby - this is one of the most fertile periods in your life. TWO people in my antenatal class from 2 years ago, fell pg again pretty much immediately after their first babies (they were both exclusively bf, and neither had had a period yet). Both thought they were safe, and neither wanted a second baby. I'm also opting for a coil (can't face hormones or surgery). But I understand you have to wait 8 weeks after birth to have a coil, so it'll be condoms until then (if I ever get the energy to do more than just THINK about sex).

Someone remind me what causes the green spinach-like pooh in breastfed babies and is it a sign of something wrong?

Beatie - I was given conflicting advice on this - some say over feeding, some say wind/colicky babies get this. Sorry if not very helpful. Uh oh, Nell squawking so better go...

Morning all...

Beatie i thought it was a sign of your breast milk changing and it flushing out their system...maybe wrong.

wegiht is coming off well. Just weighed myself and i'm 10st 3...cant be bad losing two stone in 2weeks. Am now in a soze 10 pair of trousers....so happy..sorry if noone else is but think breastfeeding is really helping...he just keeps putting on weight...cant beleive how great being a mum is...it's a bit lonely at night with noone to wake up with me but it's worth it...i'm loving every minute

stm - I'm so pleased to hear that you are enjoying being a mother. Don't feel lonely up at night feeding. Rest assured that around the country there are hundreds of other mothers awake feeding their babies too - either alone in or with a DH/DP snoring by their side.

I hate nighttime feeding and if I didn't have DH in bed beside me (snoozing as I feed) I'd probably watch TV or turn on the light and read to pass the time. As it happens I sit there wanting it to be over with asap. If I'm really good though, I do my pelvic floor exercises.

Have been thinking about sex but will have to wait till lochlia (spelling) stops, which seems to be taking longer than last time.

Alice and I have been socialising this morning - we made it along to an NCT group for babies up to a year this morning. It was nice going to a group where I didn't have to concentrate on DS so much.

There were 4 other babies there and at least 2 maybe 3 already had other children, which was also good. We walked there (only next village along) but feel good for doing it .

STM, you can think of me feeding in the early hours. DH snuffles, snores and grunts next to me, while Alice sucks, splutters, burps and farts on the other side. We have a touch lamp so I put it on the dimmest thing and read.

Beatie, just looked up the green tinge to your babies stools... if they're watery too it's a sign of diarrhoea.

The thing to make sure of is that Alice doesn't become dehydrated, you can give a little cooled boiled water, but if you're worried take her to the doctor.

hope this helps x

Not watery - usual texture, just green!

I love b/feeding while lying down, and also seems to stop the scary let down and Tom choking. However, find that next day he is rather unsettled. think that maybe its because I fal asleep while feeding and he isn't burped. So gets a build up of wind. Had forgotten how obsessive you can become about air bubbles, winding, burping, farting. It's sucha shame as otherwise I think he'd be really relaxed. He's definitely more chilled than dd.
Still swaddling as well - makes an enormous difference to the length of time he'll sleep. God - obsessed about sleep too! Think that sometimes I just want him to sleep so that can get on with things/be wth dd exclusively - worry that he isn't being as stimulated as dd was.
What a lot of pointless and trivial worries. Think we all feel the need to be supermum these days - sucha lot of pressure to "perform".

Rhumba - talk at yoga went well. Was lovely to return as a graduate. You're quite the talk of the town with your birth story! Did you really climb into the back of a stationary ambulance???

Hello!

DS - has just broken up for half term - if I manage to stay sane for the next 11 days it will be a miracle!

Opps - its tea time - better get organised! Like you Mummyhill feel like a single parent - between dh and his running, long work hours, Spanish lessons, stag weekends and golf!!!! oh well!!! I'm happy with my lot!!!

We've also had a massive run of stag weekends Not fair! Why are they all so long/expensive these days?

Yes - fed up with stag weekends too - I don't get invited to the hen weekends - they think she's just had a baby and wouldn't come - they are right I woudn't go - but would love to see the look on dh's face when I pretend I'm going - think I'll try it!!???

Hope my brother will look after dh - in Estonia on said stag weekend!! I worry about him!!

Pooka, no I didn't try to climb into an ambulance although there was one parked outside and we thought of asking the crew for help as I could feel the head by that time but no-one was around.

Must admit not really trying to be supermum as feel that the next 10 weeks or so are just about survival. Having aid that I do miss my previous routine with DS as have v little time to mess around with him. Was really shattered on Tuesday when I had them both alone for the first time but she only wke once last night although it took two hrs to feed and settle so managed to catch up a bit. Took her into work today so missed out on my usual nap.

too tired to write an more!

Another one feeling like a single mum. DH has finished (and passed) his exams but not giving me the help I thought I would get and still getting home late. Having three under three and a week at home on my own without any help (no cleaner etc) is exhausting but we are pulling together and things are beginning to get better. Have let the housework slide somewhat and am making sure I spend more time interacting with the kids. Having said that, the baby gets very little attention at the moment and dh likes me to put her down early in the evening so don't even have that time with her. She is being very good - feeds at around 10/11pm then sleeps through till 5/6am.