August 2008 Laugh Line

[TwilightSurfer]

Too much pressure and too little thread space left me with but one choice so here we are. Let's discuss further the private space because quite honestly the "private" space is not so "private" at the moment. I'm no detective BUT there's only a handful of threads over there and all are beckoning me to read through them. For the moment we are safer here. Like a new model car, we should wait and let the kinks be worked out by the folks that can't WAIT to be part of the "new thing."

Morning LOTI - hope the surprise party goes well. We had a 6.15 wake up but she snuggled DH whilst I fed DD1 and decided up time was 6.50. DD1 woke oncei nthe night but went straight back to sleep then DD2 woke but just lay chatting to herself for 45 mins and went back to sleep.

I have had to put the heating on this morning both DDs had frozen hands this morning. I have tucked DD2 in with DH to warm her up, now they are both snoring away!

Tweaks - dinner sounded yummy and am pleased DH saw the error of his ways!

I wonder how MrsCyteen is feeling this morning?

Morning

Beautiful sunny day again - shining down on Mr&MrsCyteen

Woke up to DD2 climbing over me at 6.15am, she then proceeded to go and get books, piglet and numerous other things and read books and tell stories to Piglet. Quite sweet but each time she went to get something she climbed over my face and bashed it with body parts/books or a wet nappy . Girls happily watching Winnie the Pooh and eating grapes

oops i put the heating on last week for my parents and haven't switched it off again

LOTI i think your SIL is being very sneaky but i would get you CM to calmly explain what she thinks the arrangements are and if she mentions the sharing her thing, then find out if your SIL said you had agreed to it all. Hope DD1 enjoys her party - you are so brilliant organising stuff for your girls

Am drooling over the thought of chicken kiev and chips. DH is away tonight (has his River Cottage Day tomorrow) so i think i can have a treat

Dizz words fail me WRT your family

well according to cm she thought that sil had asked me first about stay over and the cm looking after the baby... according to sil she asked cm first before me to see if the cm would do it???

so now i have two different stories.this is driving me mad!!!

Blardy cold here, but a bit sunny so might get out in the garden this afternoon. We haven't put the heating on yet but did have our first log fire of the year last night; was lovely :)

Plus DS slept in until 7am woo hoo! So we'll keep bed time at 8pm for now and see if he can do it again...

Loti I think crispy's suggestion of just calmly asking cm is a good one. After all your crazy sil might just be stirring. Hope you have a fab party Villa eh?

Have been looking on fb but still no photos from cyteen's wedding [poor show]

Loti can you just say no to sil? Or would that create too much bad feeling, although I don't seem to remember any of them having any thought for your feelings ever??

loti where abouts in Spain is the villa?....

morning gals, cold here too but sunny atm.

Lucky you should tell them BOTH the arrangement doesn't work for you because you want to leave town without any worries. If either has issue then let them go lick their wounds elsewhere. If one of the pouters is the CM then explain you'll be needing her services less if bookings can't be relied upon.

Villa near Alicante cece ..

hots wanna say no sooo much but as its family it is proving quite difficult..grrrr.. but i think ulitmately i am not going to go to the wedding and let the two of them get on with it.. i am so sick and tired of being a doormat that i am making a stand..

its going to mea no cm/babysitter but hoping that i can find a new babysitter at least!! will just keep my gorgeous dd2 with me for a bit longer but as i said before the job i am going for will be a no go

lol TS morning

Just took a street walking tour of Alicante on Google. Very nice place.

But Loti by not going to the wedding / not trying to get the job you are being a doormat and letting sil get what she wants, ie your child minder Please try and say no to sil and go to the wedding like you planned. Remember your holiday last year when they were horrid???? Seems like she doesn't need any excuse to try and feck you over so why be nice when it means you can't do something YOU want?

just found this on my screen...it would appear i didn't hit post so hello to everyone i've now crossed with!

loti i agree with what hots said... she didn't give your feelings any thought... two wrongs don't make a right and all that but still....

Only have a second to post, but Hots is dead right, Loti.

and yet again, i agree with hots. loti as hard as it is, you have to make a stand against sil. what have you got to lose? she was awful to you on holiday, is using you as free childcare for her DS. i know i probably sound harsh but seriously, you've been using that cm for ages, what on earth gives her the right to essentially steal her from you?

if you saying no to sil causes ruptions, what's the worse that can happen? she stops talking to you? would that be the end of the world? obviously you need to decide what's important to you and if a genuine relationship with sil matters to you, then you need to ignore me. but i really don't get the impression that she'd help you as much as you help her which, imo, means the relationship isn't genuine

What Tweakers & HP said!

Lucky you do NOT need to GIVE UP! You booked it! You confirmed it! You take it!!!

BTW to others realized you and H are basically separated? Is that why the egg shell walking???

LOTI - think of all the thoughts about doing some paid employment, how it would give you some 'you' time and confidence that you can 'do it'. Do NOT. UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. GIVE THAT UP. You have found a potential job in the field you enjoy, they like you and there is potential for part time. Do you REALLY, REALLY want to give that opportunity up?

As tweakers says, what it the worst that can happen if you say no to SIL? If she will be a major PITA then ring round for some babysitters and arrange one to go to your SIL's house. Then make it quite clear that under no circumstances is she to assume that she can stay at yours or piggy back off your arrangements without clearing it with you first.

Next, research some other CM's and when the time is right for YOU, say adios and don't look back.

Oh and thankyou for the lovely offer wrt to your villa. You are very kind and generous

Oh ladies, sorry to hear of all the dischord.

LOTI My cents worth is keep the cm on til pre-school - it's not worth giving up a potential job before it happens. But I wouldn't bother going to the wedding - give them a guilt trip and say you just can't face the hassle, what with your H probs too.

My NCT social went like clockwork with 30 adults in total and 3 volunteers acquired inc a dads' group co-ordinator! Not a bad swansong if I say so myself. Now just got a nearly new sale, a Halloween party and an AGM and I'm outtahere by Xmas.

LOTI, I agree with the rest sorry Please don't let these twats ruin a night that you wanted to go to and a job that you want there are other CMs and yes finding decent ones is a tedious and painful process but it doesn't need to be an all or nothing situation.

hope the party went well for DD1 and she got lots of lovely pressies. Thanks for offer of the villa - I may well take you up on it as long as I don't have to take DH and the DC!! And it's nowhere near to my lot in spain either

Cyteen - come on with the photos already!!!

long day at work and have to start prep tonight as doing a craft fair on Sat - we all remember how well it went for the summer fete so I'm determined not to be so disorganised

finally have an appt through for my hip - Nov 9th!! Never mind, I've had 3 pain free days so I'll count my blessings

Dude I'm in a FUNK! Pilates was good but lunch after was ssllooooww. I think they had to go out, find a chicken, kill the chicken, and then cook the chicken for my chicken soup. Took too long to ladle it iykwim. Then I called DH to say I was stopping to pick up a Barbie for a bday party dd1 is attending this evening. He wasn't cross but I'd forgotten he was to pick his brother up for a guy meetup to watch football at a "pub" (best way to describe it). So I hurry only to have to back track down a road under construction, get caught in church traffic, get caught in accident traffic, get caught in county fair traffic. Took an HOUR to do what should have been 15 minutes. Got home, felt bad about forgetting, he made me tell him what was troubling me, it came out all wrong but he didn't take it wrong, told him I just feel overwhelmed, not in my element, unable to find the surface so to speak. He listened then I told him to go. He needs time too after all. We're both kinda trapped in uninspiring jobs. It would have been great if we could have gone together but that's so much extra money for a sitter plus housework to prep for the sitter and effort by me to get it all pulled together.

I'm just going to go sit in the corner and sob for a while. Don't worry about me, it will pass.

ah TS - you're perfectly entitled to feel overwhelmed - you lead such a busy life I'm not sure how you manage. Have a moment or ten, whatever you need ((hug))

. Bedtime sorted. I won't go into detail other than it ended up with me saying to DD1 (quite calmly) 'if you are going to make yourself sick by screaming at me, then please go and do so down the loo, otherwise it will be you clearing it up'. Accompanied by a face. Anyway she was fine and went to bed and said 'sorry mummy'. I think her first unsolicited sorry to me, so i think she knew she had overstepped the mark massively.

We have been out all afternoon at a friends parents with the girls playing on the trampoline and swings and running round after the ducks. We then went to a pub for tea, so overexcitement all round. DH meanwhile is in a lovely hotel in Devon, eating fabulous food and chatting with his mate. I have , double and triple

TS poor you, just not your day . Glad to hear you and DH not taking it out on each other though - 'tis all to easy to do IMO, so working together is fab

Hurrah Gladioli - brilliant organisation, and all great for CV experience and interviews to demonstrate your business skills in expanding your new empire

Dizz good to hear your hip has not been bothering you too much & good luck with the event prep. Give me a shout when you want to talk accounts

Three for three in bed although I can hear some kicking

well done DD1 on her unsolicited sorry - tis a big step and I shall join you in the corner re Dave's big trip

Well done indeed buckets, very impressed

GRRRR!!!

Well done on the day Crisps! Very as it sounds like a lot of fun (minus the bedtimefuss).

Dizzy I think I got ten minutes.

Trying to do some study stuff with DD1 while DD2 sleeps and it's turned into a whineyfussingcryingpoorpitifulher moment. WTH!