MN Christian Prayer Thread - Dippy's Back! Prayers for New Beginnings as a New Academic Year Commences ......

[CaptainDippy]

I know I would appreciate prayers as I face the prospect that the Littlest Dippy starts school in a few short weeks (w/c 12th Sept to be precise). Feeling a little wobbly to say the least ......

True, DO. You are very wise, as ever. Maybe it is a good thing to show vulnerability at such an early stage of our ministry here. I might ask one of the mums who lives near to take the kids to cubs/guides for me or something like that.

mhd, have you been injured in action? is it too late to send out the stretchers and evacuate you from the front line of mn? (suppose it is seeing as you are posting in the "hospital" thread)

Do you mean 'that' thread BES? I felt rather injured this morning but I actually feel strengthened and encouraged now as so many people have sent me nice messages and said nice things, plus I can sense God so close, it's cool :)

Thanks for the mopped brow!!

Oooh hope the elder gets back to you soon, praying for you.

did not see the thread, but surmised from your post. which thread was it?

[scared]

click, clunk, rattle.....

BANG

WAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Sound of shooting self in foot, AGAIN

oh heeeeeeeeeeelllllllp

i seem to have a built in system to stimulate firing off of emails just before elders meetings. I have had a reply. I need to think of a suitable answer. there was not enough information in the reply to make a judgment on the reception of the emails contents, though he is talking about how they can support me as a church. i need to formulate an email to extract more information from him as I am not sure how much of it he "got" because I did not feel able to say exactly what had gone on between us. though ss was mentioned and "violent breakup".

what the hell have I done? (again)

actually, considering the woeful lack of support and tenacity to follow up the last email, it could all amount to not a lot at all.

I suppose what I'd tell them would depend upon what I was looking for. If I'd decided to leave the church then I'd just do what I needed to do to get your DC into the school that you want. If I wanted practical support, for example, help with the kids during the services so you can actually concentrate on what is being said rather than on keeping the DCs quiet then I'd ask for that and perhaps say why it is that H can't be left alone with the kids. If I was wanting more emotional support then it is a bit tricky. It is of course entirely up to you what you tell them. H may also be talking to them and giving them a contrary version of events. I'd try and keep things very factual and mention things that H could not dispute. I'd also be quite specific about what support you want. If they don't "get it" then you'll have to spell everything out to them. They may be reading the words "violent breakup" as referring to a break up that was verbally heated and with very strong words and emotions, rather than one involving violence.

Since you have only told them 2% of what went on between you and husband and h has only put his side of the story I am not surprised that they are a bit in the dark.
I think the time has come to seek an interview, face to face, with the elder you feel is most sympathetic/open to listen etc and 'spill the beans'. They've got a shock coming when they hear that your h nearly killed you. Not exactly the right thing to do in a Christian church and they can hardly approve of it. But if they don't have the full story, what are they to do?
You have been willing to see h, you have been coming to the church, in their view, how bad can it be? Only you can explain that and, as far as I can gather, you haven't. I do, honestly, understand some of why not, but I really think that the time has come for abandoning e.mails and talk, openly face to face. "Speaking the truth in love."

BES I reckon Oma is right. Time to talk face to face, even if that is scarier than doing it by email. Certain things are not communicated well in writing. There is too much room for misunderstading/misinterpretation and it may be difficult to ask further questions for clarification. But I agree with Jaffa in that you need to work out what sort of support you want, if you haven't already done so, and decide what you reveal and how you reveal it based on that. Praying for you.
MHD Saw you on the other thread. Agreed with everything you wrote but rarely feel astute enough to pitch in on those discussions. Somehow, on those kinds of threads believers, whether Christian or otherwise, seem to be given the third degree in a way that no non-believer has had to endure. Not that we shouldn't be prepared to defend our faith as Paul wrote, but I think even he would struggle to be patient with some of these people. I sometimes remind myself that he, too, was a rabid fundamentalist anti-Christian in the beginning of his journey, so the people who bang on the loudest about the horrors of faith and religion may not be walking as safe as they'd like to think . HOpe you are feeling better. Just out of interest, are you based in Staffordshire? I get the feeling you are not too far away from me. I'm on the Staffordshire/Derbyshire border.

Bes praying for much strength for you so you can decide what you want to do about your situation!

I would like to ask some prayer for things to go smoothly in the next few weeks.
We found a lovely house to rent in the street where our friends live, landlord is lovely, could move in beginning of December. Just hoping and praying our current landlord won't be difficult about us moving. We should have signed a new 6 month contract here at the beginning of the month, but haven't received anything yet... don't think it will be difficult to put this house back on the rental market, they get snapped up so easily.

DH has his part 3 test next Monday so he can become an Approved Driving Instructor, if he passes then our financial situation will become slightly better, so praying for that.

It's DD's 3rd birthday end of the month, so preparing for that, and 3 days after that it would have been Sterre's due date... dreading the day, feel so sad :(

gingercurl I'm on the Staffordshire/Shropshire border!

Prayers BES, is there someone you can take with you to meet with one of the more sympathetic elders?

Prayers also for you Blue, and for MHD.

Prayers of thanks for a dear friend who for the moment seems to have beaten her (extremely rare) bone cancer...

blue due dates are strange. especially if you happen to be pregnant by then. ds was 10 weeks behind dc2's due date (lost at 8 weeks gestation) so we had passed the "critical moment" by the time the due date came along. h did not remember and we did nothing special. i am not sure that was the right thing to do. you need to do what is best for you. have prayed.

I am tired and sensitive and can't think straight at the moment. i do know i want help in the service. i do not want to go into all the details of the relationship. i want to be reassured that they are not thinking we have separated for some trivial reason and that they are not being unsupportive for anypersonal reason like we have brought it on ourselves. if they are being unsupportive because they are crap at being unsupportive that is easier to deal with.

i am also struggling with some stupid stuff at school. some is because i am having an odd reaction to normal stuff, (new homework) and some because I am struggling to understand why dd is reading at one level at home and a completely different level at school with no reasonable explanation. i think I am annoyed about the homework because there is less time to persue our own learning at home, following out own interests. i think I am quite rebellious an dlike to do our own thing.

it all feels worse when you are tired and poorly too.

mhd, some of the posters i see about the place sound like they are protesting too much.

grrrr. just crept upstairs to see if he was asleep, thought it was very quiet and couldn't see him standing up playing so was hopeful..... until i went a little further and found him outside the cot playing on the floor. more grrrrrrrrrr

How old is dd again BES? It is hard when they start to get homework and you have to factor it in around everything else. I especially hate it at weekends when I just want us to chill as a family and it gets stressful because dd always kicks off against doing it.

I'm praying for you re your church situation. It must be so hard for you. Is there no one you feel able to trust with the whole story there? It may be a big relief for you to get it out. But even not knowing the story they should respond to requests for help during the service.

I agree with you all btw about certain posters protesting too much. Almost seem like they can't help themselves. Let's get praying, Christian mumsnetters! :)

dd is 5.2 they are supposed to read every night, do their words every night and have a piece of maths homework every friday.this now seems to have turned into a learning log, which is a bit of work they have to produce and looks very time consuming. we also have access visits on a saturday or sunday and sometimes church to fit in. i am also trying to fit in occupational therapy and physiotherapy everyday with dd and speech therapy everyday with ds. plus all the usual single mum stuff.

ds does not allow for us to work uninterrupted unless he is asleep. the maths homework was ok in that it could be used as a spring board to do our own thing at a challenging level for dd. she made negative progress in maths last year as she did not do challenging stuff in school and was too tired to practise at home. I am trying to keep it ticking over this year and make sure she progresses whilst they work out what she can do. and she learns to sit still and get on with what she is supposed to be doing. we missed the homework as she was off school ill, so we learnt about adding 2 digit numbers in her head. (but using fingers and paper at first to show how to do it) i just can't see how we are going to fit it in and have tiem to learn stuff /do stuff that just occurs (she learnt to count back past 0 a couple of weeks ago because she wanted to know what 5-6 was)

she also needs to spend most of her 2 hours without ds playing/computer/watching tv without being beaten up by ds. I don't want all of this time taken up by homework.

DD is only in reception and I arrive 10 mins early in the car for school and always sit in the car to do her key words and books before we go in. I cannot find the time when we get home from school. So it will be interesting in the years ahead as work increases! I feel for you BES

bes, we struggle with keeping up with homework, the twins obviously have the same homework, but to find 2 different answers takes 3 hours each weekend and half an hour every night, then there is my ds1 who is in yr 11...

Prayers for all our little ones at school and us mummies struggling with homework! thats including after school activities which we keep to a minimum of 2 a week.

Twins turn 8yo on Monday, where have all the years gone, hard sorting 2 lots of everything out for the same day, 2 separate parties, although luckily Amber doing Funky Pots with 2 friends and Finlay taking 1 friend to Build-a-Bear, so got away lightly with the costs.

Amber and Sweet, continued prayers for you both

I am going to a SoulCentre atm and its very calming, its a christian meditation group, tell you I don't get to be quiet for 1 minute in the day nevermind a whole hour, I suppose thats what its for, but... not quite sure its for me! I will give it a go though, its all those rumbling tummies I hear! hahaha and the carpet makes my eyes go funny, SHUT YOUR EYES SOOZ! get it! ooh and earplugs

Now BOING!!!!!!!!!!!!!

xxxxxxx

i recognise the doing work with one whilst the other is firmly strapped in the car. it a bit off putting with the screaming though. sometimes we get a bit of peace whilst he decorates himself with a biro. the tiger stripes on his face were particularly impressive!

got dd doing "chicken maths" this morning as we watched the chickens at ds's school. we are there early to get a parking place.

got to go and get ds now. just been to tescos because the teacher has complained about dd's tights falling down. and I have managed to squeeze 2x3 roll packs off loft insulation into the car and get one up 3 flights of stairs and the other up 2 (tis standing in the kitchen) saturdays job will be to put it in the loft.

my arms and legs ache, can't think why! ^^

ds needed a carry too. (it is not quite as bad as the time i carried 12kg rucksack and both the children up the stairs at the same time)

i really feel sorry for the mum who has 4 children in the school trying to tackle these learning logs!

how is your job going sooz?

I play story tapes for DS or he plays peppa pig on her ds whilst I sit with DD.

Sooz the soulcentre thing sounds interesting, let us know how you got on.

Ah BES it sounds like quite a lot of hw for a 5 yr old (in Y1?) I don't know. My dc seem to have a lot but spread more over a week rather than every night. It can be such hard work getting it all done though. Kids need time to relax. I feel for you!

How are you Amber, and Sweet?

Any word on Caz, blue?

I feel a tiny bit better! Which is good as dh can go off on retreat. praise God. I have however heard some news about a good friend this morning which has really gutted and upset me so please will you pray, sorry can't say more :(

I will be praying mhd!

no news on Caz yet...

sweetest how is your mum? is her kidney infection better?

just reading back through and praying and came across this...

blackeyedsusan Tue 20-Sep-11 23:00:18

ginger, it is normal to react badly to school, honest.I spoke to lots of parents when dd started, most said that their child was absolutely awful when they started school. school and nursery both said that it is normal for them to be tired and stroppy when they start. dd reverted to toddler behaviourr and I have a feeling ds will be appalling.

oh how true! he had a humdinger of a tantrum tonight, poor lad is exhausted on his first day back after being ill.

*madhair how are you and how is your mum? thanking God that h got to go on his retreat because you are a bit better.

reading back, caz was due to be induced today.