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My Daughter's 15 minutes of fame - devastated

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BigBessie · 22/10/2023 06:33

I have a daughter in her late 20's. She has set up really successful business and is not only earning a good salary but she mentors and supports younger women to become entrepreneurs.
She was on tv this weekend being interviewed about her lifestyle and how she got there.
It has been shared all over on social media and the comments are horrific. From slating her looks to sexual assault threats.
I have stopped reading the comments but am devastated to read such vitriol regarding my child

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CantFindMyMarbles · 23/10/2023 19:46

Something similar happened to a friend. I read the comments, screenshot them and then emailed their employees (if I could find them) to ask if these comments violated their social media policies and I’d they were proud of employing such gutter rats. I don’t tolerate abusive or threatening behaviour…

ILoveEYFS · 23/10/2023 20:02

BigBessie · 22/10/2023 09:30

I thought of that but it would 'out' me

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It would but you could then name change and become anon again?
Let the mumsnet army work its magic xx

Golightlygoodnight · 23/10/2023 20:05

Its horrific isn’t it? I was on a TV game show earlier this year… and kept refreshing Twitter while my episode was on air. I’d never been called a stuck up c*t once in my life before… but within 5 minutes I almost thought that must be my new name. Couple of rape threats and someone saying I should be shot! I have a very thick skin (thankfully) but even I can’t imagine reading that kind of thing about my own daughter (me - meh!) I’d be broken up :(

Mrsjayy · 23/10/2023 20:11

@Golightlygoodnight my god! 😲

Blanketpolicy · 23/10/2023 20:27

Years ago these arseholes could only sit in their homes and think it. Now they think they can post it anonymously with impunity. And they probably can unless it crosses the line to criminality with threats/hate speech etc.

Sad little men with sad little lives, not worth the headspace.

Hugosauras · 23/10/2023 20:34

If there's one thing that some men abhor, it's a successful woman. Particularly a young successful woman earning more than they do. That said, unfortunately there are a lot of influencers out there and people on social media who completely lie about how much money they make. They all brag but pose with other people's cars or outside expensive houses. As a result your daughter is likely to get tarred with the same brush just by being interviewed on TV, by some people.
The good thing is that she's relatively unbothered. Even better is the fact that she will have pissed off a load of misogynistic old goats by being successful.

Inastatus · 23/10/2023 20:40

@BigBessie - utter utter bastards!! Your DD sounds an amazing young woman and you must be very proud. Ignore them, sad, pathetic lowlifes.

Bouledeneige · 23/10/2023 20:40

I was talking to a woman Labour MP about this phenomenon. She said she never personally goes on social media because women in the public eye are so abused. I have quite a public facing job and I now avoid any comments directed at me personally - they are mostly vile.

I'm sorry for your DD. It's so nasty,

MangoGuavaDelta · 23/10/2023 20:42

Reading this I’m glad I don’t have Fb/X/insta. Is this what it’s like now? That’s horrific.
Well done to your DD on her amazing achievements. At least you can be proud to be her mum. The pathetically sad people who wrote such awful things probably have mums who are completely ashamed of them, or are just as nasty as them. I fear for the future of humanity, I really do.

Treesinmygarden · 23/10/2023 21:01

Years ago, a friend noted that social media became a cesspit when it became available to the masses. I have to agree. Just look around you at the types of people there are in society and now the internet/social media gives them all a voice.

It's up to you whether or not you choose to listen to them.

I think that you, as her mummy, should avoid all the crap, but that someone trusted should monitor this, reporting anything they perceive to be a threat to the police.

It shouldn't have to be like this. We should celebrate success. Unfortunately society/social media has given a platform to men with hardly a brain cell and (no doubt) an equally inadequate penis, and their female counterparts.

I hope your DD can maintain her sanguine attitude, and that you can avoid the upset of it x

Gandalfsthong · 23/10/2023 21:06

Don’t let those hideous comments take away from your daughters achievements; you must feel very proud.

Very easy for people to spout hatred anonymously. We can’t let the fuckers win; I really hope she realises it’s likely jealousy on their part. Hate this part of the world my kids are growing up in 💐

Lelly12 · 23/10/2023 21:08

What is this world coming to , horrible best thing not to read , I feel for you xx

Dibbydoos · 23/10/2023 21:24

Well done to your DD @BigBessie

There are few role models for young women so I'm applauding her from afar.

As the song goes 'haters are gonna hate' their behaviour is on them not your DD. Noone except them can do anything about their petty little lives and they can do nothing to yours or your DDs fabulousness.

Lifeomars · 23/10/2023 21:29

She sounds inspirational and a real credit to you, you must be so proud of her. I am regularly horrified at what people post online, the spite, the viciousness, the hatred and contempt for women is especially troubling. Twitter/X was always a bit of a cess pit but since Musk bought it, the stuff on there is often stomach churning. Even the website of my local newspaper is a swamp of misogny, racism and general hatred. I regularly report stuff but you just see people just adopting another online identity ( can usually tell it's them as they tend to use the same sort of language to say the same sort of rubbish) and on it goes. The bottom line is that pathetic people who have very little going for them in the real world can feel that they have some sort of power. I actually pity those who behave in this way but i am really aware of just how distressing their words can be . In pre-internet days they would have had to sit at the table with a newspaper, scissors and glue to create a poison pen letter but now they can just log on and let the hatred flow.

ChicagoBears · 23/10/2023 21:30

So sorry OP but congrats your DD is so amazing and has achieved so much. I would recommend not looking, people these days are vicious for absolutely no reason, likely jealously.

Lifeomars · 23/10/2023 21:33

Bouledeneige · 23/10/2023 20:40

I was talking to a woman Labour MP about this phenomenon. She said she never personally goes on social media because women in the public eye are so abused. I have quite a public facing job and I now avoid any comments directed at me personally - they are mostly vile.

I'm sorry for your DD. It's so nasty,

I follow my MP on Twitter and the abuse she gets is truly stomach churning, I know that all MPs will get abuse and I am not minimising this but the things that are said to the female ones are something else.

ACGTHelix · 23/10/2023 21:34

look at the various comments on mumsnet etc society as a whole is very odd at times

GreenVelvetCushions · 23/10/2023 21:37

It's disgusting misogyny! Well done to your daughter op 👏👏👏

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 23/10/2023 21:38

Did you see some of the comments after the women's world cup? Similar to what you've described. Some men just can't bear to see a successful woman. Seriously, don't give them any headspace. Women have always had to fight a bit harder and your DD has done really well for herself. I hope she can ignore these comments too. It's as if some old drunk had come up to you on the street and given you his opinion - would you take it seriously? But these people are worse, because they hide behind their screens.

Crumpleton · 23/10/2023 21:39

There is something seriously wrong with these type of people, it really does say much more about them than your daughter. I can only imagine how hard it is for you to read these vicious comment.

Jealousy is a disease and some people are Riddled with it.

BretonBlue · 23/10/2023 21:44

Your daughter sounds brilliant, OP.

A really good friend of mine was on Masterchef years ago and received appalling abuse about their appearance. Never ever read the comments. There are some very nasty, damaged people there.

ilovesushi · 23/10/2023 21:46

I'm so sorry OP that is awful. Your daughter sounds amazing and it is shocking to receive hateful unprovoked comments from complete strangers. I am glad you have had a positive response to her achievements on mumsnet to counterbalance the nastiness. She sounds like an incredible and inspiring young woman. Good luck to her!

Whatabouterry · 23/10/2023 21:54

Brene Brown said something that has stuck with me about this kind of abuse. - ‘If you’re not also in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback’.

I love this. It’s so easy for people to be critical, but if they're just throwing cheap shots from the sidelines and not in the middle of it all doing the hard work, then their opinions count for nothing.

Indiseven · 23/10/2023 22:05

Some wonderful comments on this thread, I feel strengthened and empowered just by reading them.

OP you must be so proud of your inspirational daughter, you’ve obviously done a brilliant job bringing her up.

I’ve come off all social media except for Mumsnet for all the reasons described above. There can occasionally be cruelty on here, but also an astonishing amount of support as demonstrated on this thread.

Good luck to both you and your amazing daughter!

TheGander · 23/10/2023 22:33

Just glad I’m not on social media. Anyone else remember back to the 80s and 90s posters on the underground featuring women were regularly defaced with penises drawn entering mouths, necks with cutting tracks on them etc. I used to wonder who the sad, misogynistic losers were who felt compelled to do that . Looks like they’ve all moved online. Maybe also there are more of them about these days 🙁.