My Daughter's 15 minutes of fame - devastated

[BigBessie]

I have a daughter in her late 20's. She has set up really successful business and is not only earning a good salary but she mentors and supports younger women to become entrepreneurs.
She was on tv this weekend being interviewed about her lifestyle and how she got there.
It has been shared all over on social media and the comments are horrific. From slating her looks to sexual assault threats.
I have stopped reading the comments but am devastated to read such vitriol regarding my child

Your daughter is brilliant and these people are losers. Can you imagine what sort of person you'd be to make those sort of comments or even feel hostility towards someone who has not only done well for themselves but is trying to help others do well too? They're utterly pathetic.

You daughter sounds amazing!!!! ⭐You must be super proud. And in a twisted way if she can see the cowardly vitriol coming from these scum of the earth men as a total
compliment….!! As their jealousy & hatred is purely derived from their recognition and fear that she is an incredible women and has achieved more than they ever could. Reminds them of their short comings and they are threatened. No one happy and content behaves that way. The internet facilitates them unfortunately and it’s the world we live in. So if she can flip this into a massive positive- great!.

It's easier to try to pull someone down to their level than to attempt to raise themselves up. Congratulations to your daughter - tell her to ignore and / or report the trolls, and carry on being a confident successful daughter raised by an awesome mum.

They say never read the comments if you’re some what successful.

I follow celebs like the kardashians and I can completely see why they have such insecurities about their looks, even though they’re constantly voted the sexiest women alive.

The comments are honestly vile and I don’t understand how it’s still allowed.

There needs to be some sort of screening, where nasty comments are removed.

Too many young people have awful lives because of online bullying.

And it’s not just females.
There was a group of men on holiday and the photo was shared all across the world and had vile comments and memes about them.
They spoke about it and said they had to move because they were getting death threats and people turning up to their homes.
They literally just took a non offensive photo on holiday and the internet got whipped up into a frenzy by pack mentality.

Absolutely disgusting. What is wrong with people? It needs to stop.

Men should call each other out too.

I really apprciate every single one of these comments and I will show them all to my daughter.
A massive thankyou from the bottom of my heart. Truly x

Your DD sounds fabulous, Op. Congratulations on raising such an accomplished young woman.

Stuff the nasty comments. Pure jealousy and insecurity.

How horrible for your and your DD, OP. Unfortunately there are a lot of people around who delight in doing stuff like this. If you need business interaction with media/social media and if any of that shows someone personally then unfortunately you need a thick skin and ignore it. I assume it's the element of not meeting, because people wouldn't be like this if you met them in a shop for example.

A lot of men are sitting in their parents house having their laundry and cooking done by mummy and feel ashamed and embarrassed. It’s easier for them to take it out on women online than it is for them to address their own failures. They perk up again when they’re out in their leased BMW’s roaming the streets but when sitting at home, the shame often comes out in anger online. Sad really. Well done to your daughter, I hope she doesn’t read the comments,

Can you do something to celebrate your daughters success? It's absolutely appalling what has gone on but I wonder if your daughter could capitalise on the trolling / abuse to gain more publicity for her business? Maybe a follow up article or something?

Congratulations to your daughter. Unfortunately being successful brings with it a whole host of opinions. I’m eternally grateful that sm was not around when I was in the early stages of my career, I’m sure that it would have encouraged unnecessary and negative feedback. Fortunately, face to face, people are more guarded, but still disparaging at times. You grow a thick skin though.
My only concern in your post is the use of the word haters. It is used extensively in the MLM world to encourage people drawn into this world to ignore and disengage from friends, family and possibly wiser people. Vulnerable women are drawn into MLMs by the promise of untold wealth which for 99% is unattainable.
The level of negative interaction your DD is receiving may be more to do with the business she is in rather than her personally.
I’m afraid if she is involved in “coaching” particularly associated with MLM ( often mindset) she will get a grilling, and rightly so.

Your DD’s “crimes”: 1. out of the commenters’ league, 2. earns a lot more than them as a female (emasculating) and 3. helping other young women to earn lots of money and therefore to become even more out of the league of ‘men’ like the commenters.

The incels are bonding by tearing her down to try to bring her closer to their own league and explain why she is so much more successful than them (must be on Only Fans which they couldn’t do because, frankly, who would want to look at that? 🤮).

If you could see the men making the comments lined up in a room you'd see how pathetic they are.

For many people, internet trolling is seen as a bit of harmless fun - saying outrageous things they'd never actually dream of saying to people's faces.

I know it's upsetting, but I'd just stop reading, and encourage your DD to do the same.

Please do

We all think she's amazing 💐

My girls are younger but I'd be so proud if they did what your girl does. I bring them up to empower themselves and other women

I wouldn't, OP. This isn't a safe place either. Women can be just as jealous and spiteful.

Sorry your daughter has seen any of this, women ought to be able to strive and achieve without censure from anybody. I like the quote from PP about it being 'their words and not to carry them yourself'. It's difficult to ignore and it must be awful for you.

My comments are assuming this is a genuine business helping female entrepreneurs and not a MLM as a PP suggested. If it is a MLM, then she loses some of the moral highground (although this would still NEVER justify making cruel and sexually charged comments towards your poor DD).

Personally I wouldn't worry, she is laughing all the way to the bank. Amazing achievement and good to her and well done to you obviously raised a child right. Sit back. Relax and celebrate your child's success and ignore the haters they don't even know her

I work in PR supporting female entrepreneurs. One of the first things we advise them of is to not read the comments.

I advise you the same.

Sadly publicity and success attracts trolls, and the audience who will have benefited and will work with your daughter probably won't comment.

The kudos of the TV appearance and being able to showcase that on her own visibility channels is worth it as long as the comments stay unread.

Oh god, I wouldn’t give a flying fuck what a load of small-knobbed incels who can’t get a girlfriend rhapsodise about on the anonymous internet.

You can bet in real life they are just as ugly and warped as their nasty words.

Ignore and move on. Many men hate successful, confident women.

Well done to your dd btw - she sounds amazing - and you for raising her.

SM at it's worst.
What is wrong with large swathes of our communities? Small minded, jealous, frustrated with their own lives, keyboard warriors…

Horrid. Your daughter sounds amazing!

Locally we have had a multi million pound investment in a beautiful new venue. A customer posted a picture of the breakfast The vitriol about it - cost, cooking, tableware, decor, staff, etc etc. is horrific. No wonder hospitality is difficult to staff. Apparently ‘we’ would all be far better eating in Morrisons or Whetherspoons!

Pop the link on - let's fill it with positive comments

Yes!!

Or if you don't want to do that you can direct message me and I'll add my lone voice.

Your daughter sounds strong and impressive. Screw the haters :)

This is great - will remember this in future.

Op, your DD sounds amazing. We need more like her. Agree with all the other comments on here about ignoring the misogynistic wankers.