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My Daughter's 15 minutes of fame - devastated

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BigBessie · 22/10/2023 06:33

I have a daughter in her late 20's. She has set up really successful business and is not only earning a good salary but she mentors and supports younger women to become entrepreneurs.
She was on tv this weekend being interviewed about her lifestyle and how she got there.
It has been shared all over on social media and the comments are horrific. From slating her looks to sexual assault threats.
I have stopped reading the comments but am devastated to read such vitriol regarding my child

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Mytholmroyd · 22/10/2023 11:53

Queucumber · 22/10/2023 10:03

Hahaha - yes - I was asked a couple of years ago to appear on the Christmas edition of University Challenge for my old university. No way! I have been on a few television programmes as a talking head (which nobody but enthusiasts would watch) but this would be just asking for trouble and I cannot think of anything I would hate more than to be in the media like that.

OP - I feel for you - it must be so much harder when it is your child. But she is doing great and making a wonderful contribution to society - you must be so proud!

WeighDownOnMeStayTillMorning · 22/10/2023 12:09

BigBessie · 22/10/2023 07:03

A lot of the comments are from men saying that she "obviously" does Only Fans to be earning that kind of salary. Yet further saying she is ugly.

This is such basic male misogynistic bullshit.

You're too hot to be actually successful. But you're too ugly for my timeline.

They hate and fear smart beautiful women because they know deep down they're losers.

It's not about her. It's most definitely not about her. It's a sad eye-opener but absolutely do not take it to heart.

NalafromtheLionKing · 22/10/2023 12:10

Mytholmroyd · 22/10/2023 11:53

Hahaha - yes - I was asked a couple of years ago to appear on the Christmas edition of University Challenge for my old university. No way! I have been on a few television programmes as a talking head (which nobody but enthusiasts would watch) but this would be just asking for trouble and I cannot think of anything I would hate more than to be in the media like that.

OP - I feel for you - it must be so much harder when it is your child. But she is doing great and making a wonderful contribution to society - you must be so proud!

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That article is so sad. It should be a crime (actually followed up by the police) to make such loathsome comments online.

Mytholmroyd · 22/10/2023 12:17

Sorry @NalafromtheLionKing I didn't intend to be insensitive or inappropriate - yes it is awful how people are treated and I know I couldn't deal with either. I was laughing darkly at the people asking me to do it as if it bore no adverse consequences. The world is often a shitty place and some people truly dreadful.

theduchessofspork · 22/10/2023 12:22

I work in the media and it’s a constant issue for all women who dare to put themselves in the public eye. It’s horrible. It’s a lot of sad men (and a few women) who hate their own lives and want to shoot down anyone successful.

However, you do have to remember that the silent majority would have enjoyed the piece. You just have to ignore the rest. It’s not personal. Obviously report what you can.

Well done to your daughter for doing so well. I’m sure a bunch of young women were inspired by it and that’s what matters.

RantyAnty · 22/10/2023 12:22

This happens to most celebrities, especially women.

I suggest not reading comments. Never respond.

It's terrible but there are so many disturbed and jealous people in the world.

icelollycraving · 22/10/2023 12:29

The internet gives a platform for us to see success and joy, but more often to see spite, jealousy and misogyny.
I completely sympathise that these low lives can only see her as a sexual being, and that has taken the shine off her moment.
She should take it as confirmation that she IS better than them, that she is a well rounded, intelligent, driven person that they feel threatened by and they aren’t worth her headspace.
Report any comments that are over the line, or get someone to do it for you. Maybe we should flood the comments with praise for her, happy to do so if you would like (I haven’t read the thread so sorry if I’m suggesting something not wanted)

DarkDarkNight · 22/10/2023 12:39

It’s awful, anonymous people behind screens getting away with saying things they would never say to people’s face. Jealous women and misogynistic men. I hope she can see it for what it is and ignore.

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BigBessie · 22/10/2023 16:02

For those whom have accused her in these comments of being in a MLM, she isn't. It's a business she started herself from scratch, using her degree.
Despite hating MLMs myself, she still wouldn't deserve the abuse she is getting

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obja · 23/10/2023 07:59

People can be ruthless, rude and uncouth on the internet. It's part and parcel of raising one's profile publicly online. It's expected. This is what separates a winning mindset from a losing one. As your DD is a successful businesswoman so she will understand all of this and will be well-versed about online naysayers (as will you being here on MN). It's just Tall Poppy Syndrome at work that's entrenched in British, Scandinavian and Australian culture. Ignore it and be proud that your DC is a winner.
Enjoy all of those outings, dinners and holidays she'll take you on.

Pccleaner · 23/10/2023 08:04

Don’t read the comments. Be happy for her and her success. Realise how jealous people can get and how far they will go.

fwiw I try to always exude positivity and support other women. It’s not everyone who is like this. Don’t ever believe that.

dressedforcomfort · 23/10/2023 08:16

I'd report the people making sexual threats to the police personally. It's never OK to do this and people need to show these vicious little shits no tolerance.

cramzid · 23/10/2023 09:57

Reading some of these supportive comments are hugely empowering, now more then ever women really do need to stick together. There has been a huge hike in digital misogyny, sadly down to tech giants not moderating these platforms. Just know, the majority of like-minded women support your daughter and her success, and do try to embrace the moment and celebrate her journey.

DeathRattleDazzle · 23/10/2023 09:59

fwiw I try to always exude positivity and support other women. It’s not everyone who is like this. Don’t ever believe that

Same, no matter what I try my best never to tear others down, male or female but I make a special effort for women. It's made me a better person to actively think about raising others up, now it comes more naturally.

Brightredglass · 23/10/2023 10:08

As Debbie Harry once sang "I'll take the money, you can have the fame".

Glad she's rising above it OP

Cumbrianlife · 23/10/2023 10:11

Sad incels sitting in their parent's home jealous of the success of your amazing daughter. Don't let them dent your DD's achievements.

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 23/10/2023 10:47

Never read the comments.
i had a friend who has done quite a bit of tv, the comments were vile. Absolutely vile. She’s one of the nicest, kindest people, she’s also one of those stunning people who people stop and stare at when your out with.

it is them not your daughter. Honestly, they say it for the sake of saying something. It’s things like that, that make me think the internet should not be anonymous. They wouldn’t say it in real life.

RantyAnty · 23/10/2023 11:36

cramzid · 23/10/2023 09:57

Reading some of these supportive comments are hugely empowering, now more then ever women really do need to stick together. There has been a huge hike in digital misogyny, sadly down to tech giants not moderating these platforms. Just know, the majority of like-minded women support your daughter and her success, and do try to embrace the moment and celebrate her journey.

Their algorithms encourage it.

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 23/10/2023 11:47

RantyAnty · 23/10/2023 11:36

Their algorithms encourage it.

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I was talking to my teens about that yesterday. They create dangerous echo chambers that feed hate, you don’t get a balanced view.
and then become disillusioned with any balanced view as being biased.
it’s so dangerous

Ariela · 23/10/2023 12:35

I have every admiration for your daughter. Being twice her age it's something I really regret not doing instead of hovering round the edges lacking confidence to start anything. Missed my calling.

Echobelly · 23/10/2023 14:05

Just remember, she's winning at life, these people are showing what pathetic losers they are. She can hold her head up high knowing she's pissed such people off by being a successful woman.

Fumblebug · 23/10/2023 18:08

I’m really sorry that’s happened OP, and I suspect many of those comments are from kids/teens or inadequate adults. But just look at all the supportive comments you’ve received here, if you want proof that there is much good in the world too. Best of luck to your daughter. Let these comments be her, and your, abiding memories.

changeme4this · 23/10/2023 19:05

People can be pigs on SM. It’s a platform to host voices but some of them really should never see the light of day.

im admin for a small rural community page which generally hosts community events and news type articles.

So Over being attacked because of being admin and people making up untruths (ie admin block freedoms of speech or articles the govt doesn’t want the public to see type comments when no such posts have been received or removed and we certainly have no control over the forum bots doing their thing).

It’s given me a new respect for anyone who sticks their neck out in public for the greater good such as representing community or population at elections or on council.

we intend to retire elsewhere in a couple of years and I wouldn’t do the job again.

Kerensa70 · 23/10/2023 19:35

This makes me so sad and mad too. My daughter has a job in London where she has/opportunity to sometimes appear on TV but has dodged it so far as she’s so nervous on how she’ll be received, esp on social media. When she has the kindest heart too. What have we done to young women ? Knocking their confidence so much. They should be so celebrated. I’m so sorry for your daughter, she must dig deep and be grateful she’s not a hateful person ❤️

MumTeacherofMany · 23/10/2023 19:40

Jealous a*seholes!! Your daughter sounds absolutely amazing!!

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