Does any over 50s feel like this?

[ssd]

I guess im just tired. Not physically, im fine that way. But more mentally.
Im tired with bothering about the house, the housework, the food shopping, whats for dinner etcetera.
Ive done all the bothering for years and i guess im out of bother!!
I was reading the threads about what are you up to today and i love them, but its mainly thinking about what to cook for the family and sorting stuff out. Maybe they are all younger than me. My kids are grown but one still at home. He can cook but im aware theres veg needs turning into soup lying in the fridge and chicken needing used and frankly i cant be arsed.
Id eat toast for the rest of my life and it wouldn't bother me.
And dh can see to himself.
I once read on here about a poster saying she'd like to just be an old car sitting at the window staring out.
That's exactly how i feel.
My enjoyment at keeping house has gone.
Anyone else?

I think you were quite clear. No matter how nice the men in your life, there's still the mental load and support human work to be done. It is reasonable to be burnt out. I only work part time and from home, and am still burnt out.

DS is a lovely human being. But even lovely human beings ask " what's for dinner' sometimes! DH has been trained and knows not to ask.

Exactly, I don't think anyone's in LTB territory, just "fuck off world and leave me alone" (or us alone) in a nice cottage by the sea / camper van / glorious city apartment (delete as applicable).

Yes exactly

I do a lot of solo travel. Went to Greece in December and now planning another trip. Also go out a lot on my own to gigs, theatre or just sitting in a cafe. I used to try to persuade family to go, but now I CBA with all the admin that requires!

Sounds fab @Lentilweaver , where are you planning to go next? I'm mulling how to satisfy my desire to travel with the fact that DH, who would want to come too, is in a wheelchair, which makes travel extremely stressful and hard work for me. In the spirit of selfishness I should just go, but in the spirit of consideration I need to find the kind of compromise I would want if the situation were reversed.

Dh does all the cooking in my house, so I am ok.

In the book it talks about the ability to discuss the system rather than the males you live with.

Im not talking here about the males I live with. I don’t hate men 😂

It’s the system I hate. The way everything is set up - society (still very much patriarchal) so that women bear the brunt of it all.

Great thread and yes to a pp who said its the mental load of planning and organising everything for everyone all the bloody time!
Even on "holiday" its what are we doing today? Where are we going? Where are we eating?

How the fuck do I know? I havent been here before either

Both dds in their 30s and not a grandchild in sight. Thank fuck.

@ssd your sentence 'I just want to read my book in peace' made me almost shout EXACTLY..ME TOO.
On average I probably manage less than a page before "mum/ Mrs Shadypines have you seen (insert object that doesn't belong to me and I've not touched that I am supposed to magically know the whereabouts of like Mystic bloody Meg) ?
For this reason alone I dream of a sound proof lockable room, comfy sofa and a kettle😀