Does any over 50s feel like this?

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I guess im just tired. Not physically, im fine that way. But more mentally.
Im tired with bothering about the house, the housework, the food shopping, whats for dinner etcetera.
Ive done all the bothering for years and i guess im out of bother!!
I was reading the threads about what are you up to today and i love them, but its mainly thinking about what to cook for the family and sorting stuff out. Maybe they are all younger than me. My kids are grown but one still at home. He can cook but im aware theres veg needs turning into soup lying in the fridge and chicken needing used and frankly i cant be arsed.
Id eat toast for the rest of my life and it wouldn't bother me.
And dh can see to himself.
I once read on here about a poster saying she'd like to just be an old car sitting at the window staring out.
That's exactly how i feel.
My enjoyment at keeping house has gone.
Anyone else?

Ive got plenty enthusiasm for life.
But none left for the domestic chores.

Stop doing as much of them then - ensure others do their fair share, lower your standards

It's not just you OP.

I'm also tired. But if I said I was tired someone would tell me to go lie down, but it's not that type of tired. It's a mental tired.

30 odd years of having to cope with everything, plan every meal, do the damn shopping for those meals, juggling bills etc etc. I raised two DC alone so I just dealt and coped as I had to.

But I'm fed up now. I want to just lay on the couch and watch every episode of Happy Valley without having to have any other thoughts pop into my head of things I need to do.

Last year during a particularly busy month of all sorts going on, I decided that I was going to test out having a meal delivery service every week day. A meals on wheels type things. It was a test as I wanted to see how much it also saved me in buying things we didn't need at the shop as I wasn't having to buy for supper every day.

It worked well, it was a lovely break. But I decided one month was long enough as there were a few downsides to it too.

I'm not in UK so I'm not sure if you have this type of service around, but it was what I needed at the time. Not having to think of one meal to make, nor make it, for a whole month was sheer bliss.

This sums it up.

It's the constant years of doing everything that needs doing, while everyone else in the house is doing what they want to do.
I'm over looking after everyone else.
They are adults and can sort their own stuff out

The mistake you make is listening to the hardwiring that you’ve grown up with that you’re responsible for the cooking, cleaning and bottle washing. The reason your husband won’t make those veg into soup is because he doesn’t see it as his role. You do.

I’m in my 50s and I resentfully cooked for my kids when they were younger but as soon as they turned 14/15 and were capable of feeding themselves I clocked off. No woman is born into domestic slavery and it frustrates me that women so easily enslave themselves into it and then wonder why they’re depressed and unfulfilled.

Adopt a male socialised mindset. Live for yourself and then you can bestow domestic bounty on your family like a gift. I do and this is why my family gratefully thank me each if and when I cook for a rare family gathering.

Yes, am over it too.

This is the "You" time of your life! 50s are the best - decide what you want to do with the next 20 years, and go for it! You are you now, the finished product, everyone else can take it or leave it, just enjoy

I stopped cooking on a regular basis after my mother died, last year, DH and I are not overly bothered by food these days, yesterday I had plans to do a bolognese, but well you know wall to wall rugby, 😂we ended up with Sainsburys olive ciabatta bread and Camembert and watched crap tv for the rest of the evening. Win/Win😋

Yup hate meal planning, shopping, cooking, clearing up. Hate it. Always have.
I hardly clean. I do laundry which I don't despise but that's about it.
Once all my kids leave I shall just stop. Cooking that is.

I've found my tribe! I detest food shopping / keeping house and yet it hangs over me. I had to do five hours cleaning like a demon yesterday as had guests and just haven't been arsed to do much apart from the kitchen & loos for the last couple of weeks. It was a good workout though! I basically need a new job and a cleaner. And HRT (I'm 50).

Me too I'm over buying, preparing and cooking food. Live with two adult autistic children with restrictive diets so now just cook according to their likes and have beans on toast or soup if I don't want what they eat and seems to have cut the workload considerably.
Housework not too bad had a large family and a useless husband so since all the others left including the ex husband and I decluttered ruthlessly it's easily sorted in comparison to what used to need doing.
Today it's just me and dd as ds has gone to exh's, made bacon sandwich for breakfast and have M&S ready meals for later that's about the limit of my interest in food tbh

Yes, me too !
I like having a clean house and a full fridge, but can’t be bothered doing it now.
I feel bad for not wanting to do anything, but I’d happily potter around my house and garden, with the occasional dog walk thrown in. But then I wonder if it’s a waste of life 🤔

This is a perfectly normal condition for a woman your age - you have no more fucks to give 😂

I do a meal plan for the week based on the preferences of who is currently in the family home, I check the fridge and cupboards for what we have and write the shopping list of what we need.

I have now done this for more than 1000 weeks. I lost any motivation, interest or inclination approximately 600 weeks ago.

We still have 3-5 adults sharing family meals, depending on who is where. I have tried allocating each person one meal per week, this works partially but still leaves me as the coordinator.

I would be happy never to plan another meal in my life.

I plan to resign from the role effective from the day of the youngest's final A-level exam.

I absolutely agree with everything you’ve written OP - so fed up of cooking, of cleaning, of doing the gardening, of bothering generally. I don’t gaf about much really - I deal with house stuff, I deal with family dramas and I go to work and I deal with everyone’s issues there. Sometimes I feel like saying ‘ffs, work it out for yourself’ but I bite my tongue and dream about the day that the dog and I will move to a remote cottage and not tell anyone.

Yes totally bored by it all ... particularly meal times, and it's not even about getting my DH to cook ..he will happily cook but I don't want to eat the sort of meals he cooks, I just want to cook my own meal and eat alone ....if I am honest I am just bored of family life ... very happy being on my own and just pleasing myself . Thank goodness DH out at golf all afternoon and I can lie on the sofa with a good book. So sick of compromising all the time .....

We need to build many remote cottages, as it seems a lot of us want one !

I wasn't very domesticated before DC but I did go full on earth mother and baked, cooked from scratch and batch cooked for 20 years.
Once they were both off to uni I bought ready meals and we ate a lot of beans on toast.
Over the 7 years since then I've moved back into cooking a bit.

I'm with you, if I could replace all meals with a magic pill I'd do it, even if it meant foregoing delicious food and meals out.

I've got two teenagers, one fussy one not. I make one meal a day other than that they fend for themselves. Just can't stand it anymore

You sound like you should take yourself on holiday. You have looked after everybody else it's time for you

I think it’s normal to have lost interest in keeping house having done it for years (if you ever had it at all).

It just sounds to me that you need to embrace the next life stage to get your energy back, which might mean downsizing the house, getting a new job, whatever. It’s worth looking at HRT, but it’s changes that you really need to make.

I’ve got the opportunity to jack work in. I’m only 48.

I want to potter. Retrain, maybe. Stare out of windows. Read books, covered in dogs.

Should I?

No. I love going out. We are a long time dead