Chair confiscated of 6yo at school

[Eyreofindifference]

My DS was upset at bed time last night, he said he felt embarrassed at school. He swung on his chair, and was reminded not to, swung again, another reminder, and later in the day swung a third time and then his chair was taken away for the rest of the afternoon. He said he had to stand to do his writing at his desk for his science lesson. He felt embarrassed, some of the children were laughing at him and finding it entertaining.

I’m a teacher myself, secondary rather than primary, and I know that children will have consequences for poor behaviour.

DS is only six though, he was forgetting and leaning back in his chair. Do you think it’s worth raising with the school or just leaving it? I don’t like the thought of him feeling embarrassed or ‘on the spot’. For some more context, we had parents evening earlier this week and his teacher didn’t raise any behavioural issues. We did, however, discuss how anxious DS can get when he feels like attention is on him, and his teacher thought that perhaps encouraging him to read out loud in the lessons would support him to overcome this, as she also had recognised that he gets upset if he feels like eyes are on him.

Would you mention anything to the school?

This teacher absolutely nailed it with this consequence. Relevant , appropriate, direct consequence related to the behaviour.

Those ‘annoying’ ‘naughty’ ‘disruptive’ ‘violent’ kids most likely have other problems, no child wants to be naughty and disliked must children aged 6 want friends and want praise! They most likely are very unhappy or have addition needs and as a society we should help them not single them out.

There’s very annoying adults and violent adults
So why can’t they have been annoying and violent as kids?

If they are putting others at risk of physical harm - then yes, they will be singled out.

Of course but ‘annoying’ ‘naughty’ and ‘ ‘disruptive’ children aren’t hurting anyone.

you said “violent” in other post
and this child (the one we’re discussing) did pose a potential physical risk of harm to others

Interesting how many people commenting here believe a child is balancing a chair on two legs because they deliberately want to.

From experience you often don’t know you are doing it until a teacher mentions it.

So its a bit comical reading all the righteous advice on here.

He’s not being ‘bad’ but he is being unsafe. For what it’s worth. I teach this age group and in this situation I move children to the carpet area instead. However, I’m lucky enough to have a carpet area. Standing is no different.

He “swung” on it.
I wonder what that looks like in practise

Would it be better to let the children fall over and crack their heads open, @springintospring26? @Eyreofindifference‘s child had already been reminded twice that day not to tip his chair, and yet was still doing it - I think what the teacher did was reasonable.

”Swung” is a stupid description. There is no swinging involved at all.

A child simply leans back and the front two legs of the chair lift off the floor. The child can get the chair into a state of balance on the two back legs so only a slight touch on some solid is required to sustain the position.
It’s an unconscious things that the kids do and for some, no amount of “discipline” (to use an obsolete term) will make a difference.

I made a simple device that attached to one of the front chairlegs, buzzed when it lifted.
It didn’t stop the child starting to do it, but it did stop them keeping it in that balanced state.

How many more people are going to rock up and say 'would you rather he fell and cracked his head open?'

It's all a bit 'cancel the cheque'

So you are saying the the OP was “stupid” to use that word?

No.
I didn’t say that at all.
What I did say you can clearly read in my comment.

What you choose to infer is down to you.

You said it is a stupid description

The Op uses the word

”swung”

Which means OP used a stupid description.

It doesn’t mean the OP is stupid.

Stop trying to stir it.

So respect the Op using the word and obviously thinking it relevant

You obvious just want to start an argument.
Well you’ve chosen the wrong person because I’m not interested.

bye.

Ok, bye?

Thankful the OP says she agrees with those of us saying that this was appropriate and so not to say anything

I was mentioned to him three times? How many times should he have been told before he got consequences? 😂