Should my husband call his daughter during our honeymoon abroad?

[Luxe50]

We are on our honeymoon in Corfu. 9 year old step daughter is on holiday in Mauritius with her mum who has asked for a brief call for our step-daughter. My question is whilst this doesn’t really bother me, should step daughter be able to manage without a call for a week (we only left on Saturday). Is this about my husband’s ex partner wanting to interrupt our break. Or am I reading to much into it, I don’t have children so appreciate I may not have the best perspective on holidays and what is usual.

My biological dad was extremely violent and aggressive and also a drinker, should these types of marraiges keep going for the children?

How likely is it that two adults who don’t like eachother and aren’t happy would be realistically able to maintain a polite and courteous house while forced to live together possibly in the same room or camping in the living room for the next decade?

They should but they don’t always.
My parents tried to hide the arguments and the atmosphere but I was perceptive enough to know they were miserable. I could also hear the arguments at night.

Please stop dismissing other people experiences.

Again, for those in the back row: what I said does not apply to families with violent/abusive/otherwise dangerous members. Should have probably used capital letters.

Happier parents are better parents.

Or just stop. You’re not the authority on other people’s lives.

Please don't be that type of stepmum. You knew full well he comes with a young child when you agreed to marry him.

I think the question should be could a grown ass adult be able to do without her husband on holiday for 10 minutes for him to speak to his 9 yr old child ?

That isn't the case, marriage is a union where two people become one, which is specially set apart and bears no comparison to any other relationship. And there is absolutely no reason why that means he should not talk with his young daughter while on honeymoon. There is literally no conflict of interest here, or even any way to manufacture one. I called my mother-in-law for a chat during my honeymoon and it didn't ruin the experience.

No, a 9 year old shouldn’t ’be able to’ nor be expected to go a whole week without speaking to a parent. Hope that helps and shocked you need to ask.

No, good, responsible parents are better parents!

The only thing we know here is that the child has a stepmother who doesn’t understand parenting, but we know nothing about why or how the previous relationship ended. There’s 0 information given for anyone to assume the man ran off, moved on, ditched his child etc etc etc.

Why do you assume happy equals bad and irresponsible?

Sounds like there’s a whole load of projection going on here.

Even on honeymoon is there really not ten mins every couple of days where your husband can check in with his child, while you have a shower / nap / sunbathe?

I’m sorry but you will change your tune if or when you have your own kids. I wouldn’t go a couple of days without speaking to mine and neither would their dad.

Never said it did, it just does not automatically follow, that is all. However, when you say 'happy parents', clearly happy comes first, since you did not say good and responsible. It also depends what they derive their happiness from, some parents may derive their happiness from things, totally at odds with the best interest of children - like finding a new boyfriend, or girlfriend, with children and moving them in.

Does he go a week without speaking to her normally?
That’s not good.
Not nice if you either to complain.

Jesus. Because I said happy parents are better than miserable parents you assumed I don’t also think parents need to be responsible?

For the record, I think parents need to be responsible and prioritise their children. However, I think they also have a right to be happy. I think it’s better to responsible and happy than responsible and miserable.

The idea that two people become one is substantially undermined in this case by the OP being a second wife.

Seriously? Of course he should call her... FFS girl, get a grip!

@Luxe50 , this and you’d better get used to it.

Went from a phone call once a week will ruin my holiday to I’ve an excellent relationship and mind the child half of the time quite quickly.

FFS. Extreme pettiness. She's 9!!!

If you cared for then isn't this even more of a reason that you would want to hear from her as well.

But you don't want her to ring him for a week? Good luck.