Should my husband call his daughter during our honeymoon abroad?

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We are on our honeymoon in Corfu. 9 year old step daughter is on holiday in Mauritius with her mum who has asked for a brief call for our step-daughter. My question is whilst this doesn’t really bother me, should step daughter be able to manage without a call for a week (we only left on Saturday). Is this about my husband’s ex partner wanting to interrupt our break. Or am I reading to much into it, I don’t have children so appreciate I may not have the best perspective on holidays and what is usual.

You're definitley reading way too much into this. I can't imagine going a whole day without speaking to my children never mind a week

What the heck?

• of course he can speak to his daughter, anytime
• he should speak to her anytime if she would like to or needs to
• I'd be judging my new husband if he didn't want to speak to his child
• no his ex is not trying to disrupt your honeymoon
• if you try and drive a wedge between your husband and his child it won't end well

It clearly does bother you though, why? Because this doesn't bode well for the marriage, to even think it's about his ex wanting to disturb you is ridiculous.

It should really be every day. I couldn't go a week without speaking to my kids when they were young.

Surely you don't mind a few minutes OP?

This is such a smug post. Who knows if his dd is ‘most important person in the world to him’? Certainly not anyone on this thread. It’s also a pathetic way to look at relationships. I am a mum, wife, daughter, stepmother, sister, cousins, niece and friend. Do I have to say my bio kids are ‘the MOST important’ of my relationships in order to be a valid person? Can we not have many important relationships? Obviously the parent-child relationship is a unique one, but it doesn’t eclipse all else. Your post just sets up the DD as OP’s competition - she isn’t. She’s her DH child and so it’s normal for them to speak and takes nothing away from her relationship with her DH!

Its defiantly important he speaks to his child, i find it strange that you think about child's mother with this request. That behavior needs to change,if you struggle with that or feel there is a problem with biological mother or his child....Then thats a big problem for your relationship.

Parent child relations certainly does eclipse all else especially when the children are young. Op's step daughter is 9 and ought to be no1 in her dad's life and it looks like she is.

Editing to add the OP herself has expressed a competing mindset as she is upset her h is having a chat with his dd. Only the most jealous types get upset when their partner has a quick chat on the phone with their relatives.

Also lol at cousin relations being en par with parent child relationships. Musmnet is getting more odd by the day.

"and it looks like she is" the ex had to ask for the call so this hardly seems the case.

Agree it is smug and presumptuous to say that the daughter is "the person most important to him in the world".

WTF have i just read - whats wrong with you OP - its her FATHER ffs.

More often than not a child is the person most important to a parent in the world - very sad when that's not the case. Fine to disagree.

“How to trigger the MN crowd 101”

Totally normal. I'm in my early 60s and still talk to my kids and grandkids when any of us are travelling

A week no contact with his kids? I wouldn't want that, would definitely want a couple of calls with mine. Can't see it necessarily being a long call, but at least something.

I do think you are overthinking it. Obviously we have very limited info, no background on the relationship between your DH and his ex (is it amicable, strained etc). But his daughter is 9, a week is a long time with no contact at all, unless it is normal under their childcare arrangements.

Are you for real? Doesn’t bode well. Of course a 9 yo should be able to call her own dad. FFS

Wow. You really don't understand what being a parent involves.

You are being absolutely ridiculous

I think it has to be that.

Or at least, if it isn't, Op would be best advised to slink off and pretend it was at this point! 😂

This is totally normal for a 9 year old daughter. I have an 8 year old who loves her daddy. Even if he’s delayed getting home from London, depending on her mood / tiredness, she asks if we can FaceTime him on his return train journey. (Obviously not every week - but if it’s an unusual situation, like everyone being on holiday, she would definitely want to do that several times). He can’t put this relationship into a different gear just because he is on honeymoon. It’s loving dad behaviour 100% and if there is any discussion about not speaking to his daughter as much, it would be weird.

She’s only 9 and her mum asked for ‘a brief phone call’? This is absolutely acceptable and OK.

I had step-parents in my life from age 8 and neither of them would have had an attitude about this. Please have a good think about your response to this simple request and if you can’t honestly be a kind, welcoming and decent person around your step-daughter then walk away from this marriage. His DD should always be a priority in his life and as an adult you should have understood and accepted this before agreeing to get married.

I'm sure rue daughter can manage. It is normal to call your children or parents.

Seriously? You have to even ask this???

It clearly does bother you as you’re making a post about it on an internet forum. She’s 9 and wants to talk to her dad. Get over yourself.

Of course he should call his daughter. Don't be that new wife.

You're reading too much into it. Its one phone call. There are going to be many more like this, where he will/should want to make contact with his child. She (dd) probably needs reassurance that his relationship with her isn't going to change just because he has got married - even more reason for a phone call this week.

do you feel you won the prize, OP? A great guy so the ex must be shit stirring?

I know there are women who are a nightmare when a relationships ends but most of us, genuinely, are glad to off-load the useless lump to someone else!

His daughter and her happiness should be the two most important things in the world to him. If they're not, I wouldn't be having children with him.