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Sure teacher is lying, but can't prove it

257 replies

Chew33 · 16/05/2026 22:08

My 12 year old son received a detention (c2) for talking in class. He is usually as good as gold and gets great feedback, so this was very unusual. He said he got this with no verbal warning or c1, which is the procedure they're supposed to follow. He said she shouted c2 whilst pointing at him from across the room.
I challenged the procedure not being followed. The teacher emailed me in response with a completely different version of events. She said he'd had several warnings, then. C1 from her, then a c2 from the librarian! My son has admitted he was talking too much, but is adamant her version was no where near the truth. He even checked with one of the kids after the fact, who agreed.
I know when my kid lies. He goes bright red and its so obvious atm. I know he's telling the truth, and I'm disgusted how he's been treated. I think she just lost her temper and knows she did wrong. The detention itself was very short and never recorded in the system. He said she just said as this is your first strike and you're usually so good let's let this one go.

So I emailed back expressing i understood his talking was unacceptable, however I was very concerned about the difference in recalling events. She's doubled down and said her report is accurate.

Do I let this one go, or not? My gut is telling me she's definitely lying, but I don't know what to do or its worth pursuing further.

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AppleKatie · 16/05/2026 22:10

Sorry I don’t understand was it a C2 or was it not recorded in the system?

eitber way you are blowing it way out of proportion.

Harrumphhhh · 16/05/2026 22:12

Tell your son not to talk in class. Lay off the teacher.

Hiddeninthetrees · 16/05/2026 22:13

Harrumphhhh · 16/05/2026 22:12

Tell your son not to talk in class. Lay off the teacher.

Yes this, hopefully he'll make a better choice next time.

hopspot · 16/05/2026 22:14

Your son admitted he was talking. Tell him not to talk in the future and accept the punishment. hopefully this will have the desired effect and he won’t talk when he’s not supposed to again.

JSMill · 16/05/2026 22:14

I know when my kid lies That’s hilarious.

cadburyegg · 16/05/2026 22:15

Jesus wept.

awfulapril · 16/05/2026 22:16

oh MATE
Your kid is lying and he was talking'

Pyjamatimenow · 16/05/2026 22:17

Ffs he was being a pain in the arse. Just accept it and make him do the detention. Nobody has time for this

awfulapril · 16/05/2026 22:17

and you wonder why no one wants to be a teacher with parents like this

Taking time from lesson prep and marking by reacting to parents who cannot comprehend that ALL KIDS LIE

dizzydizzydizzy · 16/05/2026 22:17

Just put it behind you.

Brandyb · 16/05/2026 22:17

Wait till the fish are bigger before you fry them lol

BlueWellieSocks · 16/05/2026 22:18

Good grief, let it go.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 16/05/2026 22:18

Have you tried writing to your local MP?

Urzurtixitxigcog · 16/05/2026 22:18

You’re being ridiculous

Guidanceplease20 · 16/05/2026 22:19

When my son was given an "innocent" detention, I told him to go and do it, but in the knowledge (privately) that he shouldnt be there. Because life sometimes throws shit at you and a resilient person knows when to fight important battles. One detention isnt a battle to bother about.

Pleased he did it.

Leave the teacher alone.

BurnoutBee · 16/05/2026 22:19

Your kid is lying 🤣

AgnesMcDoo · 16/05/2026 22:19

Tell your son to behave in class FGS

Hover · 16/05/2026 22:19

If your son has admitted he was talking when he shouldn't then that's the risk he runs. My DD is Y8 and generally very well behaved but has picked up a couple of detentions during secondary for similar low level stuff. Last time she had a whine to me about how it was unfair because she'd had a warning but then went straight to a detention without a second warning, blah blah blah, no sympathy from me, she shouldn't have been messing about in the first place. Teachers have enough on their plates without parents undermining and questioning every minor punishment they hand out. Just leave it.

DogsandFlowers · 16/05/2026 22:19

He needs to behave better, he was talking! You’ll get nowhere move on.

Pyjamatimenow · 16/05/2026 22:20

awfulapril · 16/05/2026 22:17

and you wonder why no one wants to be a teacher with parents like this

Taking time from lesson prep and marking by reacting to parents who cannot comprehend that ALL KIDS LIE

They do lie. I once had a father storm into my classroom and threaten me because I’d given his kid a detention. Kid’s version was that he’d put some paper in the waste paper basket and got in trouble for it. The actual thing that happened was he balled up his worksheet and threw it at me from his seat as I was talking and then said he was aiming for the bin. Dad screamed at me for not letting his kid recycle…

threepictures · 16/05/2026 22:20

Oh seriously it’s really not this serious. He’s having a detention not being hung drawn and quartered

Gazelda · 16/05/2026 22:22

Your son admits he was talking in class. He got a short detention which hasn’t been recorded on the system. I’d let this go.

and, if were you, I’d try to find a way not to get so involved in the minutiae of every incident at school. It’s not going to help your son to learn resilience and accountability if you blindly question or fight any decision that doesn’t go his way.

cauliflowercheeseplease · 16/05/2026 22:22

Let it go 🙄 he obviously isn’t as perfect as you think

TalulahJP · 16/05/2026 22:22

tell your child to behave himself.

yes maybe he did get a punishment through the wrong course of action but the boy was talkimg when he shouldn’t have been.

maybe he needs this lesson to remind him to shut up in class. And a reminder that he’s lucky to get a free education, and that he better not do it again….

user1471453601 · 16/05/2026 22:23

My adult child told me recently that the best advice I'd ever given them, which they still reflect on 40 years later was "do you want to be proven right, or do you want the outcome you desire ?"

if I were you, I'd think about that. The small punishment is done, its not going to impact your child's future.

so why do you feel the need to carry on? Is it to prove you were right? And if that's the case, what benefit would it accrue?