Baby left with grandparents for 4 nights. Worrying it will impact him!

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Our 12 week old baby went for a sleepover at grandparents last night. This morning me and husband have come down with stomach bug/food poisoning and have been so ill all day. We are terrified about him catching it so my parents have agreed to keep him until Wednesday and then he will go to other grandparents until Thursday. This will then put us out of the 48 hour mark of being contagious. He has been going to their houses for sleepovers since 8 weeks old. This wasn’t through choice but because I was very very unwell with PPD. I’m so worried that I’m damaging his development by him staying out for 4 nights and he will think we have abandoned him 😞 he is our first baby and I hate the thought of him thinking we’ve just left him behind but I don’t want him to catch what we’ve had as it’s been absolutely awful and can’t imagine what it would be like for a little baby. Please reassure me he will be ok and won’t be traumatised by it all 🙈

He’s not going to catch it if it’s food poisoning. I do think that’s a lot of swapping between caregivers for a little baby to be honest. I don’t think it will traumatise him, though.

He will be fine
Just get well yourself and be grateful you have caring grandparents 😊

That’s a long time for a baby. Can’t he stay at your house with one of the grandparents?
personally I would have not wanted to he separated at that age myself.

My baby was in intensive care for 2 weeks. They’re fine!

Why would you not be able to catch it ? While you have symptoms you are infectious.

He knows them , he will be fine .

He'll be fine! He's with caregivers who love him. What could possibly be damaging about that?

He knows them, he'll be fine. Much more fine that if he gets a nasty upset tummy, stops feeds, throws up everything, gets awfully dehydrated etc. You've made the right choice, I hope you feel well soon.

Baby will be absolutely fine. A few hours after you are back they won't even have remembered you've gone

It sounds like you're going through it with PPD so please don't add to the mental load of letting this worry you too. Seems like baby is very familiar with them so will be in good hands

Enjoy the rest and try and build your strength

It takes a village and it sounds like you have great support so lean on them. I wish I had allowed myself to do that more with my first!

He won't know and he won't remember. Stop worrying.

Just bring him home! Be extra vigilant with hand washing. You don't just move your baby out because you're ill...

Of course you can’t catch food poisoning from someone else
You don’t need to avoid him for four days, op. Just while you’re literally too ill to care for him, which is hardly likely to be four days.

We don’t know if it is a stomach bug or food poisoning though! The symptoms are both so similar and I’ve literally spent the day looking up to see which it could be. I haven’t moved him out because I’m ill…he was already at grandparents when we became ill so hadn’t been exposed at that point so didn’t seem to make sense bringing him back to us.

Why not , that makes no sense.

How can it not make sense??

What are the chances that you got the exact same bug at the exact same time?

I don’t know to be honest. We’ve both been together 24/7 recently so it is a possibility that it’s a bug but it could also be food poisoning. Just really don’t want to infect him when he’s so little 🙈

He will be fine.

Food poisoning is not contagious.

Well if you had salmonella and then had sickness and the runs which had the salmonella bacteria in and didn't wash your hands you would be able to spread the infection... Like how infections are spread, surely.

Yeah because he'd get better care from people who are throwing up and uncontrollably shitting, than from grandparents who know and love him.

Can’t be that bad if she can post on mumsnet

Well, food poisoning is caused by something you’ve eaten which the baby won’t be yet. And I presume baby isn’t breastfed as he’s away for four nights.

I'm off sick with Covid and I can type on my phone. Doesn't mean I'd want to be up looking after a 12 week old.

Wow 😂 if you really want to know I’ve not moved off the sofa all day and my husband has been asleep in bed all day. Neither of us are people who milk being ill but having been sick every half an hour and not being able to get off the toilet all day seems to have wiped us out funnily enough! I’ve been living off ice lollies as that’s all I’ve been able to keep down.