Baby left with grandparents for 4 nights. Worrying it will impact him!

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Our 12 week old baby went for a sleepover at grandparents last night. This morning me and husband have come down with stomach bug/food poisoning and have been so ill all day. We are terrified about him catching it so my parents have agreed to keep him until Wednesday and then he will go to other grandparents until Thursday. This will then put us out of the 48 hour mark of being contagious. He has been going to their houses for sleepovers since 8 weeks old. This wasn’t through choice but because I was very very unwell with PPD. I’m so worried that I’m damaging his development by him staying out for 4 nights and he will think we have abandoned him 😞 he is our first baby and I hate the thought of him thinking we’ve just left him behind but I don’t want him to catch what we’ve had as it’s been absolutely awful and can’t imagine what it would be like for a little baby. Please reassure me he will be ok and won’t be traumatised by it all 🙈

I’m sure he’ll be fine.
You can’t help being poorly.

I would be pretty annoyed if I was your parents though, for having an 8-12 week old baby staying over when you have a husband who is surely capable of looking after his own child.

To answer the OP - I’m sure your baby will be fine don’t worry. They obviously have a very close relationship with the grandparents and are used to having regular overnighters with them. It would be very different if baby was unfamiliar with GPs and they’d never had sole care or something.

I’m quite jealous that you have such wonderful, hands-on family on both sides! My parents and in-laws are lovely but there’s no way they would have had either of my DC overnight at 12 weeks, nevermind 4 nights in a row! Our youngest is 2 going on 3 now, and DH and I have only recently built up to our first full night away! Hopefully the first of many.

It's ridiculous isn't it!

Her husband is also sick?

Yes he is now.
I assume he hasn’t been all of the other times the baby sept there though.

You might have missed it but her DH is sick too 🙂

Ah well, if AI says it must be true.

You’re not making yourself sound too intelligent here. Might be best to stop digging that hole now.

My parents went on a 2 week honeymoon when i was 2 months old. I stated with my grandparents.
I dont remember it but i can tell you that my relationship is really wonderful with my parents and grandparents. In fact i left my kids with my parents toi at that age. Not so long in a row, but often for 1-2 overnights. Its greatbtour child has loving family members and he gets a chance to bind with them!

Sorry… not sure what you are trying to say here?? I didn’t miss it?

I was in hospital for four days for minor surgery when my baby was young, it was a bit traumatic for them as they were breastfed and had to learn how to quickly take a bottle, but other than that they didn't seem to mind which one of his known caregivers were cuddling him to sleep.
Long term it has had no impacts. OP you are definitely doing the right thing not risking it- when Novovirus hit our house me and my husband had symptoms start within two hours of each other- it definitely could be something more serious than food poisoning!

It's 4 days not 4 months... he's going to be fine! You're really lucky to have such support network so be grateful for that.

Maybe I misunderstood, it seemed like you didn't know he was unwell. My mistake if that's not the case 🙂

He’s done all night feeds alone (sometimes hourly) for 5 weeks whilst also ensuring I’ve been ok and as I’ve been so unwell he has really struggled with his mental health too. There was a space reserved for me at the mother and baby unit but we were keen to avoid that if possible so came up with a plan to try and keep us both at home. Our parents have just given him some respite to ensure that he’s functioning as well as he could with a newborn! It’s been a really difficult time for the whole family as nobody wanted me and the baby to have to go into hospital so family were more than happy to help out to try and prevent that.

I think I quoted the wrong poster 😬😆

Baby will be absolutely fine! Hope you can make the best of the break and feel better soon! x

Ofcourse he won’t be harmed.

When I was a baby (many years ago) my DM didn’t get much more than a few weeks maternity leave. After 6 weeks I was looked after by her parents several times a week until I was old enough to look after myself. At which point I went to see them anyway because we had build a wonderful special relationship. They were like second parents to me.

I wouldn’t change it for the world. I meant I have more people in my life that I loved that much.

Yeah, think you were after @Wonderi 👍

I'm not saying it's necessarily true, I'm saying it's interesting that AI is making a distinction between 'infectious' and 'contagious', and that food poisoning can be one without being the other.

Dictionary.com is perhaps a more reliable source! https://www.dictionary.com/e/contagious-vs-infectious-the-difference-can-be-important/

Yup! Op has replied to them now though to be fair. Sorry for the mix up!

If that’s the AI at the top of a Google search I’ve found several strange errors in it this week. I wouldn’t take the fact that it differentiates to mean anything much.

It will be worse for you then him, mum guilt sucks, he will be fine. Why you and your husband are so ill and probably contagious it's in his best interest to be looked after by people who love and care for him. Just rest up watch some cheesy Christmas films and drink lots of water and you will be back with your baby before you know it

Oh, really? That's a shame, I though Google's AI would be if better quality than that! I suppose I'll have to go back to relying on Wikipedia instead!

I think it sounds a very sensible plan made by loving parents. A stomach/sickness bug could be really horrible for a young baby and could result in a hospital stay. He will be absolutely fine with his GP. Rest up and I hope you feel better soon OP

This thread is fantastically weird. Poor OP and her DH both getting a telling off and AI replacing people in their jobs just because of an autocorrect (it was bound to happen sooner or later).

There is a significant amount of norovirus about this winter, it's causing havoc in our local hospital trusts and care homes. Even if it's food poisoning there is some risk to DC. In either case OP / DH feel like shit no pun intended

OP, your DC is fortunate to have a whole circle of loving family members who know them and can care for them. It makes perfect sense to let them. They aren't strangers, DC won't be looking at their watch wondering where you've got to, they'll be safe, loved, cared for, and not getting vomited on. You and DH can rest and recover ready to snuggle them back up later in the week.

Please don't worry, baby will be fine - he's being looked after by loving grandparents that he knows. He won't be traumatised at all. Concentrate on resting and getting well. It just goes to show what a great mum you are that you are even worrying about this 💐