Baby left with grandparents for 4 nights. Worrying it will impact him!

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Our 12 week old baby went for a sleepover at grandparents last night. This morning me and husband have come down with stomach bug/food poisoning and have been so ill all day. We are terrified about him catching it so my parents have agreed to keep him until Wednesday and then he will go to other grandparents until Thursday. This will then put us out of the 48 hour mark of being contagious. He has been going to their houses for sleepovers since 8 weeks old. This wasn’t through choice but because I was very very unwell with PPD. I’m so worried that I’m damaging his development by him staying out for 4 nights and he will think we have abandoned him 😞 he is our first baby and I hate the thought of him thinking we’ve just left him behind but I don’t want him to catch what we’ve had as it’s been absolutely awful and can’t imagine what it would be like for a little baby. Please reassure me he will be ok and won’t be traumatised by it all 🙈

You are doing the right thing. Get yourself better first.

I want to wait until 48 hours after the last episode which would take us to Wednesday night. I’ll be there early Thursday morning to collect him as long as we remain clear. We still feel incredibly rough but hopefully we will be on the mend now.

Christ what a selfish choice. Subjecting a young baby to a covid ward and putting him at risk because YOU wound miss him!

You are doing the right thing OP. Get well and be in a better state to care for your baby.

When I was a similar age there was a family crisis and I was sent to live with friends for 6 weeks. My brother who was 3 went to other friends. One parent was able to visit occasionally and I imagine there were phone calls.

I have absolutely no memory of it, or any awareness of it causing problems. Just a couple of extra adults in my life who probably loved me a bit more because they had cared for me. We stayed in touch until they died over 50 years later.

Your little boy will be ok OP, he's with people who love him. I hope you feel better soon.

Someone I work withs baby has just ended up in ICU due to the Norovirus bug that's run through their entire family, So no, I don't think you've made the wrong decision at all OP

Food poisoning is contagious the bug can come in from unwashed hands touching food or cutlery it's not just out of date / badly stored food. Unless you have a stool sample you won't know the cause it should always be treated as contagious

Ridiculous

If he’s already been having sleepovers I can’t see the problem….you obviously not the separation anxiety type as you’ve been happy for this ( and I’m not knocking you I did it too)….and you baby will be more than happy in the homes of grandparents he has already spent nights and days with

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He won't know, notice or remember

Are you asking the question for shock value or have you really not read the OPs numerous replies?

OP glad the vomiting has stopped and hope you feel better

i just felt like it for a night of peace and went on benders around town every time they went to stay….🙄 I’ve had very severe PPD which almost resulted in hospital admission. Grandparents taking him allowed us to stay home with the support. I love him so much and it’s been awful him being away. However, I’m not prepared to put him at risk of catching this horrible virus and potentially being hospitalised.

Don't be so dramatic! Read the thread and you'll find out why.

Gosh, my DC were always doing sleepovers at their grandparents from when they were 3 months old. They certainly had ma close relationship with them but it never occurred to me that their development might have been damaged. Maybe it’s why they grew up confident and independent?

She’s has ppd. Put the boot in why don’t you. OP your baby will be fine. Get yourselves well and ignore poster like these who are trying to make you feel worse than you already do.

Take no notice of this OP. Some people are just arseholes. You obviously love your baby immeasurably. Hope you feel better soon 💐

What kind of fucking question is that. Does it make you feel good to put down vulnerable mothers. You’re a disgrace.

Why be so nasty

OP the problem with being a parent is every other fucker thinks they are better than you and you’re doing it wrong - regardless of what you do!

For what it’s worth, we had to get my parents to have DD whilst we had norovirus, it was that bad I shit myself twice. Martyrs on here will believe I should have kept DD at home with me, well I couldn’t stand let alone feed and look after her. So she went to her GPs, had a lovely time and was fed, cuddled and looked after.

You’re doing the right thing giving yourself a break with your PPD as well. I hope you continue to get the support you need to rebuild yourself. Your little one will be absolutely fine xx

Mine have had regular sleepovers with grandparents since 6 weeks old. No illness, no PPD etc just to have a break.

No regrets.

Grandparents will need a break by day five put it that way, phew!

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He won't know or remember. Grandparents will need a break though, and a nice present at the end of it!

OP hope you're on the mend. I don't think some people realise how traumatising PND can be. He's 12 weeks old, surrounded by people who love him. He'll be absolutely smothered in kisses and cuddles whilst you and dp are on the mend. Don't worry about it!