Baby left with grandparents for 4 nights. Worrying it will impact him!

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Our 12 week old baby went for a sleepover at grandparents last night. This morning me and husband have come down with stomach bug/food poisoning and have been so ill all day. We are terrified about him catching it so my parents have agreed to keep him until Wednesday and then he will go to other grandparents until Thursday. This will then put us out of the 48 hour mark of being contagious. He has been going to their houses for sleepovers since 8 weeks old. This wasn’t through choice but because I was very very unwell with PPD. I’m so worried that I’m damaging his development by him staying out for 4 nights and he will think we have abandoned him 😞 he is our first baby and I hate the thought of him thinking we’ve just left him behind but I don’t want him to catch what we’ve had as it’s been absolutely awful and can’t imagine what it would be like for a little baby. Please reassure me he will be ok and won’t be traumatised by it all 🙈

Well I think you are in the minority here as everyone else seems to agree that exposing a small baby to a potentially serious illness is not in the best interest of them.

It's probably just that your posts are not very 'in the spirit of the site' as you seem so compelled to keep telling a vulnerable new mother that she's in the wrong.

OP doesn’t want her child getting the illness. Of course she’s putting him first.

My parents left me with my Auntie in Wales for six weeks when I was a toddler over 50 years ago .Did it cause me any attachment issues and long term MH problems? Absolutely not!Why are people so bloody dramatic and looking for problems that don’t exist these days? Really think the internet just gives people something to naval gaze about.
OP a stomach virus will cause many more problems for your child than staying with caring relatives for a few days.
Hope you feel better soon. X

I can't imagine any reason for needing a baby in a hospital while you are recovering from a highly infectious and little understood disease, when it could be card for at home by loving relatives (unless you are of course a single mother with no support which is different). If not, it seems very selfish.

I’m totally baffled by the number of posters confidently declaring that food poisoning is not contagious.

What exactly do you think food poisoning is?

Also those saying the grandparents could stay, my great aunt caught norovirus from my cousin's baby and she never fully recovered. She'd been living independently and shortly afterwards had to move into supported living with vascular dementia. Yes it was probably there and underlying and complicated by diabetes BUT you never know how a grandparent will take a nasty illness so why risk it unnecessarily when the baby is perfectly happy and secure with their regular carers. I was probably one of those mothers who was overly attached when my kids were tiny, but it's not a badge of honour and it doesn't make you a better parent to beat up OP and her partner for what is a sensible decision in the circumstances.

@Ughn0tryte what a load of rubbish! I retuned to work when DS was 4.5 months old and he's the most chilled out happy 18 year old. Never had any attachment issues at all and was always fine being looked after by other people.

DD, who had a year at home with me/her dad and had spent far less time with people aren't me/her dad is clingy and anxious. They're just totally different kids.

Obviously a typo! Meant to write 'which can BE infectious'!

All these negative, nasty comments on here! Sometimes I can't believe there are actual human beings writing these. Where has all the compassion and kindness gone???

How can OP possibly look after a baby when she's not well herself?! Possible infection risk aside, sometimes you have to put your health first and get better to make sure you can parent! It's a baby, not a 5/6 year old that can amuse themselves whilst mum and dad are ill.

The baby is obviously with close family who will ensure that they are well cared for, fed, warm and receiving a lot of love.

OP - don't punish yourself. As soon as little one is back in your arms they'll feel like they've never been away. You've gotta get better lovely 😘😘

Some of the comments here are appalling. You are doing the right thing OP, I hope you feel better soon!

Hope you’re feeling better today OP.