4 year old son has asked for fairy wings and wand for Christmas

[Jenb1993]

Our 4 year old son has asked for a fairy wand and purple fairy wings for Christmas. My husband is not impressed and has said we need to stop him watching ‘Ben and Holly’s kingdom’ as this is clearly where he has got the idea from and we can not get him this for Christmas.

He has asked for three things this Christmas. A fairy wand, fairy wings and a police car. He wakes up in the morning telling me how excited he is for Santa to come and how he has been dreaming about getting a wand and fairy wings.

My husband tried to tell him that girls are only fairy’s and he should ask for dragon wings but our son doesn’t understand and desperately wants fairy wings.

I personally don’t have a problem with this, I love his imagination and I know that it’s just a phase. He really thinks this is what Santa will be getting him.

Just wanting some opinions and advice on how I should approach this with my husband.

Don’t be ridiculous. Get the fairy wings.

Edit - that’s not to you OP. That’s what you say to your husband.

I wouldn't have a problem with this at all. I'd get him a dressing up box and put a range of things in it - I have a photo of my son at the same age with fairy wings and a policeman's helmet on!

Of course he should have them!

I tell your husband you’ve got dragon wings and wizard wand for your son.

I don’t know what dragon wings look like.

they don’t need to be pink and sparkly. But who cares if they are?! It’s the 21st century.

Tell your husband he is being ridiculous and get the fairy wings and wand.

Tell your husband it's not 1995 any more.

I think you should tell your husband to stop being a sexist bastard and that you'll be buying the fairy wings and wand regardless. Ask him if he's scared your son is going to be recruited as the tooth fairy and have to leave home? Because otherwise I'm unclear what hes worried about and I think you should make him spell it out

Your husband is being ridiculous. Get the wings and wand and make his day!

Mine had fairy wings at about 3/4 and he is 22 now, doesn't ask for fairy wings any more and so what if he did?

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Your DH sounds like a bit of a dick.

And how exactly does your husband think new baby fairies are born, if boy fairies don’t exist??

Ridiculous. Get the wings and wand and a load of Ben & Holly toys.

Get your son the wings and wand! Your husband is a sexist prick.

Is your husband's male ego always this fragile? I'd be worried about what other antediluvian messages your son is getting about what it means to be a boy.

My DS was the same at that age. It had no bearing whatsoever on his future choices. A decade later, he plays rugby and football. Tell your DH to let your DS play.

Years ago my NDN (mum of 5 boys) came round and asked that when her boys came to play with DS1 that we didn’t let them play with his toy kitchen or his dressing up things. Dress up box included pink beaded necklace and boa, plus a couple of other “girly” things. Her husband was adamant that their sons were not to play with any “girls toys” because it might “influence” them.

For real? Well, your husband’s being an arse and this is where your problem lies. I would: laugh at him, say surely he cannot be serious, if he is tell him to get a grip, it’s not the 1950s, ds will be getting fairy wings and he (dh) needs to arrange his face into an acceptable expression when these are received/worn.
That’s some toxic bullshit you’ve got going on there op, sympathies.

Your husband is being an idiot. Get the poor kid the wings and wand.

How does your husband think fairies reproduce? Clearly not all fairies can be girls

I’d be much more worried about the police car. Would he go for a fire engine instead?

you tell him to stop being a bell end and buy your son the wand and wings.

Whats he worried about? that a 4yo will catch the gay or something?

Has your husband always been this sexist? He sounds thoroughly repulsive.

My oldest had his own dolly and a pushchair. He bloody loved pushing the pushchair round the park. He also had Spider-Man costumes and a garage and a fire station

Hes gayer than a kylie minogue concert but I’m fairly sure it wasn’t the dolly and the pushchair that did it!

Get him what he’s asked for and tell your DH to stop being such a nob

When ds was 3 he asked Santa for some pink sparkly slippers. He got his pink sparkly slippers and wore them with delight! He’s now a strapping 16 year old who still wears what he wants - not pink sparkly slippers but not necessarily the same as his mates.

I had this with DH over a pink pushchair. He saw sense eventually. Pink Pushchair son grew up to be a secure - and straight, incidentally - man. Whatever your DH is getting his boxer shorts in a twist over, he needs to get over himself.

Buy your son the dressing up he wants.

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