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4 year old son has asked for fairy wings and wand for Christmas

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Jenb1993 · 02/12/2024 13:52

Our 4 year old son has asked for a fairy wand and purple fairy wings for Christmas. My husband is not impressed and has said we need to stop him watching ‘Ben and Holly’s kingdom’ as this is clearly where he has got the idea from and we can not get him this for Christmas.

He has asked for three things this Christmas. A fairy wand, fairy wings and a police car. He wakes up in the morning telling me how excited he is for Santa to come and how he has been dreaming about getting a wand and fairy wings.

My husband tried to tell him that girls are only fairy’s and he should ask for dragon wings but our son doesn’t understand and desperately wants fairy wings.

I personally don’t have a problem with this, I love his imagination and I know that it’s just a phase. He really thinks this is what Santa will be getting him.

Just wanting some opinions and advice on how I should approach this with my husband.

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KendraTheVampyrSlayer · 02/12/2024 16:30

FFS does your husband know it's 2024 and not 1924? 🙄

Christmas 1985 (or possibly 86 🤔), I asked Santa for a crystal Barbie, a sword, a Sindy dreamhouse and several Hot Wheels cars. Somehow I grew up into a normal healthy woman.

ilovethericeandchcoolate · 02/12/2024 16:37

Squellyolwelly · 02/12/2024 16:28

My 3 year old boy is dressed as Elsa most days..

👏

My daughter is dressed as Spiderman most days

cantarguewithfools · 02/12/2024 16:46

Your husband needs to grow up. Imagine a disappointed child on Christmas morning just because daddy is homophobic.

My brother played with a doll for years. He got a buggy and whatever else for Christmas. He’s now married (to a woman) and has children of his own. Let kids be kids!

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IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 02/12/2024 17:01

Just wanting some opinions and advice on how I should approach this with my husband.

LTB.

But seriously, ask him what he's so worried about. Make him spell out his misogyny and homophobia.

Aug12 · 02/12/2024 17:01

Oh just let kids be kids, if your wee boy wants the fairy wings, let him have the fairy wings.. would he take issue if he had a daughter that wanted army trucks instead of princesses? It’s just toys, let them pick and play with what they want :)

CautiousLurker1 · 02/12/2024 17:03

Boys can be fairies too!! (In fact there’s a whole steamy, romantic genre populated by sex male faeries…)

Get him the wings and tell DH to stop being sexist.

ginasevern · 02/12/2024 17:09

"Just wanting some opinions and advice on how I should approach this with my husband."

Easy, tell him he's a misogynistic (and probably homophobic) dinosaur and then divorce him. How are you even with this prick?

BearOnABlanket · 02/12/2024 17:11

My youngest asked for the same when he was about 3, also a nerf gun and tiara (he'd spotted them on Amazon while I was browsing) - he got them all, because why not. He wore them a bit - especially when a mate had a pirates and princesses party (he wasn't the only boy in fairy wings, and some girls came as pirates - no-one batted an eyelid since they're kids)

They're only young once. Let him have something sparkly.

StMarie4me · 02/12/2024 17:13

Legomania · 02/12/2024 13:54

Tell your husband it's not 1995 any more.

We'd have bought my sins fairy wings in 1990 if he'd wanted them with no issues!

CaptainMyCaptain · 02/12/2024 17:14

Craftymam · 02/12/2024 13:53

Don’t be ridiculous. Get the fairy wings.

Edit - that’s not to you OP. That’s what you say to your husband.

Edited

Yes. This.

No33 · 02/12/2024 17:15

My son is getting a vocaloid girl costume, with full on wig for Christmas. He's 13.

Tell your 'd' H is a sexist pig and pushing toxic masculinity onto his son.

MummyNurseWifi · 02/12/2024 17:15

Your husband is an absolute dickhead.

coxesorangepippin · 02/12/2024 17:19

More power to him

AshCrapp · 02/12/2024 17:32

Your husband is a misogynist. So fairy wings are ok for a silly little girl but not a son?? What nonsense is this.

Also in Ben and Holly fairies are both male and female. In Shakespeare they're both male and female as well. What is this rule saying fairies are girls? It's weird.

Get him his wings, poor little boy.

CurlewKate · 02/12/2024 17:33

@FuckItItsFine
"I bet your son would love Puck."

He might. But he wants wings and a wand......

Tracystubbs · 02/12/2024 17:36

My younger dc where 2 boys and a girl

One boy loved 'boy' toys,his brother 'girl toys' and their sister couldn't have been less 'girly' if she tried-she hated pink,'girly' toys and clothes

The joy on ds2's face when I bought him Disney princess dresses,dolls,a princess lunchbox,a wig and much,much more 'girly' stuff was magical

School went apeshit and told me I had to force him to be a boy (or in the nurses words 'we don't want him to grow up to be gay or a paedophile do we?'!!!)

My mother also went mental and was told to shut the fuck up-if she so much as glanced at him with disgust,I would stop her seeing them (and I carried it through)

He knew he was a boy,he just loved pink

His sister was seen hurling herself round the house dressed as a transformer while wearing a ben10 watch-she also loved animals,football and having her hair blow dried-they all did,their was so much more to all of them than liking toys and clothes of the 'wrong' sex

Both where where fine-I didn't care

All grew up-the 'girly' boy is as straight as they come (I did take a million photos of him in his dresses and wings with his wig perched on his head-we laugh at them)

His brother and sister are camper than Elton john-again,that's fine,it's who they are-when they bring home boyfriends or girlfriends,I will welcome them into my home and make them a cuppa

Tell him to grow up-you can't catch 'the gay'

(I did complain about the witch of a nurse but was told 'I'd 'misunderstood' her words-i fucking didnt)

thistimelastweek · 02/12/2024 17:39

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 02/12/2024 17:01

Just wanting some opinions and advice on how I should approach this with my husband.

LTB.

But seriously, ask him what he's so worried about. Make him spell out his misogyny and homophobia.

He's worried people might think he's carrying and passing on an unmanly gene.
It's all about his own insecurities.

Let the kid have fairy wings!

WeeOrcadian · 02/12/2024 17:42

The 1950's called, they want your husband back

Buy the wings. This is a hill I'd be willing to die on.

Marlaysydney12 · 02/12/2024 17:42

Angel Gabriel was a man. Doesn't get more christmas or conservative than that.

StSwithinsDay · 02/12/2024 17:44

I wouldn't have a problem with this at all. I'd get him a dressing up box and put a range of things in it

Why? Why would you not just get him the wings and wand that he asked for?

BreatheAndFocus · 02/12/2024 17:48

Legomania · 02/12/2024 13:54

Tell your husband it's not 1995 any more.

More like not 1955!

There are no ‘boy toys’ or ‘girl toys’ or clothes or colours. Tell your husband that and laugh in his face. Oh, and if he’s ever told your son that the Barbie Easter Eggs are for girls and made him cry in the supermarket, I saw him.

WTF are these backward, regressive and sexist people thinking?

livingafulllife · 02/12/2024 17:59

My son had a dolly pram that he would push everywhere when he was 4 and a bright pink tea set.
He`s 21 now never had any ill affect on him i have photos of it so cute.

itsmylife7 · 02/12/2024 18:01

Your husbands a fool.

12345mummy · 02/12/2024 18:10

My son was the first ever boy to be an angel in the School. The teacher privately asked if we were okay with this. I was sad that we still live in an age where she felt it necessary to ask. We couldn’t have been prouder.
Get the lad his fairy wings and tell your DH to get a grip!x

FinallyHere · 02/12/2024 18:17

Bloodybrambles · 02/12/2024 13:53

I tell your husband you’ve got dragon wings and wizard wand for your son.

I don’t know what dragon wings look like.

they don’t need to be pink and sparkly. But who cares if they are?! It’s the 21st century.

This

This, over and over again.

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