Can school stop this?

[CherryCherri]

My son collects my daughter from school whilst I wait outside with my other child. My son is 12 and my daughter is 7. The school were fine with this as I was waiting just outside and they are aware of this, never been a problem for 2 years. However a new headteacher started last year and suddenly it’s now a problem. Now siblings have to be 16 to collect. I explained my situation and why my son is collecting and that I’m waiting right outside and at no point is he ever expected to bring her home alone, they were ok with this until recently and now it’s a problem again. I’ve repeated again I am just right outside, members of staff can see me and I can see my son the whole time he is in the playground but nope they have refused and said he isn’t allowed to collect her and bring her to me. Now I hear time and time again on here that schools can’t dictate this but can they? They refused to allow my daughter to go with my son the other day so seems the school do have the final say. I’m asking if I insist he collects her can they stop it and I’m guessing all they could do is refer to ss, how would ss view this situation?

Op won't answer why she can't pick up at say 315 from the classroom

but can at 3 from reception

making both children disrupt the class /other children daily and for an adult/ta walk them to the office

But at 3.15 can be outside the gate but not inside

Really doesn't make a sense

Times I've guessed but you get the drift

Def very odd my guess is either bznned from playground or mzybe she bin caught with another parents partner either way kids zre suffering because mum can't get it together

it makes absolute sense if you have a disabled kid who cannot be in/around the playground during pick up and needs to be left in the car, but can't be left unsupervised.

I don't know why i keep needing to make that point.

No the OP hasn't confirmed that is what is happening with her, but it is something i have experience of.

Thank you blessings it isn't a situation you have to deal with.

When disability is involved you sometimes have to do/ask for things that able bodied people will never even have considered. It doesn't make them weird/nonsensical.

This seemed mostly likely situation to me from reading what the Op wrote.

I think it's also obvious she likely had a meeting booked but was worried they wouldn't be able to agree a solution and was asking MN what then - went to meeting they came to a solution that works.

I don't know why I'm surprise at the poor reading comprehension and odd assumptions about OP - or the shock she spoke with the school - what most people would do in this situation.

@Foxxo I don't think op has said she has a disabled child

If she had then all replies would have been more sympathetic /helpful

Equally if she manages to get other child from car for 3 and reception to collect other 2

Why can't she do it 15m later

What is the point of someone doing a post but not giving all info - and being rude to many posters as they don't understand what the issue is as op doesn't say

or worse drip feeding posts later

She said it was due to disability, what she hasn't confirmed is if its her or her child.

edited to add: it doesn't matter which of them is disabled, it should be enough that she stated it was down to disability.

but apparently only disabled children get sympathy.

My son collects my daughter from school whilst I wait outside with my other child.

First line of the first post.

Why would OP not just be going in and collecting her 7 year old child if she could - why would the school have allowed 2 years of special arrangements if she could just go in and collect or the new arrangements if she could reasonable go in and collect.

Either she is disabled or the child she had in the car with her is.

She clearly aware of limitations stopping her from collecting at normal time and didn't want to wade though "helpful" suggestions to override these limitation probably because she tried them in past or people will insist they know the conditions better than she does. If she said my child has x there would likely be loads of posters insisting they know people with x or kids with x who manage pick ups.

I reckon going by the attitude on here she has probably done the same to all the teachers as well.

Our primary schools have always had a rule that only over 16’s can collect infant aged children … so I guess it depends whether you are talking about a 7 year old in year 2 or a 7 year old that’s just gone up to year 3…
our junior school (years 3-6) used to let the kids walk out by themselves, no need to see a parent or guardian… many were met by older siblings, some simply walked home by themselves.
If your reason for not being able to get out of a car or walk into the playground is a disability then you could say they need to make reasonable adjustments for you, if though it’s because you don’t want to leave a dog tied up outside then you are being unreasonable.

If u don’t wish to follow school rules move yr child to another school, very strange to stand outside the school gate, then make a fuss.

You did notice that OP said this was disability-related, didn't you? Do you find disability very strange?