Your priority is your daughter and then you and her dad, he could of come across better than he did and it's ok him complaining saying seek support, he is your neighbour. He could of offered support. At that point he could of said do you need to talk, offered to make you a cup of tea, asked if you needed some shopping, we have a neighbour who lost their first baby at almost 30weeks, he had a genetic defect and wouldn't live after pregnancy, it was very hard for them. It was heart breaking to know and I'd hear her crying. It was devastating.
Last year they had another son, hes so cute, both times our street rallied round. we asked if they needed anything. Shopping, a shoulder to cry on. I heard their baby crying alot at first in the night. I didn't complain, I was thankful their baby was healthy, but I felt for them aswell because I remembered how hard it was those first few weeks, they must of also felt alot of emotions after losing their first.
Any one with common sense knows babies are hard work.
My son was the exact same and my daughter, as soon as they went to nursery they got every bug going. It happens. Babies cry because they csnt communicate any other way.
These are grown adults that are complaining about a baby crying, the fact he knocked and said what he said shows how self centred they are and didn't think, the fact you were stood there crying and he proceeded to say what he said, I just cant even imagine. I think I would of closed the door in his face.
It's their issue, they are grown ups, they could keep windows closed. They can wear ear plugs, could put soft sounds on to sleep, I think sometimes people like to complain just to complain. If i was your neighbour and i heard a baby cinstantly crying with frazzled parents last thing id be doing is complaining regardless of how i was affected.
Your child is sick and there's literally nothing you can do about the crying.
To make it easier for you thou, keep her near, my kids would literally only settle if they were laid on me, calpol every 4 hours, keep rooms cool, but having her near will give her so much comfort and will help her feel a bit happier. I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time. Remember to care for your self aswell, make sure you both get rest, take it in turns to get sleep if needs be althou I know my kids only wanted me so it can be tough.
Be kind to your self. You're doing an amazing job, motherhood is the hardest job in the world, it might not feel like it but you ARE doing amazing ❤️ big hugs xxx