DC may have seen something they shouldn't have

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I have NC in case any older posts are recognised and linked to this. I know this sounds off but I promise you it's genuine.

Our DD (6) came into our bed in the early hours before DH came to bed, youngest was also in our bed too. DH came and due to the massive size of our bed, he sleeps at the end if this happens as he has more than enough room.

Anyway this morning our 6 year old was up for ages, running back and forth to their room with toys and playing on the bed from 6am (although possibly earlier). I was exhausted from being up with our baby for some of the night so I was answering her every now and again but knew where she was. After a little while, I sat up and saw DH had everything hanging out, he had his own covers which were slightly off of him and it was visible. I covered DH over and woke him up to chat with him while DD got some things from her room. Neither of us know what to say, he was very clearly embarrassed and said he may have hand his hand under the waistband because they're an uncomfortable pair and just rolled over.

How would you approach this situation? We're not 100% sure she saw but I don't see how she couldn't have.

I wouldn't say anything. Am I right in thinking she saw his bits?

Unless she brings it up I wouldn't mention it at all.

I don't think it's anything to be concerned about if a 6 year old sees either parent naked.

What situation?

Your young DD saw her fathers bits, so what. Say nothing and move on.

I saw my dad's twice when I was young at the tip of the stairs. We crossed paths to the loo in the middle of the night. I found it a bit funny and it didn't scar me for life or anything. It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal IMO.

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What is it you think she saw?

A morning erection or a sleeping penis?

I wouldn't give it a second thought. My kids see me naked all the time, mostly because they don't give me any privacy!

DH is a bit more private by choice but they have still seen his penis on occasion.

This is a non issue. You don’t need to say anything.

She saw his naked body? So what?

unless he had morning glory, this really is a total none issue!

I don’t understand the panic? Dd6 saw her dad naked, so what?

Yes, morning glory!!

I think it's odd to think that kids 'shouldn't' see their parents naked. What if you, eg, take a child swimming? You don't have to parade around in the buff but it's a perfectly normal part of life, especially when you've got young children. My 4 year old sees my naked (like a PP, he has no concept of privacy)

Ah cross-post. I think it's just one of those things really. Don't make it in to a big deal.

I don’t think it’s a problem, personally. We don’t exactly flaunt ourselves but are very chill with our kids (7 and 3, boy and girl) seeing our bits. Plus, your husband was in his own bed!

Personally, I’d try and get the six year old to stay in bed at that time, especially as you’re up with the baby. Must be knackering!

It’s a non-issue.

‘Why was Daddy’s willy like that?’

‘Because extra blood goes into it when you sleep so it gets full.’

Well I mean, what are your options?

1. Sit your DD down, ask her exactly what it was she saw, explain and talk through in detail - thereby making it into a massive thing
2. Ignore it and make up some crap explaining it away if she (very unlikely) asks

Complete non-issue

Don't be daft. No issue here.

I really don't see the issue? It was natural

I know sex is natural but this is not what was seen, a natural part of the body is nothing that needs to be hidden away as some big secret sure running around naked all is an extreme but just seeing it is normal

This.

And just say nothing if she doesn’t ask.

No big deal. DD8 sees me naked a lot. We showered together yesterday as she loves having a shower with me.

DH is more private but she has seen his penis on occasion when he's been getting dressed.

I honestly think it’s something that just gets put away in your brain somewhere. I still remember seeing things I shouldn’t have seen and thinking 🤯 but there was no trauma attached to it. Let it go.

I agree with PPs, this is a non-issue. If she asks why it was like that, you can say what @neverenoughchelseaboots suggested. But I doubt she'll ask, she'd probably have asked you at the time if she was going to.

DD does see me naked because she doesn't give me any privacy. She'll come in and start saying she can see parts of my body and point them out like "haha, I can see your..." I have said, people need privacy but if she walks into the bathroom while I'm showering (she's been known to unlock it from the outside and we've had to speak about that) or she's in our bedroom then I might be naked.

With DH, he often wears boxers and a T-shirt, he likes more privacy. She is more respectful of his privacy. My own dad was private about his body after I started making comments about it at a younger age but mum always walked around naked and DH's parents are very private so we don't have much to compare to when it comes to DH.

This is very reassuring, thanks for your replies!

said he may have hand his hand under the waistband because they're an uncomfortable pair and just rolled over.

I don’t understand this bit?

No need to panic over this, if you daughter says nothing then just continue in as normal and don't act like it's a huge deal cause it's really not! If she mentions it just give an age appropriate explanation as suggested upthread.

omg I thought you were going to say they saw you having sex or something. Who cares if a child sees their parent without clothes on?