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DC may have seen something they shouldn't have

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YellowGem · 23/07/2023 08:56

I have NC in case any older posts are recognised and linked to this. I know this sounds off but I promise you it's genuine.

Our DD (6) came into our bed in the early hours before DH came to bed, youngest was also in our bed too. DH came and due to the massive size of our bed, he sleeps at the end if this happens as he has more than enough room.

Anyway this morning our 6 year old was up for ages, running back and forth to their room with toys and playing on the bed from 6am (although possibly earlier). I was exhausted from being up with our baby for some of the night so I was answering her every now and again but knew where she was. After a little while, I sat up and saw DH had everything hanging out, he had his own covers which were slightly off of him and it was visible. I covered DH over and woke him up to chat with him while DD got some things from her room. Neither of us know what to say, he was very clearly embarrassed and said he may have hand his hand under the waistband because they're an uncomfortable pair and just rolled over.

How would you approach this situation? We're not 100% sure she saw but I don't see how she couldn't have.

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GillianMcQueef · 23/07/2023 14:55

Daysoffarethebest · 23/07/2023 14:42

Who is getting annoyed?
I have been perfectly reasonable and explained my thoughts.
I do not need to learn, I see the issues just disagree with them and as already stated accept people have different viewpoints.
Maybe you could try that too.

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Not wanting to enable paedophiles is surely a pretty black and white issue, with not much room for disagreement? Why would anyone think there's a debate to be had about whether or not it's acceptable to do so?

Daysoffarethebest · 23/07/2023 15:01

GillianMcQueef · 23/07/2023 14:55

Not wanting to enable paedophiles is surely a pretty black and white issue, with not much room for disagreement? Why would anyone think there's a debate to be had about whether or not it's acceptable to do so?

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Again not answering the question.
Probably won’t answer this one either-do you take your child swimming? Or let them out in the real world wearing school uniform with a school name on?
What if that “enables paedophiles”?
This is more of the real issues I actually think are worth being concerned with, rather than a notional problem which may or may not occur from something written here as let’s be fair, if such like minded individuals want to think that way, we can not live our lives not mentioning anything which may attract their thought processes.

Cucucucu · 23/07/2023 15:05

Why is this a situation exactly, is a naked body nothing to be ashamed . Your kid seems fine nit even asking questions . Just stop overthinking

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GillianMcQueef · 23/07/2023 15:22

Daysoffarethebest · 23/07/2023 15:01

Again not answering the question.
Probably won’t answer this one either-do you take your child swimming? Or let them out in the real world wearing school uniform with a school name on?
What if that “enables paedophiles”?
This is more of the real issues I actually think are worth being concerned with, rather than a notional problem which may or may not occur from something written here as let’s be fair, if such like minded individuals want to think that way, we can not live our lives not mentioning anything which may attract their thought processes.

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You haven't asked me a question previously so how am I not answering your question?

None of the things you describe equate to offering stories of naked parents/toilet mishaps/underwear etc when encouraged or asked to do so by a stranger online. None of those things include actively engaging with people.

MN sadly attracts trolls/perverts. Why do anything to attract them further, or give MN the reputation that this is the place to go to get your rocks off?

Sycasmores · 23/07/2023 15:24

Well this is a rather odd post...

BrightLightsCalling · 23/07/2023 15:27

Who is getting annoyed?
I have been perfectly reasonable and explained my thoughts.
I do not need to learn, I see the issues just disagree with them and as already stated accept people have different viewpoints.
Maybe you could try that too.

Ok, you don’t like annoyed. What would you call it, you took offence to your naivety being pointed out. But if you’re not a weirdo, you are naive. I can’t help if facts offend you.

Your argument for enabling paedos is baffling if you are indeed not one.

Anyway, hopefully the detail has meant their afternoon of wanting over this has been ruined. 🤢

BrightLightsCalling · 23/07/2023 15:38

Last sentence should say,

Anyway, hopefully the derail has meant their afternoon of wanking over this has been ruined. 🤢

caringcarer · 23/07/2023 16:07

Panama2 · 23/07/2023 09:53

Don’t worry about it. One day some years ago helping at playgroup a little girl was using lots of pink paint. We talked about the colours she was using when she pointed to the pink and said, “That’s the colour of my Daddy’s Willy”. So it happens a lot.

😂😂

Daysoffarethebest · 23/07/2023 17:23

BrightLightsCalling · 23/07/2023 15:27

Who is getting annoyed?
I have been perfectly reasonable and explained my thoughts.
I do not need to learn, I see the issues just disagree with them and as already stated accept people have different viewpoints.
Maybe you could try that too.

Ok, you don’t like annoyed. What would you call it, you took offence to your naivety being pointed out. But if you’re not a weirdo, you are naive. I can’t help if facts offend you.

Your argument for enabling paedos is baffling if you are indeed not one.

Anyway, hopefully the detail has meant their afternoon of wanting over this has been ruined. 🤢

How strange.
I have shown no annoyance and no offense taken at being called naive, simply pointed out it was an insult but I am not invested overly in the thoughts of random internet people who seem as though they would benefit from some mental health advice, or at least taking a step away from being too involved.
And then a vague insinuation of being a paedophile or indeed a weirdo.
It may well be that you yourself are projecting. Who knows…

CurlyhairedAssassin · 23/07/2023 17:39

Mayhem3 · 23/07/2023 10:57

I personally wouldn’t say anything unless she asks, then I would explain about how male bodies are different and @neverenoughchelseaboots for why it was hard.

It sounds like he was having a little play with himself which isn’t ideal but I wouldn’t draw attention to it.

The bigger deal you make out of it, the bigger deal she’s going to think it is.

I do know a couple of families who walk around naked all of the time and it’s no big deal to them.
One stopped bathing with his DD when she was 7/8 and the other family’s DS is 14 and they still regularly walk around naked or get into his bed naked.
I think it’s too much personally.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the human body but I think there’s a line and I personally think teaching kids that private areas are private is more important than showing them how comfortable you must feel naked.

the other family’s DS is 14 and they still regularly walk around naked or get into his bed naked.I think it’s too much personally.

Blimey. You're not wrong there. 😮That's downright wierd. I think it's bad enough that they get in bed with him at that age but the fact they're naked is just....urgh...not right at all.

GillianMcQueef · 23/07/2023 17:45

I am not invested overly in the thoughts of random internet people who seem as though they would benefit from some mental health advice

@Daysoffarethebest what a nasty thing to say.

Nobody has insinuated you're a paedophile or a 'weirdo'. Simply that it's naive to think that trolls/perverts don't exist. Suggesting that people who urge caution about what's posted on an open forum need 'mental health advice' or are themselves paedophiles is deeply offensive.

Daysoffarethebest · 23/07/2023 18:00

GillianMcQueef · 23/07/2023 17:45

I am not invested overly in the thoughts of random internet people who seem as though they would benefit from some mental health advice

@Daysoffarethebest what a nasty thing to say.

Nobody has insinuated you're a paedophile or a 'weirdo'. Simply that it's naive to think that trolls/perverts don't exist. Suggesting that people who urge caution about what's posted on an open forum need 'mental health advice' or are themselves paedophiles is deeply offensive.

Why can you only read what suits your view?
I even quoted the person who said this above??? So surely you mean they are the nasty person as it was him/her who said, and I quote again for your ease of comprehension -

“Your argument for enabling paedos is baffling if you are indeed not one.”

That is a very clear insinuation is it not??

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YellowGem · 23/07/2023 20:51

I would advise people not to use certain words within threads, exactly why I didn't want to earlier and I got slated for being prude. You can't bloody win!

You only have to put in a few key words into an internet search and hey presto you're here with people sharing their stories. For some reason, some of you have chosen to share your stories but I wanted genuine advice without anecdotes. I didn't really want to post in the first place but it's not something you can ask family and friends.

We've had a lovely day, we went for country walk and lunch as a family then watched a film. I've not been up to anything nefarious.

If you'd like to report me for being a troll, please do but I'm a regular poster who just name changes a lot.

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AngelAurora · 23/07/2023 20:53

Why is he sleeping naked when he knows his kids come in the room?

TrueScrumptious · 23/07/2023 21:03

AngelAurora · 23/07/2023 20:53

Why is he sleeping naked when he knows his kids come in the room?

He wasn’t sleeping naked.

porridgeisbae · 23/07/2023 23:19

I get that in theory the potential 'troll' would be to get people to share their 'that's nothing, I...' posts, but I still think if this was some sort of paedo troll it'd be more hardcore than this.

Sisterwinter1969 · 24/07/2023 18:14

DH and I enjoy naturist holidays with our daughters. They have no hang ups about nudity or seeing my husband naked. Am I am sure that at some point they will have seen him or someone else with a degree of tumescence. If happens, providing usual safeguards are in place there's no problem or issue

JenWillsiam · 24/07/2023 18:19

I think the bigger issue here is that you’re all OTT about nakedness.

CrazyLadie · 24/07/2023 18:22

YellowGem · 23/07/2023 08:56

I have NC in case any older posts are recognised and linked to this. I know this sounds off but I promise you it's genuine.

Our DD (6) came into our bed in the early hours before DH came to bed, youngest was also in our bed too. DH came and due to the massive size of our bed, he sleeps at the end if this happens as he has more than enough room.

Anyway this morning our 6 year old was up for ages, running back and forth to their room with toys and playing on the bed from 6am (although possibly earlier). I was exhausted from being up with our baby for some of the night so I was answering her every now and again but knew where she was. After a little while, I sat up and saw DH had everything hanging out, he had his own covers which were slightly off of him and it was visible. I covered DH over and woke him up to chat with him while DD got some things from her room. Neither of us know what to say, he was very clearly embarrassed and said he may have hand his hand under the waistband because they're an uncomfortable pair and just rolled over.

How would you approach this situation? We're not 100% sure she saw but I don't see how she couldn't have.

I come from a Scandanvian family and we all walked about the house naked until my son started turning his back and hiding himself then I covered up more but if he in my room while I get dressed I am not getting dressed under the covers

Ladybug14 · 24/07/2023 18:23

I'm astonished at how unpleasant some of you are being to the OP who has a parenting concern

Why can't you be kind? Even if you think she's being OTT and nowhere near as 'cool' as you are 🙄

OP - I really do think that your child would have raised it with you if she'd been concerned about what she saw

I understand that you're concerned because of something that happened at school, but I don't think you need worry

Maybe Dad wears PJ bottoms in future?

Maddy70 · 24/07/2023 18:27

This really isnt an issue. She saw a naked parent like most children do.

Why do you think it's a problem?

Nannygoat151 · 24/07/2023 18:30

Non issue . She will say something if she saw and wants to know more . Then you say what someone else said . More blood goes into it when men sleep. Stop
worrying

Blueebell · 24/07/2023 18:44

mynameiscalypso · 23/07/2023 09:05

Ah cross-post. I think it's just one of those things really. Don't make it in to a big deal.

What does cross post mean?

mumoftinyterrors · 24/07/2023 18:48

What’s the issue here? It’s their dad is it not?!?

babyproblems · 24/07/2023 18:49

God op I mean this kindly you sound really prudish!! It’s her dad for heavens sake. I thought you were going to say saw you both going at it or something more sinister! I don’t think seeing her dad sleeping in the nuddy is anything at all!!