DC may have seen something they shouldn't have

[YellowGem]

I have NC in case any older posts are recognised and linked to this. I know this sounds off but I promise you it's genuine.

Our DD (6) came into our bed in the early hours before DH came to bed, youngest was also in our bed too. DH came and due to the massive size of our bed, he sleeps at the end if this happens as he has more than enough room.

Anyway this morning our 6 year old was up for ages, running back and forth to their room with toys and playing on the bed from 6am (although possibly earlier). I was exhausted from being up with our baby for some of the night so I was answering her every now and again but knew where she was. After a little while, I sat up and saw DH had everything hanging out, he had his own covers which were slightly off of him and it was visible. I covered DH over and woke him up to chat with him while DD got some things from her room. Neither of us know what to say, he was very clearly embarrassed and said he may have hand his hand under the waistband because they're an uncomfortable pair and just rolled over.

How would you approach this situation? We're not 100% sure she saw but I don't see how she couldn't have.

Please don't share stories about your DC seeing you naked on an open forum just because an internet random asks you to. Particularly if erections are involved. Even if the OP is genuine, others who read it might not be.

Massive overreaction, complete with name change - can't help but laugh!

If you think it's a troll, don't feed it with stories about you and your partner being naked around children.

I can't believe people are responding to this tbh.

It's so grim isn't it. Can't believe people rushing to share their stories.

And then what?
Genuinely, what will happen if other people read about peoples story?

And then what?
Genuinely, what will happen if other people read about peoples story?

Ffs. You think it’s ok for mumsnet to become a host site for paedophiles?

Are you kidding?

To quote my favourite comedians “it’s just a body”

I remember having baths with my dad when I was little. Nothing weird about it, don’t remember any details!

If she asks a question, answer it. If she doesn’t, then don’t.

You shower with your 8 tear old?! Sorry that's too old.

No, I really don’t see what harm can be done to an individual if some deviant reads one of the anecdotes on here. We are talking about an adult males penis, not children’s genitalia.
It’s not like anybody is identifiable.
Does that mean we shouldn’t comment on anything to do with any bodily parts?
I’ve just seen a post where a 4 year old child’s shorts have been shown for opinions, nobody has mentioned dodgy behavior there but surely a child’s legs would attract more unwanted thoughts than an adult males sleeping experience?

Daysoffarethebest

You are extremely naive............at best.

I suppose it's up to the individual whether they want their posts to be used as wank fodder for 'some deviant'. I personally wouldn't like it, particularly where DC are concerned.

And of course some people get off on the idea of children seeing them naked, particularly in the way the OP describes. Vile but true nonetheless.

do you mean they saw his penis or they saw his erect penis?
Either way it was by accident and just his body so nothing to stress about. Do be careful in future though, you want to avoid that generally.

Yet you can’t answer the question without resorting to insults.
Interesting.
How do you live your life in the real world?
What if somebody sees your children outside and has bad thoughts about them, how do you cope I wonder🧐

You think it's fine to help someone get off to the thought of a small child being exposed to a grown man holding his erection?

The penis is not the issue with these stories. The thrill comes from the child being part of it.

Nobody has insulted you.

Walking down the street with your DC is a completely different scenario to offering stories about them seeing their parents naked (or about their periods/underwear/etc) on a public forum when asked.

MN has poo trolls/piss trolls/period trolls, among others. Not being careful about what you post, or understanding why that might be prudent, is terribly naive, sorry.

Exactly this.

I'm with @Daysoffarethebest. Of course no one wants to post anything that would titivate a pervert but if it does no one has been harmed (or would even know about it).

I understand these points but it is impossible to live life with excessive monitoring of what somebody might be thinking about something written on a parenting site which in no way affects my or my children’s safety.
And calling somebody naive is an insult.
I don’t want to derail the thread any further and was not trying to be antagonistic, just genuinely curious to understand what to me seems an extreme viewpoint, but I accept everybody is different in their views.

Well we all just walk around the house naked so I’m not clear on the issue really. I just wouldn’t say anything to be honest.

You think it's fine to help someone get off to the thought of a small child being exposed to a grown man holding his erection?

The penis is not the issue with these stories. The thrill comes from the child being part of it.

This. If you can’t see the issue, that is very concerning.

Mumsnet should not be enabling paedophiles.

As a genuine poster, of someone called me naive about children’s safety and others were pointing out an issue with my thought process, I would take it on board and try to learn why, not get annoyed.

But that's exactly what people are doing. They are sharing stories about children they either knowingly, don't care about, or naively don't realise that men will wank to. Children. I don't care if it's threads about period accidents, or big breasts, or accidentally pissing themselves. But children is a whole other level of wrong and no one should want to enable perverts with that just because no one is physically being harmed.

Who is getting annoyed?
I have been perfectly reasonable and explained my thoughts.
I do not need to learn, I see the issues just disagree with them and as already stated accept people have different viewpoints.
Maybe you could try that too.

Complete non-issue