DC may have seen something they shouldn't have

[YellowGem]

I have NC in case any older posts are recognised and linked to this. I know this sounds off but I promise you it's genuine.

Our DD (6) came into our bed in the early hours before DH came to bed, youngest was also in our bed too. DH came and due to the massive size of our bed, he sleeps at the end if this happens as he has more than enough room.

Anyway this morning our 6 year old was up for ages, running back and forth to their room with toys and playing on the bed from 6am (although possibly earlier). I was exhausted from being up with our baby for some of the night so I was answering her every now and again but knew where she was. After a little while, I sat up and saw DH had everything hanging out, he had his own covers which were slightly off of him and it was visible. I covered DH over and woke him up to chat with him while DD got some things from her room. Neither of us know what to say, he was very clearly embarrassed and said he may have hand his hand under the waistband because they're an uncomfortable pair and just rolled over.

How would you approach this situation? We're not 100% sure she saw but I don't see how she couldn't have.

Non issue

My nearly 6 year old often sees one of us getting changed. Never seen it as something unusual.

I’m actually quite shocked you think this is an issue! I had a bath with my 12 yo boy last week bc he came into the bathroom to ask me something while I was having a bath and after a while of going on about some computer game thing said “can I get in?” I said you might as well, it’s not very relaxing!
my husband and I often walk around naked in front of our 3 boys. It’s so not an issue in our house. If and when they want privacy or start to feel uncomfortable, we’ll respect that but until then it’s just normal.

Not sure what the problem is?
my dad always used to walk around his bedroom and bathroom naked and if we ran into his room that was our own fault!
if you don’t make it an issue it’s not embarrassing at all - we were known as the naked family and on holiday would all frequently jump in the pool naked (dad and mum included) and now we’re older we find it hilarious.
no need to be prudish

You can reassure her that your body parts aren't a ha ha matter. She's got some, too, and it's important that she's not ashamed of them.

As for her dad, I wouldn't be too worried about her fleetingly seeing him in the morning. If she asks, you say that they get extra blood sometimes.

My feeling is that if you all prefer to be covered up, that's absolutely fine and your choice, but making it into a big deal risks adding unnecessary shame into the mix.

I don't honestly see what the issue is I'm afraid, call me liberal but it wouldn't bother me in the slightest

Why do so many posters have to be so fucking obnoxious? It's every goddamn thread, and it is so boring and unnecessary. Can't a poster ask a simple question any more? Is that not what the flipping site is for?

@YellowGemyour daughter won't think anything of it. She's not seeing his flaccid manhood so she doesn't have a comparator. She may think it's always like that! Most likely she won't even think about it. You wouldn't have to give her any more of an explanation than, "that's what penises look like sometimes". In 10 years' time you will have a laugh with her about it, and she will be embarrassing because teens just find parents embarrassing.

My little shits used to follow me into the bathroom, lie on the floor laughing that "mummy has fur on her bum!"

My good friend's youngest daughter walked in on her dad having a bath once. For a few days she told anyone who would listen that "Daddy has a trunk like an elephant" then promptly forgot about it.

Friend's embarrassment aside, it wasn't really an issue. Though trying not to laugh at the facial expressions of the target audience was hard.

I'm totally honest with my 7yo about the body.....if she mentioned something I would tell her the truth.....why be so prudish?

OP you sound a tad prudish. My DF used to walk naked between the bathroom and bedroom after a bath etc and I am not scarred for life. It’s just part of the human male body.

I do think that some people live for the times a post appears that gives them the "freedom" to be snarky, bitchy, nasty, mean and cruel.

OP--I understand what you are saying. If she mentions it at school, there could be issues where they need to make sure your DD hasn't been hurt. I would just not make anything of it and chances are, she really didn't pay enough attention.

I wouldn't worry about it. I doubt she'll say anything.

The research evidence shows that children seeing what older people really look like and in a matter of fact way is positively beneficial. Prudery on the other hand is associated with a lot of problems, some of them very serious indeed.

I’m still not entirely sure what she saw? That was all very obscure.

I think she needs to understand that a man has a penis and what it looks like. I don't see any issue with that. I think most have seen their Dad's by accident at some point. It's also an important lesson in privacy. I might mention it to school but you can just leave it and see if they say anything. They are really used to kids coming out with what seem to be shockers but turn out harmless. I've worked with several whose Dad broke their arm for example...

Wow! Just wow! I’m shocked at the amount of parents who think walking around stark naked in front of their kids is perfectly fine! “Dad’s saggy balls, dad’s limp Willy, mum’s fanjo….”
Good god, I’m no prude but this really shocked me as I’ve never seen my parents naked and my kids have never seen me naked. I do appreciate that different families have different upbringings so 🤷🏻‍♀️

I find it bizarre that a child of 6 hasn’t seen her own Dad naked. Ours were jumping in the bath with us at every opportunity as toddlers. What isn’t normal is feeling there is any kind of problem about this.

Why on earth are you shocked? You presumably understand that not everyone has your extreme body issues?

I had a deeply puritan, devoutly religious upbringing and have never seen either parent naked, but I’m bringing up my child differently. You get that you don’t have to replicate your own childhood, right?

Why on earth are you shocked? You presumably understand that not everyone has your extreme body issues?

I had a deeply puritan, devoutly religious upbringing and have never seen either parent naked, but I’m bringing up my child differently. You get that you don’t have to replicate your own childhood, right?

yes I’m allowed to be shocked because it’s just not done in my family and any family I personally know actually but I did say I know people have different opinions. I am very uncomfortable with the idea of being naked in front of my kids, natural or not and I’m allowed to have this opinion

There is a difference between being a naturist and running screaming from a room because a child has seen an ankle

She knew the scientific names of genitals….. Do you mean Corpus spongiosum? Even I didn’t know that! If you mean penis, that’s it’s name, not it’s scientific name 😂

I’m not sure why that’s in response to my post….I haven’t suggested running at the sight of an ankle. I’m obviously in the minority here but I just don’t think it’s “perfectly normal” to have seen my dad’s penis. Another poster commented that it was actually weird that kids hadn’t seen their parents naked. Oh well, each to their own

Oh bless you. This is only going to be an issue when she blurts it out in front of the grandparents at Christmas in a loud kid voice as they do. Kids remember everything! 😆

I’d ignore it and put it down to experience! My then 8yo DD has accidentally seen her DSDs penis once when she literally walked into our bedroom one morning, usually she will knock to check we aren’t naked! She’s definitely not scarred by it!! She hasn’t burst into our bedroom again since though!!!

Don’t mention it till they do