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DC may have seen something they shouldn't have

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YellowGem · 23/07/2023 08:56

I have NC in case any older posts are recognised and linked to this. I know this sounds off but I promise you it's genuine.

Our DD (6) came into our bed in the early hours before DH came to bed, youngest was also in our bed too. DH came and due to the massive size of our bed, he sleeps at the end if this happens as he has more than enough room.

Anyway this morning our 6 year old was up for ages, running back and forth to their room with toys and playing on the bed from 6am (although possibly earlier). I was exhausted from being up with our baby for some of the night so I was answering her every now and again but knew where she was. After a little while, I sat up and saw DH had everything hanging out, he had his own covers which were slightly off of him and it was visible. I covered DH over and woke him up to chat with him while DD got some things from her room. Neither of us know what to say, he was very clearly embarrassed and said he may have hand his hand under the waistband because they're an uncomfortable pair and just rolled over.

How would you approach this situation? We're not 100% sure she saw but I don't see how she couldn't have.

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Teamofsix · 25/07/2023 17:20

Non issue

the most surprising thing to me is you’ve managed to keep private for six years!
if I had a punt for the amount of times between our four kids they just barge in to the bathroom to ask their dad a question wether he is in the shower or bath or changing id be a millionaire.

I also think bringing it up and making it into a thing will make your child feel shamed and embarrassed just ignore it they have probably forgot all about it

Stewball01 · 25/07/2023 17:21

This.

YukoandHiro · 25/07/2023 17:23

Not sure if I've missed something but both my young daughters know what their dad looks like naked - it's just a body, nothing to hide!
Obviously as they get older discretion comes into play.
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JillinSwindon · 25/07/2023 19:29

I'd suggest it's actually healthy to be unconcerned about moderate nudity within a family. Questions and comments about the differences between male/female, child/adult bodies can be answered naturally as they arise in an age-appropriate way. If children start being embarrassed or ashamed of their bodies too young it's rather sad. They naturally become modest as they get older. Seeing little children running about or playing naked, totally innocent, free and unselfconscious is a joy. My younger daughter at three or so when we went to the beach would shout 'I want to be naked!' She'd throw all her clothes off and tear up and down joyously until she settled down to play - and we'd persuade her to put her swimming costume on! Yes, there are perverts out there who would like to destroy children's innocence, but there are more good people than bad, and we shouldn't teach our children to think it's rude to be nude. Not till they're older anyway.

Jojofjo44 · 25/07/2023 19:38

I'm more concerned that you think it's an issue OP. Are you embarrassed about talking to your children about biological stuff? Kids seeing dad's morning glory is easily explained if the child asks.
"Why is your penis like that Daddy?"
"Oh, because I've just woken up and not been to the toilet yet so it's full of wee".

Nettie1964 · 26/07/2023 15:07

He is her father he wasn't flashing it about. Some families are privete some have no problem. It will only become an issue if you act embarrassed andfurtive. Does yr husband never take her swimming or look after her by himself? My husband did and a certain amount of reveal just happens being followed to the loo changing etc.

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