DC may have seen something they shouldn't have

[YellowGem]

I have NC in case any older posts are recognised and linked to this. I know this sounds off but I promise you it's genuine.

Our DD (6) came into our bed in the early hours before DH came to bed, youngest was also in our bed too. DH came and due to the massive size of our bed, he sleeps at the end if this happens as he has more than enough room.

Anyway this morning our 6 year old was up for ages, running back and forth to their room with toys and playing on the bed from 6am (although possibly earlier). I was exhausted from being up with our baby for some of the night so I was answering her every now and again but knew where she was. After a little while, I sat up and saw DH had everything hanging out, he had his own covers which were slightly off of him and it was visible. I covered DH over and woke him up to chat with him while DD got some things from her room. Neither of us know what to say, he was very clearly embarrassed and said he may have hand his hand under the waistband because they're an uncomfortable pair and just rolled over.

How would you approach this situation? We're not 100% sure she saw but I don't see how she couldn't have.

I personally wouldn’t say anything unless she asks, then I would explain about how male bodies are different and @neverenoughchelseaboots for why it was hard.

It sounds like he was having a little play with himself which isn’t ideal but I wouldn’t draw attention to it.

The bigger deal you make out of it, the bigger deal she’s going to think it is.

I do know a couple of families who walk around naked all of the time and it’s no big deal to them.
One stopped bathing with his DD when she was 7/8 and the other family’s DS is 14 and they still regularly walk around naked or get into his bed naked.
I think it’s too much personally.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the human body but I think there’s a line and I personally think teaching kids that private areas are private is more important than showing them how comfortable you must feel naked.

Like PP's, I thought you were going to say you were doing something outlanding sexually and they saw it.

I used to see my dad's saggy balls most days when he came down to make himself a cup of tea, wearing his dressing gown but not bothering to do it up.

Didn't do me any harm.

But even if it's not normal for a particular family, the situation OP describes is still not a problem. He rolled over, the DD saw his penis - it's not going to cause her any harm. The fact she was still continuing with whatever game she was playing while chatting to her mum shows that even if she saw, it didn't really register as anything to be bothered by.

*outlandish

Chill, if you don't bring it up it's unlikely she even will remember. Kids don't see things in the same way, talking about it is likely to make her remember (you get my drift)

It’s a body part seriously so what it’s not the end of the world. No need to say anything or be embarrassed.

It'll only become an issue, sear into her mind, if you make it an issue. Growing up, back in the 70s, my father slept naked. I saw him naked plenty of times growing up. I actually bathed with him until I was around your daughter's age... That was the norm amongst my generation and for those of use who had decent men as our fathers, it led to a lack of medieval bafflement/horror when we were old enough to have boyfriends (ie, the male body naked didn't send us into fits of the vapours...).

My daughter has a 4 year old stepdaughter who has never seen her father naked. Not even when they've gone swimming (daughter was 9 months old when they got together) because it's "not done" these days. So, the body of a woman that is not related to this child has been on full display to said four year old... but her biological parent's hasn't been.

I had absolutely no qualms about the male body. I knew that there were appendages that worked differently, and intrinsically I was never afraid of that. Two semi-generations later, when my (current)step-grandchild is a teenager I can genuinely see her being all "evil peen"... regardless of whether or not there are ill intentions or just some over-excited boy.

I never ever saw either of my parents naked as a child. I remember that a friend told me that she used to have long chats with her aunt (she was adopted, her own parents had died) while her aunt was IN THE BATH! I was so deeply shocked at the time, but with the wisdom of adulthood/old age think this is a lovely way to bring children up, to accept bodies as natural. I do think my parents got it very wrong, to the extent that I thought I was dying when I had my first period. And I didn't think men had a crack in their bum - they didn't need one as I knew they just had a penis hanging off the front, so obviously men's bums were just a half globe with a hole for the poo to come out. Seeing my dad naked would have helped with ideas like this 🤗

Jeez! my children always saw us naked - getting out of the shower, in the bath, changing on the beach or at the pool, wandering in for a chat whilst we got dressed. they still do. its a complete non issue in our household and always has been. we are comfortable in our bodies and our kids are comfortable in theirs. no deliberate walking around naked but just a natural thing. of course they noticed but what are you going to do talk to them about erections and sex when your husband is uncomfortable even in this situation?

@Evieanne Yep. I'm 55, I've never seen either of my parents naked. Thank fuck.

Come on everyone, share stories of your children seeing you naked, better still if there’s an erection involved. 🤔 Definitely not a troll.

Theres been some dodgy posts on other boards about this in the last few days, obviously wanting stories. Vile. Mumsnet needs to sort it.

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Neither have I. But I don't think that if, as a young child, I had accidentally seen a breast or penis, I'd have been harmed by that in any way.

No one is suggesting that OP and her DH start walking around naked all the time. But an accidental flash of a body part is different.

Ignore it and make up some crap explaining it away if she (very unlikely) asks

please don’t do the second bit.
tell the truth like a decent parent

I sleep with my daughter naked (I’m a woman) sometimes. She’s naked too. Couldn’t care less.

Bodies are normal - everybody has one.

My 3 are constantly in and out of the bathroom when I'm in the bath. Wouldn't think twice about it

I wouldn't think twice about it. My 2 are 3 and 4. They know boys have a penis and girls have a vagina.

The only issue, a massive problem, I would have is if he was having a wank with the kids in the room.

Better that, than to be so shielded from male nakedness, that when I saw my new baby brother when I was 8, my younger sister and I were horrified and thought there was something wrong with him! We had previously asked how we would know if the new baby was a boy or a girl, and my dad told us boys had bigger ears!!

This is the weirdest thread. So much unnecessary detail in the first post, yet no mention of what was actually seen.

So what?

I think she said in subsequent posts, didn’t she? Her DH’s genitals had fallen out of his boxers.

My adult DD used to climb into bed with us when she was little - when she was about 6 she woke me up one morning. Pointed at her sleeping father - he had his usual "morning glory" erection poking straight up under the sheets. "What's that ?" she asked ....oh dear. I said something about how all boys and men get like that sometimes, and suggested getting up for breakfast. She never mentioned it again and I'm sure she just forgot about it. Yours will forget too - it's no big deal.

Our children had always seen both of us naked ever since they were born. When they needed words for body parts we used penis, testicles, vagina, breast, nipple, and all their questions about babies/kittens/lambs/mating livestock/birth/hatching chickens/suckling babies were answered simply and factually.

No one gets worked up about their primary age kids seeing them naked surely. This isn't Victoria times ffs.

My father WAS a Victorian (born 1889) but I still saw him and my mother naked; perfectly natural.

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Don’t believe this for a second.