DC may have seen something they shouldn't have

[YellowGem]

I have NC in case any older posts are recognised and linked to this. I know this sounds off but I promise you it's genuine.

Our DD (6) came into our bed in the early hours before DH came to bed, youngest was also in our bed too. DH came and due to the massive size of our bed, he sleeps at the end if this happens as he has more than enough room.

Anyway this morning our 6 year old was up for ages, running back and forth to their room with toys and playing on the bed from 6am (although possibly earlier). I was exhausted from being up with our baby for some of the night so I was answering her every now and again but knew where she was. After a little while, I sat up and saw DH had everything hanging out, he had his own covers which were slightly off of him and it was visible. I covered DH over and woke him up to chat with him while DD got some things from her room. Neither of us know what to say, he was very clearly embarrassed and said he may have hand his hand under the waistband because they're an uncomfortable pair and just rolled over.

How would you approach this situation? We're not 100% sure she saw but I don't see how she couldn't have.

He also had pants on?

So you think she noticed he had an erection through his pants and it’s going to concern her? Freak her out?

She probably didn’t even notice.

The whole ‘name changed for this incase it’s linked to other posts’ for something that’s a non issue, seems overkill

Unless this means he had his hand in his pants along with the erection which might suggest he was masturbating?

Its not ideal but it's not the end of the world. Don't catastropise.

I think the fact that you're so panicked about it, can't even describe it clearly in your opening post, won't even say the very normal word, erection, and have issues with your daughter seeing you naked suggests you might want to have a think about what conversations you have had/will have with your daughter about puberty, sex and male and female bodies

Otherwise she's in danger of being very misinformed.

I don't understand-sorry!

Say nothing us less she does. I remember age 3 or 4 going in the bathroom a few times for a wee when my dad was in the bath, I saw him naked briefly, it never occurred to me as being out of the ordinary. I also had a brother so I knew that boys had a different willy to girls

Nothing to worry about.

I wouldn't say anything. The more of an issue you make it, the more unnatural a human body will seem to her. It's not like he is parading around naked! It was an accident and I don't feel you should be ashamed of a body :) it's only sexual if you make a body into it.

This is quite mad. I thought from the title that young children had been exposed to hardcore pornography or something!

That was a really long winded way of saying she saw her dad naked!

Given you can’t even bring yourself to type the word penis, do you think you might have some body hang ups?

I think you are overly worried about this, my DD has seen her dad naked plenty of times.

Is that all?! Just say a man's penis can change size. You don't need to say why it happens.

Exactly

Unless she brings it up, say nothing - it’s just her Dad’s body, there is no need.

If she does PP’s explanation is good.

Nope, he'd fallen out of his boxers.

Not a troll post.

One of my friends was spoken to by the school as her child said she saw her dad's bits, obviously due to safeguarding they had to ask. So I just didn't know if we should discuss it, especially as both of our dads were private people.

I have already talked to my DD about certain subjects since she's raided our bathroom cupboard, she also knows how we give birth. If she asks a question, she gets the answer in age appropriate terms and we don't shy away from it. She knew the scientific names of genitals unlike many of her peers. We are very open about all of that so you don't need to worry about our parenting from that perspective.

I'm not mentioning certain words as I didn't want to attract weirdos to this thread.

My word, you do read some crap on here 🤦🏻‍♀️

Stop worrying....if she mentions it explain in an age appropriate way.

If she asks, casually say what’s suggested up thread, then casually (not desperately) change the subject. What’s important is not making a big deal of it.

Yes, I'm not sure why you posted if you didn't have anything constructive to say?

Blimey. Our kids saw us naked all the time when they were young. I thinks it’s really odd to be prudish about this.

@YellowGem how ridiculous that you are making an issue out of something that is nothing!

I doubt this post is even real. Just another troll day here on MN 🙄

Even if it was erect I doubt a 6 year old would ever know the difference. Why would a 6 year old know the difference between an erect or not erect penis? As far as a kid is concerned it’s a male body part which you are born with that makes you male or female. You say she knows about genitalia, so obviously knows dad’s body is different to mum’s so what’s the big deal here?

What do you mean, she has raided the bathroom cabinet so she knows how you give birth?

I don't think those were specifically connected. OP said "I have already talked to my DD about certain subjects since she's raided our bathroom cupboard, she also knows how we give birth"

So I'm assuming periods were explained after the bathroom cupboard was raided. Birth has also been separately explained.

Nothing to worry about here @YellowGem just move on. 🌻