Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Original poster

Husband wants to kick ds out?

288 replies

Clarke1979 · 26/02/2023 19:22

Ds turned 18 last week and his dad has been asking when he’s going to move out. This has come completely out of nowhere! We never spoke about it before his birthday at all! Husband made comments when he was a baby about kicking him out when he was 18 (he did the same with dd, 15, as well) but I never took him seriously. Ds is currently in college full time, learning to drive and working one day a week. He wants to work more now that he is 18 but before we agreed one shift a week so that he could focus on corse work. I’m telling my husband that he’s being completely unreasonable but we’ve been arguing all week. Husband says that he’s an adult now and needs to act like one. Contemplating moving out with my son at this point. Any advice?

OP posts:
MaryKateDanaher · 26/02/2023 19:22

Kick your husband out instead. What a shit.

AnyFucker · 26/02/2023 19:23

Your husband goes.

AlwaysGinPlease · 26/02/2023 19:25

I'd be kicking the husband out. What an awful " man" he is. Get rid!

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

18 years old Families General parenting
TwilightSkies · 26/02/2023 19:25

Yep husband needs to go. What a strange man.

Shopper727 · 26/02/2023 19:27

So how is your son meant to support himself? he’s still at college not really earning so dependent on you both, my son still came under child benefit etc for his first year at college. Your husband is a nob chuck him out

BCBird · 26/02/2023 19:27

I can imagine this is a shock. How can he move out and continue his studies? I was expecting to read that your son is a nightmare and bringing the family loads of grief. Out of interest was your husband forced to be self-sufficient very early or did he choose to do this and cannot see why your son isn't doing the same? Good luck finding some sort of resolution.

Original poster
Clarke1979 · 26/02/2023 19:29

Agreed but I’m honestly heartbroken that he’s acting like this! Also extremely confused. My son is really upset as well and feels that dad doesn’t love him but has been looking into renting a room from his friend’s parents. I’ve told my husband that if ds goes then I go and I’ve been told that I’m too soft?! Honestly wtf?

OP posts:
FourTeaFallOut · 26/02/2023 19:29

Why would your dh chop him off at the knees when your ds is making all the smart moves towards independence?

FictionalCharacter · 26/02/2023 19:30

Good lord. The lad is in full time college, he hasn’t finished his education! Does your husband want to make him feel unloved and unwelcome in his home? How hurtful for your son.
Husband should move out if he doesn’t want to live with his son and daughter in the family home that’s theirs as much as his. He can live on his own, then he doesn’t have to kick anyone out.

Lottsbiffandsmudge · 26/02/2023 19:30

I assume your son in his final year of compulsory eduction. As such he cannot be expected to be self sufficient
What an asshole your DH is. Unless there is a massive backstory you haven't mentioned then honestly WTF???
My reply would be 'err no DS stays you leave if you don't like it!'

Original poster
Clarke1979 · 26/02/2023 19:30

No my son is not trouble at all! My husband turned 18 the summer he graduated and moved out by choice.

OP posts:
MrsGeoWolf · 26/02/2023 19:31

Your husband needs to act like a parent!!!!

TwilightSkies · 26/02/2023 19:31

The amount of emotional damage this will do to your son…..

who owns the house?

Bunnyishotandcross · 26/02/2023 19:31

Well obviously he needs to go. He needs to see he isn't wanted there...
And I don't mean your ds...

MamOfFive · 26/02/2023 19:32

Is your husband even aware there's a cost of living crisis?! How does he expect his child to live on his own working 1 shift a bloody week!?

I'd be telling him to sling his hook and leave himself.

Suzi888 · 26/02/2023 19:32

Did your DD go?

Axahooxa · 26/02/2023 19:32

Awful behaviour

Undermyumberellaellaella · 26/02/2023 19:33

Goodbye husband.

teapotfullofsquash · 26/02/2023 19:33

My dad was like this to me when I was 18. Non stop complaining about me moving out. Wanted a large chunk of my pathetic apprenticeship wage for rent aswel.

It was unbearable and I left as soon as I could. Had to go into renting and have never been able to save for a mortgage because of this. I'm now in my mid 30s and it's it's just so depressing to know il never own my own home.

VivaVivaa · 26/02/2023 19:34

I struggle to believe this is completely out of the blue behaviour from an otherwise kind and respectful husband and father?

ArcticSkewer · 26/02/2023 19:34

Where is your daughter?

You could all move out, or your husband moves out.

icountallthebeans · 26/02/2023 19:34

Where does DD live? If she moved out, when did she move out?

MrsCarson · 26/02/2023 19:35

My MIL did this to two of her three children. Neither of the two had a relationship with her once they were married and had their own children, or spoke to her even as she was dying. Neither were any trouble. Both have had successful lives and marriages.
Boot out your Dh he sounds horrible that he would even consider this and your Ds sounds lovely.

MissMarplesbag · 26/02/2023 19:36

Kick your husband out, the emotionally abusive twat.

Rockingcloggs · 26/02/2023 19:36

Over my dead body would I be living with this man for longer than it took me to get his stuff together and throw him out.

Swipe left for the next trending thread