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Hurt and confused someone has suggested there’s something wrong with my son?

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user1493889010 · 08/04/2022 10:49

Sorry this is probably a really superficial post but I am deeply hurt by a comment made by someone who is friends with me on my private social media account (someone I used to attend college with). I uploaded a collage of my baby son and amongst all the usual, lovely expected comments he posted:

‘Is something wrong with your son?’

After asking why they then commented:

‘Your son's eyes bulge like a child with Down's Syndrome.’

I replied saying there was nothing wrong with my son that he was healthy and happy and that his comment was rude and he replied:

‘Sorry, but that's why I asked if anything was wrong. Why would I pick on your son?
The fact is he looks like he has bulging eyes. That's why I asked whether anything was wrong whether it be Down's Syndrome or something else. I'm not a doctor so don't expect me to get the diagnosis correct from a few photos if there was something wrong.
Your eyes and your baby's eyes are very different. I don't know if it's just because he is a baby, not having any children of my own. But that isn't something I noticed in my neices and nephews when they were babies. Paediatricians must have a hard job dealing with parents who have something wrong with their child, but can’t admit it. Sorry’

Something that was intended to be such a positive experience sharing pictures of my son with my friends and family has turned out to be so negative. Why would he say this? Does my baby look like there’s something wrong with him? I feel very hurt and confused.

Here’s the collage I posted I have just added a picture in the middle of my eyes because of his comment about my eyes and my sons eyes.

Post edited by MNHQ to remove image as requested by OP

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Headabovetheparakeet · 08/04/2022 10:52

No, of course there's nothing wrong with your baby. The person who made those comments probably just wanted to hurt you. I would assume it's more about them and what's happening in their lives than about you and your son.

Holly60 · 08/04/2022 10:54

Your son is beautiful, ignore the comments. You would know if your son had a developmental delay because he wouldn’t be meeting his milestones.

Soontobe60 · 08/04/2022 10:55

Block her!

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user1493889010 · 08/04/2022 10:55

Thank you. Yes he’s meeting all his milestones

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DuchessofAnkh22 · 08/04/2022 10:56

Block/delete them and never think about it again.

They are trying to bully you for some reason.

frazzledasarock · 08/04/2022 10:57

Your friend sounds like an utter idiot.

There is nothing wrong with your babies eyes, (from an on paed, laywoman's view altho I have children and I'm pretty sure my youngest had big inquisitive eyes like that).

Your son is very cute.

I'd tell the 'friend' that he's right, he has no idea what he's talking about not being a paed specialist HCP or any kind of HCP and what with not having children.
Perhaps he needs to go to specsavers though, get his eyes checked out.

Then block the utter idiot.

Alfixnm · 08/04/2022 10:57

Your son is a beautiful healthy looking baby OP. That person was breathtakingly rude in a way that suggests they are intentionally doing so, or are a very odd person themselves.

greyinganddecaying · 08/04/2022 10:57

Your "friend" is an insensitive twat. Who says things like that?

Ignore (& potentially cut contact) - your son looks fine to me.

SnotMikeUpPuffedHe · 08/04/2022 10:58

Paediatricians must have a hard job dealing with parents who have something wrong with their child, but can’t admit it.

Paediatricians don't generally accost people in the street (which is effectively what this person has done) and make unwanted comments about the appearance of their babies.

Your baby looks fine. If you want to be nice, you could say that no midwife, health visitor or GP (and you've probably seen plenty with a child that age) have ever flagged a concern.

Otherwise just ignore, and if they've made this comment publically, be reassured that everyone is rolling their eyes at them.

Original poster
user1493889010 · 08/04/2022 10:58

Yes already blocked! But for some reason his words are still ringing in my ears. I have no idea why as he was just a friendly acquaintance I’d say a brief hello to.

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leftphilange · 08/04/2022 10:58

Beautiful baby absolutely nothing wrong with him and you need to drop this person from your life.

They have no medical awareness and if there was something wrong (which there isn't) check ups would have discovered it.

This person has absolutely no place in asking such a question.

Macaroni46 · 08/04/2022 10:59

He's adorable OP and she's a massive c*nt. Ignore her and block.

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user1493889010 · 08/04/2022 10:59

Thank you. He’s not a friend just an acquaintance I had back in college. I’ve blocked him

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JemimaTiggywinkle · 08/04/2022 10:59

Really weird comment from your “friend”. Your baby looks fine.
I think you should ask for your post to be deleted though - I don’t think its a good idea to have pictures of your baby on a public forum.

leftphilange · 08/04/2022 11:00

@user1493889010

Yes already blocked! But for some reason his words are still ringing in my ears. I have no idea why as he was just a friendly acquaintance I’d say a brief hello to.
That's almost even worse! Say if there was a medical issue there which you were well aware of and dealing with, who the fuck is he to raise it if you haven't done so first.

Glad you've blocked. Extra hugs for your lovely baby today Smile

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user1493889010 · 08/04/2022 11:02

Well exactly! Really bizarre situation. Thank you so much

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GetOffTheTableMabel · 08/04/2022 11:02

You have an absolutely gorgeous baby. Congratulations!

VeryMuchFlaggingMinty · 08/04/2022 11:03

He's a complete tit...doesn't really know you, clearly knows bugger all about babies and has absolutely no tact whatsoever.

You and your little boy both have lovely eyes Smile

CheedarChese · 08/04/2022 11:04

He's a weirdo, best rid, well done. Beautiful baby by the way xxx

Original poster
user1493889010 · 08/04/2022 11:04

Thank you for the advice I will ask.

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SleepingStandingUp · 08/04/2022 11:06

Even if your child had Down Syndrome, he'd deserve to be blocked and ignored for the stupid qn. I had so many strangers coem and ask what was WRONG with my child. Nothing. He just has some medical needs. That doesn't mean there's something wrong. Different chromosomes are different, not wrong.

MrsHaroldRobbins · 08/04/2022 11:07

What a nasty, unnecessary and frankly downright rude comment. Your baby is beautiful. Please don't give that person another thought and enjoy your baby.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 08/04/2022 11:09

I normally just assume people are stupid rather than malicious, but in this case (for whatey reason) it is clear from the further response that the comment was malicious.

Your "friend" doesn't think there is anything "wrong" with your baby. They just want to spoil your happiness and cause you anxiety.

Figgygal · 08/04/2022 11:09

Bloody idiot
Glad you've blocked him

Easterisoffeggstooexpensive · 08/04/2022 11:10

Your baby is very beautiful as he would be if he had DS. Ignorant people op... And likely envious of a gorgeous baby!
Never give it a second thought honestly..

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