AIBU to give older child breast milk?

[SamanthaJol2]

I completely failed to BF my DD and seem to have lots of excess milk with my DS, would it be ok to give my daughter expressed BM to alleviate some of the guilt I feel for failing her?

Why would I feel guilty? I don't give a monkeys about how anyone else feeds their children, breast or bottle, so if anyone cares how I did I wouldn't have noticed.
I feel proud. I fed, cuddled, nurtured, encouraged and loved my children through their early days, and I am now supporting them through their childhood. I adore them, and how I milk fed them as babies has no bearing on that.

@CaptainChannel and nothing that anybody said on here would change your feelings towards it? Maybe I lack self esteem. I don’t know why this has happened to me

No. I am not affected by other people on here. I did the best for my DC and I still do. As do you I suspect.

@CaptainChannel and do you consider yourself a good mum? Don’t feel guilty about things? X

[quote SamanthaJol2]@CaptainChannel thank you. Also, does it bother you when other mums say breast is best, does it make you feel guilty? (I have never felt guilty before so I really don’t believe you should)[/quote]
Nobody says that nowadays

It won't do any harm, my 2 year old drank an entire 10oz bottle of newborn DS breast milk. He LOVED it, he rarely drinks milk anymore even though I encourage it

I don't think it'll do any benefits tho

@SamanthaJol2 yes I do think I'm the best mum I can be. As I said before my children are fed, loved, sheltered and supported. I am not perfect, nobody is, and there are always moments when I've thought that I could have done something better. But do I feel guilty for formula feeding my children? Absolutely not. It was right for me at the time.
Agree that no one says Breast is Best anymore, but if you spend your time tracking feeding threads on mumsnet you will eventually find someone who is very pro breastfeeding- there's nothing wrong with this either and it's not said to offend you.

Thank you so much for your help I really mean that

@Lifeisnteasy because no one starts a thread asking if it's OK to give a child cow's milk.

@maa32

It won't do any harm, my 2 year old drank an entire 10oz bottle of newborn DS breast milk. He LOVED it, he rarely drinks milk anymore even though I encourage it

I don't think it'll do any benefits tho

Oh there's still tons of benefits. It's really nutritious.

@CaptainChannel There are so many threads on here or women that say they will ‘never get over not breastfeeding’

You don't need to read them. Most people in the non virtual world get over it once their child is past the milk feeding stage, if not before.
Why are you reading these threads? What are you getting from it? Stay away from things that make you feel bad about yourself. Does anyone ask you how you were fed as a baby? Is it on your CV? It's not going to have an impact on your dds future. Get some real life help if you can't get over this.

@CaptainChannel so it’s ok to be a little sad about it but shouldn’t affect your life?

I don't know if this helps but I have 2 birth children and one adopted and she obviously couldn't be breast fed by me (but with me from birth) and she would tell you she feels just as loved as the others. The others would say she is loved more because she is the baby and therefore they think she is spoilt!

@SamanthaJol2 did you manage to speak to someone?

There are so many threads on here or women that say they will ‘never get over not breastfeeding’
They may not and that's their journey.

There are others who are happy with their feeding decisions (formula or breastfeeding or both).

There are others who weren't happy that their decision to breastfeed wasn't adequately supported and may have experienced complex emotions regarding this, but have come to a point of acceptance

Any decisions you make regarding your child's milk intake now should be independent of her infant months.