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Anyone want to join me in my "let 'em be children fgs" campaign?

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hunkermunker · 27/10/2007 00:56

It involves NOT setting arbitrary dates for things such as:

stopping bottles/breastfeeding
being out of nappies
sucking thumbs/fingers
having a comfort blanket

and probably lots more things I can think of.

Because all this sort of judgemental "ooh, I hate seeing a child of x age doing y thing" stuff is bullshit and none of anyone else's business. All children develop and achieve things at different ages and it would be very nice if people realised that once in a while.

No?

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FromGirders · 27/10/2007 01:05

Sign me up!
HATE it when people try to stop ds sucking his thumb. He inly does it when he's worried fgs! Or tired or bored , actually, but if people comment on it, it worries him!

Shitemum · 27/10/2007 01:09

ok hunker, fess up, do you still suck your thumb? I gave up when i was 18 [preen]

HunkOLantern · 27/10/2007 01:10

Nope. I stopped sucking my fingers when I was 8 or so.

Still have a bottle though

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madamez · 27/10/2007 01:11

I'll sign up! I'll take the pledge to stop worrying about DS still being in nappies at 3 . After all, I will be 43 next birthday but still act (as I am freqently told) like I'm 14.

HunkOLantern · 27/10/2007 01:12

Madamez, you must stop worrying about that. DS1's just stopped wearing 'em at 3.6 - and I thought he never would.

Bewilderbeast · 27/10/2007 01:15

oh count me in I am so sick of interfering busy bodies. He's my child "back off bitches"

Sazisi · 27/10/2007 01:33

Sign me up too; I am sick of people judging children, pick on someone your own size

DD2 isn't ready to lose the nappies (she'll be 3 in 4 months), and DD3 isn't ready to lose milkies (9 months, I'm hoping to keep it up until Spring..)

Wish DD1 would bloody grow up though

harpsicorpsecarrier · 27/10/2007 07:28

lol at back off bitches
quite right
"isn't that interesting that you think that" is my favourite phrase

BandofMutantMonsters · 27/10/2007 07:38

Hmm, get a bit tired of when are you getting rid of the night time nappy.
DD1 is 4 at xmas, but still very wet in the am, and I have only just got them sleeping in the same room all thru the night. DD2 is actually teething AGAIN and waking at 5:30 AGAIN So I am really not keen to introduce something new into the night time routine.

CorrieDale · 27/10/2007 08:01

Why is it anybody else's business? I don't expect anybody but me and DH to change my 2.4 year old's nappies. Or anybody but me to give him or his sister a feed.

And still being in nappies does not mean he is thick. He just still wears nappies. Geddit? (THAT was for the benefit of the silly planks at the swimming pool who made a big thing of their children having been potty trained. Big deal.)

CorpseBrideOfJohnCusack · 27/10/2007 08:06

sign me up too

LadyTophamHatt · 27/10/2007 08:10

I had my blanket untill Iwas 25 and the thought of it being in some landfil site now makes me feel all sad and weepy.

I'm deffo a member of this gang

I threw it away when I was PG with ds1. Bloody PG hormones have ALOT to answer too!!!

AussieSim · 27/10/2007 08:11

I was waiting in line at a museum the other day that has this great area for 3 - 6 yo's to construct things in. They also have a Diana exhibition on at the moment which the oldies appear to be flocking too. A little boy of 4 was a tad impatient with queing and was running around with his buddy and at one stage stopped near the front of the que and 'roared' at his buddy as boys are wont to do. An old guy - fit 60's shouts at him 'Shut Up Willya!'. The little boy runs away and the mum walks up to the old guy and says "If you would like my son to be quiet you could try asking him politey - you grumpy old man." and he says "Yes I am a grumpy old man" to which she replies as she is walking away "Yes, a very rude grumpy old man". Later at the construction site I congratulated her. It gives me a bit of a boost and encourages me to be a bit more responsive should I be in a similar position.hgrin]

CantSleepWontSleep · 27/10/2007 08:15

One of my friends 'nicely' threatened her 2.6 yo ds with a wooden spoon if he didn't share his toys nicely with my dd the other day. I don't care if he doesn't want to share at this age - surely most kids don't. Just let them be kids and fight it out amongst themselves!

stripeymama · 27/10/2007 08:21

Oh please sign me up.

DD (4.6) still sucks her finger a lot and was told on a bus last week by an interfering old prune to stop doing it, and when she ignored the advice the old prune tried to tug the finger out from dd's mouth.

Why anyone else should care I do not know.

squimlet · 27/10/2007 08:34

cor add me to this group. I dislike people telling me what my child should and shouldnt be doing. he will learn at his rate not theirs!!

OozingSlashesFromTigerFeet · 27/10/2007 08:36

I'm in

Some people ar just so goddam rude

DD came out of nappies later than some... when she was ready. SHe has just given up her dummy... she was ready to. Minimum fuss all round.

Now, I'm sure she'll start sleeping through the night when she's ready

stripeymama · 27/10/2007 08:40

Exactly!

If they are left til they are ready then its always sooooo much easier.

DD was just left in night time nappies with nothing being said until we had two solid weeks of them being dry in the morning ( she was just over three). The end result is the same however hard you push for it, I mean they'll work it all out eventually whatever you do or don't do.

Theclosetpagansbesom · 27/10/2007 08:45

You can sign me up too.

Not that I mind if anyone else has a problem about the age my child stops doing certain things. Personally I just think "let him be and he'll do it when he's ready".

The threads that comment on these things don't overly bother me tbh. It's more when my mother makes comments that I get annoyed.

Nightynight · 27/10/2007 08:46

well sorry but I dont agree. I found the sight of my 23 year old brother sucking his thumb all over the house revolting

harpsicorpsecarrier · 27/10/2007 08:52

toilet training is not a sign of intelligence, but it is considered so by some parents who have little else to crow about
I like to remind them that I have successfully house trained several rabbits
geniuses, all.

MrsLynetteScavo · 27/10/2007 08:55

Sign me up!

Lady Topham Hat - you threw away your blanket? I still have mine somewhere, but it's just a rag. I once found DH washing the car with a very similar object, and threw the biggest fit ever.

Nightynight · 27/10/2007 08:55

actually, harpsi, I am seriously researching a thesis on the subject that late potty training is a sign of great intelligence.

I would go barking mad otherwise, at yet another poo in pants from soon-to-be 4 year old dd.

MrsLynetteScavo · 27/10/2007 08:59

I was recently judgemental (yes me!) about a mum who brought a pushcahir to pick her child up from reception, so he wouldn't have to walk the 100m to their car. I then realised I was arguing with my ds every day, trying to pursuade him to walk from his classroom to the car, while he complained he was too tired, and wanted me to cary him (as well as his bags and a sleepy 2 year old) Who was the fool?

harpsicorpsecarrier · 27/10/2007 09:00

nightynight I feel the same way about bad sleepers

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