May Babies... part 6! (keep up you April Mums... pfft!)

[GeorginaA]

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yeah,, dd only had half an hour this morning. dang, going to have to take her out shopping now to let her sleep/

yes, i know how my friend must feel kbaby, but it's only been arranged that we were going away for about a month - and it was my idea!! strongly hinted to dh ! anyway, we'll see. have been thinking about it and i am staying at my mums for a week next month. may use it as a trial. might see if she takes a bottle from my mum in the night instead. then imay even leave her for the night. it's lovely that you've got relaxed and used to your mum having dd each week. i only wish my mum was closer so she could. like i said, mil is a no go for me!

right, think dd is baby einsteined up to the eyeballs so best go

blimey!! ds slept for 3 hours

had his bottle ready and now he is happy and enjoying his tree and the rain
well, me thinks he just left me a "present"!!!!

nice one that toe trick - but still can't roll back onto back yet (@georgina)

egypt: fab idea the "trial week", so you get reassured too - but i bet dd will get spoiled anyways and don't want to go home anymore

allrighty, 2nd course for little mister! butternutsquash and chicken

and then we'll have a look at that "present"

egypt i think im only relaxed because its my mum. mil is a no go also.
you could say to your friend that your taking dd and that you will just meet uo on the night of your bday for a meal and the rest of the time spend it together as a family.
did you tell her when you booked that dd may be going

what day! central heating man just gone. He was still here last night at 9pm! how ds slept thro from 7pm i don't know. And we are getting a new fire! Yipee {gtin}

susi, when lying on his mat, ds loves grabbing his toes and putting it in his mouth! I know i can't believe he can do that! snap kbaby!

egypt, i agree with susi, you decide what YOU want to do. If you decide to leave DD behind, please don't feel guilty. She doesn't know its your 30th and will see you again after your weekend break and she won't no any different. But at the end of the day its what you want and what you feel most comfortable with.

off to play with ds1 & 2. Back later.

well we'd both said ages ago that it would be nice to spend our bdays together - we usually do, but this one is a bit special. then i suggested to dh that maybe he get in touch with her dp so they could sort out a 'surprise' for us! needless to say they decided to book a w/e away. i assumed dd would go and so did dh. bf obviously didn't . we are actually going 3 days after our bday, as our bday is on the weds. we can't really split as we are flying together, staying in same hotel, etc. i may see how it goes with mum but tbh i just wish we werent going at all now. stupid aren't i?

forgot to mention about your dd. i think she is fine to sleep on her side by this age. if she has got good enough head control she won't suffocate. she'll call you if she is uncomfortable. the hv (although a pain in the arse) said this to one of the mums there who has the same prob. her dd will only sleep on her front. if put on her back she rolls to front to sleep. she just lets her now and she's fine. you could do the rolled up towels either side of her to be sure, but not sure this is very easy when they are in a cot. easier in a moses basket cos the sides are nearer.

got the tights from next they only had 3-6 months in the nice 3 pack sets, cream, pink and lilac. had to get some 6-9 months in another set, which are cream and pink, but think i can see some spots on them. .. hmmmmm

not much of a successful shopping trip really. dd was w grumbly the whole time. went to a feeding room to feed her but she was totally distracted by all the noises of people walking and banging doors shut that she didnt feed. and it rained.

very strange! ds is asleep again!!
he does have his happy moments but most of the day he is just whiney. grabbing his ear and constantly rubbing his eyes. the 3rd nap he is having today confused icon
i hope it is just the tooth

oh dear susi. are you giving him anything. hopefully he will have a restful night as he is obviously very very tired.

dd has just gone to bed. bit early. lets see if we have a 45/90 min waking.

dh came home early today. well 5.30, which is for him. why? because he thought the footy was on the tv,, he was wrong, it's on sky. so he went to the pub instead. hmph. no, i did say i didnt mind. he had a lovely play with dd which he usually doesnt get the chance to. dinner will be left in the oven though. i'm having mine and getting an early night. knackered.

Yikes!! I'm sure...yep, i definatly posted yesterday...what happened?!

My mother is staying for a couple of days (family overload people) which is why i'm not totaly up to date!!

I purchased a poncho today!!!!! and i really like it, i now know what all the fuss is about

Egypt, Susi and hewlettsdaughter poor you about the unsettled nights

Susi and kbaby-ooh, ooh! can't wait until kiera finds her feet!!

Egypt-hmmm tough one. I would say go to prauge and take DD, but if you dh is understanding, try and give him most of the responsability over the weekend so you can chill without worrying iykwim. If you eat out and dd starts making a fuss, get dh to take her out. Also see if dh will stay at night with her, so you can go out on the town with you bf. Don't know if any of that helps, but it's kinda best of both worlds.

BTW-i've been to prague and it is beautiful

Oh georgina-soooo jelous of the rolling

Libb-how's it going hon?

Kiera is 5 months old today people!!!!

Susi-i wonder if our d's are teething together? kiera has had bright red cheeks and been very whingy for days now, and it's not like her at all.

Hope everyone has a good evening

xxxxx

his 3rd nap was again only 30min but he was happy again when he woke up! played alot with him and so did dp - but then at 6.30 was all tired again!!! (decided to skip the bath today)
i put him to bed but he wouldn't stop crying - bonjela did the trick in the end!
well, 10min later he cried again - was on his tummy that time - turn over, dummy in and he is still asleep.
going to feed him in a mo and hope he'll get a good night - well, me too that is

cat: seems like! only 6 days apart our lo's

libb: how's it going for you??

wish all of you a wonderful night with lots of sleep

I really can't keep up with you lot. Just read all that I missed on the last thread and started on this one. Thanks everyone for the milk advice. Sounds like she will need 5-6 oz in 3 bottles. Thats a lot to express but will see how it goes.

Egypt I really don't think your friend understands what it is like to have a baby and quite how much they change your life. Have you had any further thoughts?

Went to the doctor yesterday for post-mirena checkup and she can't find the strings so I have to go for a scan. Asked about contraception and she wouldn't say I was safe not to use anything so not only am I exclusively breast feeding and have had a coil fitted but I need something else too. Although abstinence seems to be working quite well at the moment.

DD is nearly sitting up but fell over forwards today at my friend's house and had a nose bleed. . Guilty mother alert.

You guys are sooooo rude!!!!!!!!! (title of your thread).

Sorry Bozza, I know it's terrible isn't it...?

Egypt, that's good that you can do a test run. If you know that dd is going to be happy, perhaps it might be worth considering a couple of days' break. I'm sure the investment in your friendship will be really appreciated by your pal. Only if you want to, mind... Remember that dd can't count hours, so you might as well leave her for two days as one. As long as she's not miserable, which by the sound of things she won't be. What I mean is, you may be going 'oh my God, two whole days' but she be thinking 'hum I seem to still be at granny's, anyway where's the dairy?' Don't know if that quite makes sense...

My funny DD has started touching her head as if she's just found it. With her flat hand, or like a salute. I do agree with her, it feels very nice all fuzzy-like. She also rolls at night onto her stomach and is never found in the position she was left in, which is both comic and scary.

Oh, you've reminded me spots.
Egypt, not only can your dd not count the hours, but whilst you are not there she probably won't even remember you exist. They haven't yet got the concept of "object permanance". So if they can't see or hear something (even the mummy who they love more than anything) their brains can't grasp that it still "is". It's why they don't get peekaboo yet, and if you take a toy away they won't turn to look for it.

Oops - just realised it's january that you are going so she will have got it by then! But she still won't have a sense of time.

I know what you mean about that time thing - DS happily sat with his arm in the air looking vaguely like a wave at me this morning as I pelted down the pavement and when I picked him up he just gooned with a vague "oh, I know you don't I?" face . . . whereas DP gets tons of smiles and "hey you!" looks . . .

yesss libb! same here - i always complaing but doesn't change anything - still all giggles for daddy

bozza: hope everything works out great for you

dang, had a bad night! not due to ds though! he was fab! fed him 9.30 (he didn't even wake up ) and next time 4am - and woke up at 7.
but! i got a flu - was shivering all night just freezing cold! after 2 hours i finally put long trousers, socks and a jumper on - well, got a bit hot in the morning - and i just kept waking up every hour or so. - ds cried out loud 2-3times but think it was just a dream. he didn't wake up ... and at 4 after bottle he decided "it's playtime" talking loud in his cot and laughing and banging ...but 10min later and he was gone - same at 7: he woke me with his talking and laughing - really cute
i just feel pants! everything hurts and got temperature as well. and a baby who wants to be carried about - he seems double heavy now!!!
and dp came home in the morning i told him i am ill and what did he do? went to bed! he couldn't even spend 15min and help me out with ds; who was screaming his head off ... well, we managed and he is happy now; talking to his tree
ohhhh and it's pouring down here today

Poor Susi.It really is that time of year.

Georgina is DS still doing lots of fidget y feeds? DD is driving me up the wall with it.

Just had most definite positive reaction on baby rice. She was leaning right in to the spoon, mouth open, telling it loudly how delicious it was (so that big gobs were coming out).

Am looking into getting a bit of childcare for DD while this job is on. I met with the clients yesterday and they are willing to subsidise it, seeing as how they pulled the deadline forward. hurrah! Another mum who lives along the road is looking to do some childminding so we're booked in for an experimental hour next Monday.

Yes, loads spots I'm actually becoming convinced that his night waking is due to that rather than genuinely "needing" night feeds, tbh. He has a huge drink in the middle of the night then is not interested again in the morning.

Morning all!

Awww Susi, poor you you have my upmost sympathy. I didn't have the flu, but i had the cold from hell for over a week, and it's really zonked me. Everything seems so much more of an effort when you feel like that doesn't it?

Libb- totaly the same with kiera and dp, loads of smiles and giggles for him. I think she's bored of me now. She looks at me with this "i see you every day, and i need a change!" look.

Spots-glad you had a good reaction to baby rice, kiera goes through phases of liking it and diving onto the spoon and then screwing her face up and gagging. Eh? what's that about?!

Oh bozza poor you! Hope the scan goes okay.

Well, it's pouring down with rain here, and i haven't learned how to fit the rain cover to our new buggy, and i have to go to a coffee thing this afternoon with my old mother and baby group. Bugger.

Take care everyone

xxxx

heloooo,

so sorry you are feeling ill susi. nothing worse when you have a little one to look after. luckily have managed to sidestep any illnesses yet, but i'm sure its only a matter of time.

hope the scan goes ok bozza. where's the string then!?!!

getting into the nitty gritty of it, am on the mini pill, but totally unconvinced its as effective as the other. i know it's not but nearly as good as. but you have to remember to take it at the same time each day, never over 3 hours late. oh god. have missed it lots. might as well just not take it and use something else. i am petrified of getting pregnant again.

havent really thought indepth about the prague thing again,no. kind of makes me fell ill when i do so push it to the back of my mind! shall chat to my mum. find it hard to tell dh. firstly cos he doesnt know we know where we're going, so arguments that bf wants to see lots isnt going to work, and also cos i told him i wanted to take her when he booked!

off to clinic to see what dd weighs today. missed last week. also will speak to hv about her nights. she woke again last night after 45 mins and wouldnt settle for half an hour. then woke at 1030, 2.30,5,7,8.15 she had an hour this morning. 10-11. used to sleep longer then too. is also q unsettled. is calling me now. lord, i can't leave her alone for 5 mins anymore!!!!!!

noone about?

been to see hv. dd is 16lb4oz and 64cms. climbing 75th percentile line perfectly! hv said about her waking:

give her breakfast and dinner, rather than just lunch.
try her with some water instead of bf, cos you're making it too nice for her and she's expecting it.
get dh to settle her more, she needs to accept you can't always be there.
cc!!!!

i feel worse than b4 i went.

hi all. busy day again. I had a dentist appt everything ok, but my dentist is going private. Will there be any NHS dentists left in this country? She will continue to see the kids though. then i took ds to co, he's pretty pheglmy at the moment, so she did some massage for him to bring it up. Then to the hosp. to see ds's consultant re. uti's. We get is scan results in Nov, so hopefully he won't require surgery.

Egypt, don't feel bad. Your HV just gave you her opinion, and you work it how you want to. Just introduce dinner and lunch steadily. it doesn't mean they're going to sleep more. In fact after giving tea, my ds started to wake up again. He wasn't hungry he wanted cuddles. After you've introduced those meals and she's still waking, try not to go to her for 10min and see if she settles herself. and great news on the weight!

susi, poor you and hope your feeling better soon.

egypt / spot, which one of your babies has eczema, i cannot remember? Is it mild eczema? I'm interested because ds has it in his creases and i'm not using anything in the bath. Can you reccomend anything?

hi to all

Me excema Sandi. It's pretty mild, just on her neck... we don't use anything in the bath but Oilatum is the one we were recommended. They'd run out at the chemist so I can't vouch for it but it's supposed to be good. We just got Diprobase and ... um... dermacort (?)

Evening all.

I have had a lousy day today, and a mini meltdown this morning. Kiera still will not nap in the day and always whinging because she's tired and it's drving me nuts.
I went to mothers and babies this afternoon, and it made me feel a little better, some of the babies there are doing the same thing, and no one can understand why.

Egypt-Try not to worry, i'm beginning to learn babies are a law totaly unto themselves, and i personaly feel you, and everyone else, is doing a stunning job.

Susi-how you feeling hon?

xxx

Oh blimey, sorry just realsied i didn't change my name back-that's how bad i felt this morning

Sorry, the last post was me.

xxx

Oh cat82, it's horrible isn't it. I've made a decision today. I've been a bit "cruel" the last two days and tried to drag out the feeds out a bit to at least 3 hours from the start of the last one. He'd got into a bit of a snacky/disinterested mode which was just getting worse.

He does now appear to be eating more at each feed... whether that will now translate into sleeping better in the day and the night is another matter. He did sleep from about midnight until 6am last night - but the jury is still out as to whether that was a one off.

Don't know if I ought to get stricter on the sleep now as well. It's getting really obvious that he's tired when he gets up from only a short nap. If I can just be sure he's not hungry then I think I might start working on getting him to have a proper long nap at lunchtime again.

Feel like an evil witch doing it though.