May Babies... part 6! (keep up you April Mums... pfft!)

[GeorginaA]

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Oh thank god for that Twiglett... I was worried with ds2!

ds1 DEFINITELY was sitting up the very week he turned 5 months. I wrote down the date, and checked as ds2 is showing no signs of even being interested or being able to sit up with support. Even wedged in the bumbo he bends forward and creases over looking VERY uncomfortable.

I know you shouldn't compare 2nd to 1st child but it did worry me a bit that he still showed no signs of sitting up by himself...

DD has been sitting since almost exactly 5 months but is still not reliable - ie cannot leave her sat on the floor without running the risk of her nutting it - she needs cushions for just in case if I'm not really close by. But sometimes she will sit for 10 minutes or so, other times can't even manage 10 seconds. DS was 6 months before he could sit at all but he was generally slow with gross motor development.

I've dumped the bean bag bath pad I had for her because it was going mouldy and started sitting her up in the bath. Anyway DH was away last night so was doing bathtime for DS & DD on my own. Was holding DD's forearm with one hand and turned to spread her towel with the other hand when she fell over, spun round (pivoting on the arm I was holding) and ended up on her front spluttering. Fortunately she didn't hit the bath at all.

I'm wondering if its cos she doesn't get as much attention or one on one time

But then come to think of it .. there's millions of children who weren't born first ..

maybe I just need to go back to bed and start today again

BTW the all-night sleeping was a one-off

Bozza .. DS's swimming teacher (ASA teacher) says the best thing you can do for babies in relation to learning to swim later is to get their faces wet in the bath .. so well done you

ds isn't sitting on his own either. he is getting better though but only manages maybe a minute unaided!

as for fingerfood: gave ds ricecakes; pear (very slippery, had to hold it for him in the end) and he loves toast with butter! (first he sucks it, licks it, into his mouth it goes - looks like a little hamster )
i know what you mean with non pureed food twiglett. it just doesn't look right, does it?
i started with cut fruits (pear, melon) in his cereals/porridge. went down well! he did choke a few times but never really alerting. i always sit next to him but let him go on with it first and he actually manages
yday he had minced beef; ended up with pureeing it
anybody did fish so far? how did you cook it?

Twiglett, just lurking on your thread and wanted to let you know that DS couldn't sit up on his own until he was 7.5 months. He's got a few friends around his age and only two of them could sit on their own before him. And he's a first baby.

So don't worry that your DD isn't sitting up yet or that it's because she's a second baby

Twiglett I'm lurking too and my April baby isn't sitting up yet on his own but my hv said yesterday that because he is long (on 95th centile for height) it is harder for him than babes with littler legs!!

Sitting - ds can for up to a minute, but nowhere near reliably enough for me not to be sitting around him with hovering hands. Twiglett - I think it's because they don't get the same atention, not less. I know I spent far more one on one time with dd, which did entail practising sitting etc, but with ds he gets more visual and mental stimulation, because he's got me and dd giving it to him - so for example tehre are a couple of dd's old toys which he has figured out far earlier than she did (he can press the top of one of those roundabout things to a make the music go)

Ds had fish pie 2 nights ago. It was what we had, so just cod and salmon (and prawns but I picked them out of his portion) poached in water, herbs and wine, topped with a saffron + fish stock flavoured white sauce and sliced potatoes. I just mashed it up with a fork andhe loved it. Next day he had a jacket potato with tuna and sweetcorn (actuaally the rmains of dd's lunch . I would just give dd whatever you are having. Or try bread and butter. Have to say most of ds's finger foods are administered by my fingers rather than his atm

hello all.

Had a realisation that we're going to need official childcare soon, not just the 2 hour with pal slot type thing that we've used so far. A whole day, probably. This is a sad realisation for me because I had hoped to do without, but I know one day is sort of nothing compared to what others are managing, so I won't make a drama out of it...

nonetheless, DD has got to a very reliant stage (DH says clingy, but I think this is an unfair word... she's a baby for god's sake! how else is she supposed to understand how she and I relate to the world? I am always there with her!)Yesterday I had DD in Edinburgh for work stuff and DH was to take her home with him on train and put her to bed. But fifteen minutes after they left I had The Call You Do Not Want from DH, saying she was so distressed he was worried she would stop breathing(!) he certainly couldn't take her on the train and would I come and rescue them. I could hear DD in the background (foreground) screaming fit to burst and it was impossible not to go. Tho I knew she would be ok.

I just worry that she's reached a stage where leaving her with c/minder is going to be really really difficult for both of us.

Sitting wise, same as Bozza's Dd. Finger foods wise... she tries to hold purees in her fist; does that count?

Can I have a quick reality check re: weaning actually, while we're on the subject?

Currently we only have breakfast and lunch (this is only the end of the second week of weaning) and is all pureed.

Breakfast: 7am breasfeed, followed by 2 of those blooming marvellous cubes of fruit puree of some sort... unless it's a banana and he gets through about three quarters This is quite a sedate enjoyable meal.

Lunch: only get through to around 10.45 before he's screaming hungry (but this works quite well around nursery pick up times anyway). I give him solids first as giving breastfeed first meant he was irate at being taken off and completely uninterested in solids. He eats 3 cubes (going to have to up this to 4 I think) complaining bitterly that the stuff isn't flowing into his mouth constantly, then has a short breastfeed where again he gulps as if he's STARVING and needs food NOW... for about 2 mins then is full!

Breastfeed around 2.30 - although I'm pushing this back to 3/3.30 as he's totally uninterested having eaten so much earlier.

Screaming hungry for breastfeed at 6 ish because he didn't eat properly at the last feed...

Sleeps through til 7.

I want to be able to drop the breastfeed after the 10.45 feed and have that solids & water... but do the quantities of food seem reasonable? Will introduce dinner at 5ish in the next week or so after he's got used to that breastfeed dropping (don't want too many changes at once) to help with the getting too hungry at the later feed but don't want to impact too much on his milk uptake either.

Does this all sound normal/going well or am I getting it completely utterly wrong?!

When I say screaming hungry btw, I don't mean that I'm holding him screaming trying to drag out the feed - it's just like a switch flicks - one minute he's fine, the next he's HUNGRY NOW Mummy, how DARE you not have fed me THIS INSTANT!

To add weight to the others. Dd was 7 months last Wednesday and she has only starting sitting on her own in the last week.
I must add though, it's amaing when they do. Suddnely she looks all grown up She is also wearing resuable nappies

Took dd2 to get weighed yesterday. she's 17lbs 1oz. Getting bigger.

I asked the HV about the fact that she's hardly drinking any milk and she said it's fine because she has yogurts every day. and I asked her more about the solid foods. She said I can add milk and butter to mash potatoes. and now is the time to just mash up whatever we're having and let her have some. She said not to puree things as now that she's 6 months old mashed should be good enough for her, although to make sure that there were no huge lumps. She said that I can give her a egg just to make sure that it's hardboiled and we can give her tuna or white fish. It's all so exciting I have all these little meals running round my head trying to decide what I'm going to feed her.

Dd1 didn't sit up by herself until she was about 7 months old, before that she could sit up but would fall back and bang her head. But she was really 7-7.5 months before she got the hang of it. Dd2 wil balance for a second if I let her go then she lurches to the side. So she's nowhere near ready to sit on her own yet.

Sounds fine to me G. Introducing tea and dropping the lunchtime breastfeed should mean that he will have a good breast feed mid afternoon I would think.

i'm a bit all over the place with bf too georgina. she does have 3 meals a day, about 4 hours apart and sometimes bf with them, sometimes doesn't and always wants a bf mid morning and sometimes mid afternoon. not usually after tea. not sure of the answer. am trying to bf her after every meal and if she doesnt want it doesnt get it. but then she def does want between meals and this often means doesnt want meals. hmph. know what you mean. hopefully as you start to give 3 meals a day should last ds through to the next meal.

sitting, well dd was quite early i realise from mother and baby group. about 20 weeks. but all the other babies are not sitting yet, except the 8 month old there. nothing to worry about at all.

had a baaaaad night last night. cc did not work or maybe it was because i ended up feeding her after she woke and screamed then fell asleep, woke after 20 mins, screamed, fell asleep, woke after an hour, screamed fell asleep....then fed. and this was only 1130pm! oh dear. worried about tonight. i have faith that cc does work but i'm not sure when she is hungry anymore. not nice.

how do you cook chicken for them then? just the way you do for yourself? or with nothing else, ie not fried in oil like when i do a curry/chicken tonight.? boiled? steamed? and then what? puree? mash? cant imagine you can mash a chicken.

gave dd hipp organic chicken and veg today and she LOVED IT. and despite it being a protein meal i did end up giving her a bf about half an hour after as she was still hungry! and she had a desert. oh, what yogurts are you using? i have the heinz fruit and yogurt dried mix, but i'm wary that it has sugar in it.

evening all,

As a May mum I can't even keep up so April mums don't stand a chance do they?! (by the way Egypt, your last post was no. 666?)

Twiglett, DS will only sit up if distracted by something and he forgets to keel over for that moment . I have got him one of those water filled pads that have spongy animals floating in it and he loves it!

I am still feeling inadequate by our weaning thang compared to you guys - although he did eat 2 yoghurts today so I am thinking I will put a jar of something more interesting in his bag tomorrow. I shall save Earth Mother batch preparing of fud for the weekend and freeze it all. At least the weather has turned, I won't be risking plonking pureed carrot cubes into my Pimms or something

Have been trawling through lots of old Guardianship/Custody/Maintenance orders as the office is moving and we are having to clear out the archives - you won't believe some of the stuff I've been reading . Makes me want to cuddle DP/DS really hard! Although not so much DP at the moment as he has managed to burn a hole in the front hallway carpet - his idea of smoking outside and mine are way different! stupid !

Ohh, forgot to ask - how do you define the "first word"? The childminder told us that DS has upped the ante on babbling during the day and last night at home I said to him "can you say Da-Da?" - and he looked at me and said "da-da"! Obviously he didn't relate DP as Da-Da but it really made the hairs on my neck rise! I then said as a joke "can you say Dan?" (as Dan was there) and he said "Da". I am obviously not assuming that that was his first word but if it wasn't then it was a mighty good impression of one!! Today he has spent all afternoon saying "da-da-da-da" so this is obviously his latest thang!

Hooray! I'm free to roam the boards at will!
So now we can jump onto the lovely number 7 thread and make ourselves at home.
Feel really touched that you did keep posting on the old thread - so very much appreciated.
Speak later.

ehm, can't find it either :(
maybe i am just too tired but where is the may babies 7 ??????

it is under post natal clubs/groups/mad banshees . . .