May Babies... part 6! (keep up you April Mums... pfft!)

[GeorginaA]

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libb - how's it going?

Not bad as I thought but am feeling rather whacked as DS has been unsettled for the last few nights - when do you go back to work?

Glad it wasn't too awful... I go back 1 Nov - same as Yorkiegirl. Now go to bed!

So you are getting that sense of impending doom then? I know you will be fine toots xxx

I am not counting my chickens that all is well but the time DS goes down hasn't altered so obviously only a couple of things just need tweaking - I hope.

Right, am off now - can't get rid of that relaxed "I can lay in tomorrow" maternity thing - I am sure it will catch up eventually!

nice one georgina
and the missing 4 made the april ones at least increase their msg.numbers!

and another dang night - fed him at 10, he woke 12/2/3/4/6.30 and up!
will that ever end?
well, like spots said i don't "try" to make him go through. he'll manage when he is ready!
maybe i should give him some books to read; how he is "supposed" to be sleeping through by now

but he is back to his old self! happy, laughing and cheeky!! lately he wakes me up in the mornings with loud talking. quite cute actually

oh and his "activity of the day" is getting hold of his toes! when he lies down, legs in the air and grabbing!! and when i sit him down, lean forward and grabbing!!!
"noise of the day" he's trying out his voice!!! and screaming really loud first few times i thought he got hurt but he was just laughing and screaaaaaaaaming!

still no tooth but he seems allright though. just the permanent fist in his mouth

oh dear what a night susi. ours wasnt great either. dd is waking up on one of those 45 min cycles each night and not settling for an hour after. then its the usual, 12, 3, 6, 8 type pattern. i dont know when it'll end either susi. i do know that she hardly fed yesterday though. going to try and feed her lots today to make up.

libb, really pleased that work is falling into place. it must be soooo lovely seeing ds when you get home.

now, i have a problem. my best friend and i share our bdays. we are both 30 in jan and our dh's (her dp) have decided to take us away on a surprise weekend. we have since found out it's prague (due to mil's MOUTH and bf overhearing her dp on phone) but that's beside the point. anyway, dh has arranged for dd to go an everything. but tbh i'd love to think that i'd be confident enough to leave her as i know it will spoil the w/e in a kind of way because my friend is with us. dd was awful in paris and we couldnt even eat a meal in a restaurant without having to take her for walks about 4 times to keep her quiet. my friend has also made it quite clear that she has always wanted to go to prague and is certainly going to be wanting to see all there is to see. she says she doesnt mean to sound mean but won't be waiting around for us, or held back by us because of dd. she says she has been worrying about telling me this, but i am her bf so she feels she can! it's her 30th bday and she doesnt want it spoiled! hmmph. i don't know what to do. i want to take dd for me as i'd love to spend my bday with her, but at the same time, i know we wont get to do/see all that we want to as easily as we could. she will be 7 months by then. i dont know if she would be ok 2 nights without me . i will still be bf at bedtime and morning i am sure, at least. i could happily leave her with my mum, but just a bit scared. also, kind of dont want to give in to my friend cos i think in a way she is being a bit mean. also, have had a row with dh, if you recall, about wanting to take her with us or i'd worry too much! ("you're too much like you mother...yadda yadda yadda")

kind of wish we werent going away as a foursome now. if we take her i spose we could do the daythings as normal but leave them to it at night. also, my bf said, "i know i'm being selfish but you are my bf and i want to spend my bday with you, but i know you'd like it with dd too."

ouch egypt on the night waking bit
but it will eventually end - we just need to be faithfull

hmmm that's a tough one!!!
what would i do?
well, even though she is yr bf i'd say she should accept that you are a "family" now and that dd is part of you now!
on the other hand if you think you'd like to spend the we with dp (and friends) than go for it. lo will be allright staying with mum for 2 night! it might be nice to spend some "quality time" with dp
but i'd leave her only home if "I" wanted that not because bf wants it! - she just has to accept it. you can't just "deny" dd from now on when bf wants you to "her own". - maybe there is a creche in prague???? or nanny?
but still, i really think dd would be ok with yr mum if you really wanted that
hope it makes sense

thanks susi, yes it does. i just dont know if dd will take a bottle in the middle of the night. she never has before. she wouldnt even take ebm last night at bedtime. guess i should try it and see. on the other hand if i leave her with mum, it kind of gived mil the go-ahead to have her too. and i dont want her too! we'll see. bugger

Georgina - forgot to say last night - you're a cheeky one aren't you?
Egypt/Susi - commiserations on the night wakings. My dd is waking lots at the moment too

how do i "unlock" the CAT thingy??? i get told they can't msg me

Go here , look where it says "signing up for talk. Click where it says "click here" about changing your details, and uncheck the box at the bottom of the page.

Oh Egypt... this wasn't very fair of your friend methinks. It's your decision really. If, as you say, it's going to be hard to have your kind of fun with DD there, then maybe you'd want to consider how great an option it is to have someone as familiar and trustworthy as your mum around, and just bite the bullet and leave her. But I know I'd find that pretty hard as well.

Have to say your friend doesn't sound very sympathetic about this. Is it a bit funny for her, you having a baby? (pop psychology alert).

Georgina, you are a monkey. George... do you get called George? 's quite cool for a girl I think!

funny in what way? strange funny? i think so maybe. she doesnt want children of her own and makes that very clear. she wants to have her independence. but at the same time she wants to be godmother and is great at looking after them, if not at all maternal.

I would have said strange funny, but what you just said makes sense of it so maybe not that strange after all. I have a friend who's just had a baby, and her pal felt a bit... sort of jealous...because their time together was so compromised.

dd's new trick is to suck her big toe. it makes nappy changes difficult mind, as soon as i whip the nappy off the toes in

last night was 10.30,2.30,4.30+up 7.30. now the only thing i did ifferent last night to the night before was not to force so much milk down her. mon night she woke at 10pm so i fed her and then when i went to bed at 11.30 i woke and fed her again, whereas last night i just fed her at 10.30 when she woke. maybe ill try ebm or formula again.

not very happy with dp. he was going to take next week off work to spend with dd and i before i went back to work, then he decided instead to take my first week in work off. he said that it meant he could get up with dd so at least i would get some sleep during my first week. last night i asked him if hed booked it and he said he hadnt and was now going to take sometime in nov off as he didnt want to upset his mum by taking next week off as she was looking forward to having dd. arghhhh..ive never known someone not to want to take time off work.
egypt, if you think about it from your friends veiw, you can see why she doesnt want dd to go. in your previous childfree life imagine how you would feel if youd been looking forward to a relaxing holiday and then a friend said she was taking her lo, it would take the shine off the holiday. but then i know that you dont want to leave dd at home. weve got a similar situation. this weekend were going away for a wedding. we were told it was ok for us to take dd but in a way i know she would spoil it. she would be restless because of the change and from being fussed over, we wouldnt relax properly and if she cried all the time i would feel guilty about spoiling everyones weekend. due to this weve decided to leave her fri night with my mum. well leave fri pm and come back sat afternoon. Also prague is lovely but the cobbles would be a killer with the buggy. plus dd will have a fab night being spolit by nanny, theyre already going to the park on saturday.

but kbaby toes were designed to keep feet out of the pooey nappy

forgot to mention. dd has stopped waking so much in the evening now, if she does a quick pat on the bum seems to send her back off. the reason i think this is, is because she sleeps on her side/tummy. ifi put her in the cot asleep but on her back she wakes straight up but if i lie her on her side and tap her back she stays asleep.
anyone kbow if its ok to put h er on her side now. she can roll herself about etc.

her favorite sleep position is on tummy with kness bent under her and her bum sticking in the air. she looks so sweet.

hey you lot! we in april are doing so well we have lots of new friends addicted to our threads! we will catch up yet.....

acht, away and play tiddlywinks with yer moon cups

at spots and hd.

Nightmare of a morning today. He woke three times in the night so I'm knackered, and because we've been out this morning at a friend's house he hasn't been asleep now since 6 am this morning! He's still awake now in his cot! And we're supposed to be going out at 2pm to see some friends (and I really want to go, but wondering if I shouldn't so he can get a decent sleep in his own cot... )

Oh, but he did roll again, with witnesses so that makes it all worthwhile