How soon did you leave newborn with someone else overnight?

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Hello!

I have a beautiful 5 week old baby girl and my mum has offered to take her tomorrow night overnight so that DP and I can go for a meal and a couple of drinks. I’d love to spend some time with DP as we seem to be like passing ships in the night at the moment but, I don’t know if I’m ready to leave my baby yet.

She is combination fed. I tend to breastfeed the majority of the time but, then give her a bottle if we are out and about or DP will give her a couple of bottles on a night to give me a break. My Mum and sister also bottle fed her and looked after her through the night one evening to allow me a full nights sleep and she was absolutely fine so I have no doubts she would be again, I just don’t know how I feel about being in a different house all together!

How long after giving birth did you leave your babies and how was it?

Thanks in advance! :)

My DD is 10months and I've not left her yet! It's a very personal decision, if you are ready and happy to leave her go for it! You have a great night knowing she's well looked after by your mum

Mine are now strapping teenagers but they were left overnight for the first time at about 9/10 months old.

When my third child was 3 and first was 7...
Probably not quite the answer you were hoping for!

If you have someone willing and feel OK about it then it is the right time

18 months as dd was a bottle refuser!

I left mine for the first time around 6 months both times

2.5 years

5 months but I know people who leave them much sooner if my mum would have offered sooner I would have said yes

My DD is three and she hasn't had a night without either DP or me

2.5 years and I’ve still not left him. I would if I had a volunteer! It’s whenever you feel ready

About 3?

Why dont you just go for dinner and build up to overnight if you arent sure yet

My DD is 11 months and I haven't yet as she won't take a bottle. My parents would have happily had her by now if she'd let them and I think I'd have been ok with it from a couple of months old - and I'd love the full nights sleep! My cousins baby took a bottle sand she'd stayed with her grandparents by the time she was a few weeks old. Ultimately as long as you are happy that's all that matters.

DH and I first left DD for an evening when she was 13 weeks old
I left DD overnight for the first time with DH when she was 5.5mo
DH and I left DD overnight with family for the first time when she was 6mo, we were away for about 20 hours in total
We are now at the stage where we can leave her with family for a couple of nights comfortably and are leaving her with my DM and DF for 7 nights at Xmas whilst we go on holiday, and DD will be 18 mo

She was combi fed and didn't sleep through the night until 10 months and still isn't 100% reliable!

It’s completely down to you and your feelings. Perhaps have your mum babysit at your house so that if you change your mind, you don’t have to worry about it, but that your mum will wake for your baby if you want the sleep!

About 18 months for both of mine and that was leaving them with dh.

5 weeks is very little still, I think Overnight would feel like a very long time. I would grab a couple of hours to go out to dinner maybe but not overnight.

I think you'll find overnight too long. Can't you just go out for a nice dinner and drinks?

I only left our ds for the first time (other than dh) for the first time when he was 6 months and that was just a few hours in the evening and we agreed neither of us felt ready so we didn’t do it again for quite a while. We didn’t leave him over night until he was 5 years old as that is when we felt ready to do so. There is no right or wrong answer just when you feel happy and it happens to everyone at different ages. Just don’t let anyone push you into it. My parents tried to force me to let them babysit in the first 2 weeks saying it was incredibly important otherwise our ds would be super clingy forever. There was no way we were ready so said no. I now have a super confident 7 year old son and quite happy to stay with relatives and is currently begging me to let him try boarding at school!

DD is 8 months and not left her yet. Wont until she is night weaned from the breast. I feel 5 weeks is too early and you need to keep breastfeeidng overnight to maintain supply. Maybe just do the evening?

Not happened yet. DD is 18 months old.

I think 5 weeks is far too early, especially if you're breast feeding. I didn't leave my son until he was 1.5 years.

DD was 2 last month and I've never left her overnight. Its a completely personal decision though.

Both DD who is 2 and DS who is 9 months, around the 5/6 week mark too.
No problem and they were quite happy with my DM and DSis who had them!
Gave me a much needed break and sleep, and time with my DP which was amazing! Go for it Op, or like others have suggested go for a meal and come back after a couple of hours if you're more comfortable with that?

DS was 7 weeks when I left him with my mum&dad overnight. They've never offered again and he's 5 now!

Fully overnight as opposed to going out til midnight kinda thing, potentially 4.5 years if my planned C Section goes to plan so DH can stay with me

My little one is 9 months old and I won't be leaving him overnight until he is old enough to say that's what he wants .

6 days old for DS1... I had a fairly bad birth and had slept for a total of about 4 hours in that 6 days. Let me tell you, it was one of the best sleeps of my life that night.

He stayed every 2/3 weeks after that and still stays with his nan and grandad now at 10yo as often as he can, usually once or twice a month.

DS2 was about 4mo only because he wouldn't settle with anyone apart from me until then.

So I will probably let him stay over aged 3 or 4 don't see why he needs sleepovers at granny's as a baby