How soon did you leave newborn with someone else overnight?

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Hello!

I have a beautiful 5 week old baby girl and my mum has offered to take her tomorrow night overnight so that DP and I can go for a meal and a couple of drinks. I’d love to spend some time with DP as we seem to be like passing ships in the night at the moment but, I don’t know if I’m ready to leave my baby yet.

She is combination fed. I tend to breastfeed the majority of the time but, then give her a bottle if we are out and about or DP will give her a couple of bottles on a night to give me a break. My Mum and sister also bottle fed her and looked after her through the night one evening to allow me a full nights sleep and she was absolutely fine so I have no doubts she would be again, I just don’t know how I feel about being in a different house all together!

How long after giving birth did you leave your babies and how was it?

Thanks in advance! :)

Avoid unnecessary separations at this stage. It's easy to go out for an early dinner with a newborn.

Dc1 around 4/5 months with my mum and dad.
Dc2 around 9 weeks with my fantastic childminder.
Dc3 6/7 weeks with my sister.

I've found people want to babysit when they're newborns. My kids are 7,6 and 3 now and haven't had them stay out overnight for almost 3 years now.

DS was 2. Now he spends one night a week with grandparents as they help us with childcare.

About 1 year I think.

Do what you want but - your body is probably adjusted to having a baby. You won't necessarily sleep through. If you want rest, have them care for her while you sleep. If you want to go out with DH, have them look after her while you do that.

I don't see the point of combining the two. You'll miss her and worry about her.

I was ready for a night away from mine at around 6-7 months.

5 weeks old?!? not a chance... my DS was 2 years the first time i stayed away.

These threads will always give a wide range of results because there is no right answer only individual ones.

In posting it clear that you are just not ready and that is absolutely fine to be. Dont rush it and ruin a night wait until YOU feel ready because that is the only answer you need

My older son is 3 - still waiting for someone to offer to have him overnight!

I am so envious of people who have grandparents willing to do overnight and night feeds.

9 years old!

DS1 I left overnight with my DH for the first time when he was about 18 months, I work very occasional night shifts. DS2 I haven't left overnight yet as I'm still on maternity leave.

Not yet, DC almost 3. It won’t be for a very long time.

Close to 3 years.

Evening at about a month. Overnight at 5 months as dh and I had a sickness bug so wanted to be as far away as possible!

5 or six months for both of mine, and the youngest has only ever stayed with my mum. He's 6 now!

6 months, mainly as I didn't have anywhere exciting to go haha. If you feel comfortable with the idea then go for it, guessing that if you go out and want to go home and be with your baby you can?

I think there is no right or wrong answer here, what matters is that you feel comfortable with whatever you decide. In the first few weeks of bringing my son home who is now 4 months my MIL looked after him overnight in our house to give me a rest which I really needed as I was completely worn out.

Ds1 about 15 months, ds2 2.5yrs.

A few weeks. I couldn't cope any more. Ds2 constant crying all night long, bought me to my knees. I was struggling, majorly. I gave him to my lovely sil (I have 6), for whom he slept the whole night!

Apart from with DH at 10 months (and a few times since) I've never left him overnight with anyone else. He's 18m. As lovely as our families are they have never offered to do a whole night.

I’m jealous of all these grandparents who are willing to do night feeds/sleepless nights! When we left DD2 at 12 months she was up once in the night and my mum moaned about how exhausted she was for about a week! She very occasionally has my 6 and 4 year olds overnight who sleep 7-7, and she still says she’s exhausted after having them.

She very occasionally has my 6 and 4 year olds overnight who sleep 7-7, and she still says she’s exhausted after having them

I imagine it is exhausting when you're not used to it. Both sets of grandparents would jump at the chance to have DD overnight, but they've not been up with a baby at night for decades. I think they'd change their tune if they had her once. I'm not certain I trust them with her though, so it's a moot point.

Oh yes I get that RolytheRhino, I just meant that I can’t imagine having anyone close to me who would offer to have a tiny baby overnight, night feeds and all! I’m envious . I think our parents must all just like their sleep too much. If we even hinted at overnights to DH’s parents they’d just laugh nervously and pretend we were joking .

Both of mine were around the 6 month mark. Do whatever you want to do OP, i trust my mother completely as she does things exactly how I do them. If you feel the same then I don’t see the issue! Heck I even left mine for 2 weeks when they were 2 and 4!! Left them with dh and took some much needed “mummy time out”!!

My son is 2 and I still haven't left him overnight . I know I'm probably the exception to the rule.

Not that there is a rule, probably wrong turn of phrase.