How soon did you leave newborn with someone else overnight?

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Hello!

I have a beautiful 5 week old baby girl and my mum has offered to take her tomorrow night overnight so that DP and I can go for a meal and a couple of drinks. I’d love to spend some time with DP as we seem to be like passing ships in the night at the moment but, I don’t know if I’m ready to leave my baby yet.

She is combination fed. I tend to breastfeed the majority of the time but, then give her a bottle if we are out and about or DP will give her a couple of bottles on a night to give me a break. My Mum and sister also bottle fed her and looked after her through the night one evening to allow me a full nights sleep and she was absolutely fine so I have no doubts she would be again, I just don’t know how I feel about being in a different house all together!

How long after giving birth did you leave your babies and how was it?

Thanks in advance! :)

My Ds was 4 and my DD was 5. Couldn't bear to leave them before.

*Correction- leave 2-3 hours without breastfeeding for every alcoholic drink you've had.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/breastfeeding-alcohol/

Also, I don't know why you'd expect an uproar, nor feel the need to justify your decisions to us or to anyone else. We've offered our own experiences and viewpoints because you asked us to, but your decisions are none of our business really, and no one worth listening to would try to shame you for a perfectly reasonable parenting decision. I wouldn't personally leave a newborn unless in an emergency, but that doesn't mean I judge everyone who does or that you were unreasonable to do so.

They to spend less time fretting about what others think- you do what works best for you and your family.

*Try, not they

I don’t think there’s a right or wrong just whatever you feel comfortable with :)

My DD is almost 9 months and still hasn’t been left. I have a crappy relationship with my mum and my in-laws live 3 hours away...

In the nicest way possible OP I wonder if you're feeling pressure from your DP to get "back to normal" and resume your social life like you did before your DD arrived? Personally I just don't think that's very realistic at this point, especially when bf.

It feels to me from your post that you knew deep down that you weren't really ready to leave her but your DP was keen for you to so you went along with it? Why did he want you to "let your hair down" and have lots to drink? I wonder if maybe you need to have a chat with him and manage his expectation a bit.

My DS2 is nearly 7 months. I have been out 3 times for no more than 3 hours on each occasion. DH has stayed at home to look after the DC. We have had one evening out together since DS2 was born (he came with us and slept in the pram). There is no rush, soon the baby will be going to bed a bit earlier and you can have evenings to yourself a bit more.

I think it's lovely that you can rely on your mum. My MIL was a great support when DC1 was newborn. I allowed her to be very hands on as like you've said she just knew things that I didn't. It's meant that my children have a fantastic relationship with her and I can leave them now completely guilt free knowing they will have an amazing time with her.
The only thing I would worry about in your case is the breastfeeding. I don't know how much you drunk but assume you will be okay to feed by now.