How soon did you leave newborn with someone else overnight?

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Hello!

I have a beautiful 5 week old baby girl and my mum has offered to take her tomorrow night overnight so that DP and I can go for a meal and a couple of drinks. I’d love to spend some time with DP as we seem to be like passing ships in the night at the moment but, I don’t know if I’m ready to leave my baby yet.

She is combination fed. I tend to breastfeed the majority of the time but, then give her a bottle if we are out and about or DP will give her a couple of bottles on a night to give me a break. My Mum and sister also bottle fed her and looked after her through the night one evening to allow me a full nights sleep and she was absolutely fine so I have no doubts she would be again, I just don’t know how I feel about being in a different house all together!

How long after giving birth did you leave your babies and how was it?

Thanks in advance! :)

About 12 months for all 3 of mine.

Not left my 7 month old yet and no plans do so soon. It's up to you but If you don't feel comfortable don't leave her. Also I don't understand why it needs to be overnight to get dinner? Perhaps just try going for dinner and come back?
It might damage breastfeeding and you might get uncomfortable and engorged, but if it was me the main reason I wouldn't is that I just wouldnt want to be away that long.

9/10 months old
With both my DS's.

Eldest was 6 months, it was harder to find anyone to have multiple children overnight though so probably about 18 months for the 2nd and 3rd!

around 18m old i think for dd1 and haven’t ever left dd2 (10m) overnight even with dh

My son is 8 months and hasn't been left overnight yet.

About 3 months old. Did us the world of good as it was first time we’d had full night sleep since before he was born

DD1 around 2.5 (years). DD2 was 12 months. Both were for weddings. DS is 10 months and I had a planned night away a few weeks ago but he was ill so I cancelled. No current plans to leave him, I imagine he’ll be about 13/14 months.

Oldest was around 2 years, next was 8 years, youngest is almost 7 and hasn’t done an overnight anywhere.

Do what you and dp feel comfortable with.

My little one was about 3 months when he stayed overnight at grandparents. Now at seventh months he spends a night there whilst me and my husband work. There's no right time, if you feel comfortable then do it. I know when he is at any of his grandparents then he his cared for and loved enormously which really helps. We are lucky to have a supportive family network who we really trust to look after our baby, if this is your case then I'd go for it!

6 months for each, both to attend a wedding.

Overnight about 11 months but about 5 weeks for a couple of hours so DH and I could have dinner. Before we left ds overnight when he was a bit older (3-11 months) we tended to go out then come back and stay where ds was or have someone stay at ours.

I left my little girl overnight with my mum and dad when she was about 8 weeks old due to my in-laws taking us out to see a show for Christmas. Was breastfeeding so just made sure I had pumped and stocked up prior to it and pumped when I went home afterwards. Baby was absolutely fine and my supply wasn't affected. My parents were on the other hand I think were slightly traumatised as she was a colicky baby she's now a robust 2 year old who loves sleeping over at her grandparents.

It's really down to how you feel, if you don't feel ready for your mum to have her overnight, do what other posters have suggested, go out for the meal and then go home to her after it?

Three weeks. And there was a similar thread a few weeks ago and people had very different answers to those here! Could you go back to your Mum's and stay after your night out so you're around baby in the morning? Or could she stay at yours?

3 years. I never felt comfortable with leaving them with anyone below that age and they've only had one night away and that was with my mum. My eldest child went to regular sleepovers from around 7/8

It really doesn't matter at all what anyone else does. If you are happy with it then it is absolutely fine. If you aren't then don't do it.

Approx a year and it was to see Paul McCartney & Wings in London (that’s dated me!)

Mine’s nearly 8 months and we’ve had plenty of nights out together but we’ve not left him overnight. He’s no bother overnight though so I don’t feel the need, I prefer the help in the daytime so I can get stuff done (I mean have a hot cup of tea / faff about on my phone / do absolutely nothing). We’ve all stayed out together at my parents where they’ve done all the work but we’ve still been there (they live half an hour away). He is staying over for the night in January though.
Anyway I think it’s totally personal choice. My nephew is nearly 4 and hasn’t stayed out yet but my friend let her little boy stay out at 4 days old as she had tickets to a gig!

My little one has been having sleepovers at Grannies since 8 weeks. Maybe every 2/3 months or on special occasions, birthdays etc when our gift to each other tends to be a night in a fancy hotel!

My DD is 2.5 now & absolutely loves going! I love her more than anything but boy do I need a little break sometimes! And time with my other half alone just for 24 hours is so important to me 🧡

People are so opinionated about leaving babies but it’s totally your choice. I promise it’ll do them zero harm so long as they are in a loving environment. I felt more than comfortable leaving my girl with my lovely mum at 8 weeks. She was only waking up for one feed by that point (well, one at 10pm & one at 3am), so it wasn’t too bad for my mum either. We went out for dinner in the local village & then literally fell asleep for 9 solid hours. Delightful!

These days, I travel for a work a fair bit, so I’m quite used to having nights away & so is she. She’s got a fantastic relationship with Daddy & my parents, I know she’s haply as larry with them! I get the best hugs when I get back though!

3 years lol! Mine never slept well and I didn’t need or want to be apart any earlier. Horses for courses of course

9 weeks with my dad and his partner. They took it SO seriously, and were even grateful and thanked us for 'letting them have him'. He was fine.

I think 5 weeks is too young. Mine we're much older before I wanted to leave them overnight

Maybe ask your mum to baby sit and stay at yours and you have a meal and drinks.

Dd was 5yo and ds1 was 3yo but that was once and was 8 years ago! Ds2 has never stayed away overnight and is nearly 7!

6 weeks old he slept at my mums. He's 10 months now and still tends to sleep over once a week.

1, when I was in hospital overnight with hyperemesis and he was with my husband. 2nd dc hasn't been left overnight and is now 18 months and I don't really intend to leave them at any time soon.