Calling all Asian Mums/ South London

[SANA]

Hi,

I am expecing my first child in Feb 05 and as most of my friends dont have children really looking to get to know mums close to me for general chit chat & poss meet ups. My ethnic background is Indian although I was born in the UK and work in the city & am looking to go back to work after maternity leave.

Any one out there with a similar background?

Fuzzywuzzy, how u coping with the new baby, u
still ill?? dont worry about your mum, I know thats easier said then done but if u think it will make u feel better give her a call!! I always regret long conversations with my mum as she always seems to b having a go at me and like your mum if i accept anything from my inlaws she gets really wound up so i have stopped mentioning it to her!! has she come 2 c u at all??

I have got my second scan tomorrow, very very excited, i have started feeling the baby move ( i think), just hope all goes well tomorrow

thanks for the stuff on the pushchair, the silevr one is a bit heavy, u dont know how much the Graco one weighs?? really want a light pram as have really bad back, feel down the stairs in Jan of this year & it really plays up

The graco is 6kg net weight according to the spec on website.
I'm Ok this time round it was the first time round with dd1 that I was extremely ill and was rushed into hospital a couple of times, my mother knew and didn't even ring to ask how I was!! My sil is here now and things are a lot easier, at least I have help now... only my mother to sort out, must practice grovelling..

we r going to go look at the Graco one as soon as we get a moment but it looks good. We r going to the Baby Show this weekend, good to hear that u have some help, please look after yourself & dont worry about your mum ( strange arent they!!)

Hope u have a great weekend.

The thread is nearly a year old but i start it again I live in south east london and from Pakistan.

hi pomi,

just came across this thread , im pakistani brithish born and have a lovely boy aged 8 months would luv to chat to you and all the other asian mums on here!! luv ameli

I have an 8 months old boy too. My older one is 20 months and they are my entire world. Where do you live ameli?

hi pomi ,

i live in east london , leytonstone to be exact, and u where u from.how is your lil one?

I am from Pakistan and came here after my marriage. Both of my ds are full of life, sometimes play and make eachother laugh, but mostly ds1 plays on his own and keep hitting ds2 with his car or something else and takes no nottice. Its a fun to watch them playing.

is it too late to join this thread? i am of indian origin and came to this country 9 yrs ago. now live and work in east london. ameli i notice you are in leytonstone, we live in south woodford! does anyone else live near here? my ds is 10 weeks old now. we would love to know other asian mums online and in the area!

dd i mean!

hi ananaya mum,

yes you live right round the corner , nice to meet you. i am a british born muslim muummy to one gorgeous lil boy and he is a real handfull. im currently on mat/leave from work and am also a law student/ tell me more about yourself and your lil ones!

Hi Ameli! i moved here 9 yrs ago to go to med school, and got stuck here cause stupidly got married! was born in india but grew up in kuwait! i too am on maternity leave. it is a whole new world: home all day, morning tv, baby! dd is 10 weeks old now. how old is your ds?

hi !

MY LIL ONE IS GREAT. HE IS 9AND A HALF MONTHS OLD NOW AND A REAL HANDFUL. STARTED TO CRAWL AT SEVEN MONTHS AND IS TEETHING! ALWAYS WANTS TO PUT HIS HANDS IN EVERYTHING AND EXPLORE. HE REALLY IS A HANDFULL,BUT IM THANKFUL TO HAVE SUCH A LIL ACTIVE BABY. IM THINKING OF GOING BACK TO WRK IN JANUARY AS IM STILL BREASTFEEDING AND DONT WANNA LEAVE HIM, HES TOO ATTATCHED YOU KNOW? HOW ARE YOU GETTING ON? IS YOUR LITTLE ONE KEEPING YOU BUSY? HVNT SEEN YOU ON THIS THREAD OR ON ANY OF THE OTHERS BEFORE, WHAT DO YOU DO ARE YOU A QUALIFIED NURSE/DOC YET?IM MOST LIKELY TO BE ON HERE AROUND 8.30 PM AS LIL ONE GOS TO BED BY THEN, WT BOUT YOU WHEN IS THE BEST TIME TO CHAT??LUVE AMELIXX

i have only joined this website recently, and i never know which threads to join, because it seems like everyone else knows everyone else! dd is great, she coos now and laughs, and we are getting used to eachother, which is great. my dh and i are both doctors and he still does lots of 24 hr shifts so initially it was very hard to stay at home all day by myself. ofcourse i was lucky cause my mother and sister came to stay with me for a while after dd was first born so i shouldn't complain. and next month dh is going to stop all his 24 hr shifts, can't wait! it is great that your ds goes to bed at 8 ish. my baby is still up at 11! i am looking forward to her growing up a bit so we can introduce some kind of routine, it just seems too mean at the moment! i am hoping to go back to work in feb '06 when the baby will be 7 months old, but i know what you mean: i will really miss being with her all day!! are you arranging nurseries? is your ds starting to talk? i am so looking forward to all these milestones! morning is proabaly the best time for me but stay in touch anyway!

Hi. I live just around the corner from S. Woodford towards Gants Hill. I am also Asian of Pakistani origin. I've just joined recently and looking forward to chatting to other mums. My ds is 5 months. I love being with him and have to decide whether or not to go back to work in April. Tough decision.

hello it is a tough decision isn't it? i was sure i would hate being at home and would be dying to go back to work, but i am surprised at how much i am loving being at home looking after dd! i was wondering about sleep times, my dd sleeps so little! she sleeps (after rocking and walking around!) at around 11 pm (gets up at 9am, and feeds once to twice overnight)and i am dying to get her to sleep even a little earlier. she is not that great during the day either: on a good day she will sleep possibly three hours odd. have other people been through this or were babies this age (11 weeks) asleep by 7pm?? any tips would be hugely welcome!!

Its really strange, but I've forgotten what bubs was like at that age!
There is no way he was asleep by 7pm! I do remember, however, that he slept at 11pm too and woke up around 8. He also woke up about 3-4 times a night for a feed. I'm sure that he did have a few naps during the day - possibly 2-3 but I can't remember for how long.
Now, he's asleep around 8pm and wakes up around 8am an has 3 naps during the day probably for a total of about 2.5 hours. He still gets up 3 times at night!
I used a book called The Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg to try to get Bubs into a routine. She talks about EASY which is eat, activity, sleep, you. It works for the daytime routines but I adapted the bedtime routine to suit us better and now its bath, story, feed and sleep.

Its really strange, but I've forgotten what bubs was like at that age!
There is no way he was asleep by 7pm! I do remember, however, that he slept at 11pm too and woke up around 8. He also woke up about 3-4 times a night for a feed. I'm sure that he did have a few naps during the day - possibly 2-3 but I can't remember for how long.
Now, he's asleep around 8pm and wakes up around 8am an has 3 naps during the day probably for a total of about 2.5 hours. He still gets up 3 times at night!
I used a book called The Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg to try to get Bubs into a routine. She talks about EASY which is eat, activity, sleep, you. It works for the daytime routines but I adapted the bedtime routine to suit us better and now its bath, story, feed and sleep.

ah, that's what EASY is! i am glad mine is not the only baby not in bed by 7! it is hard to get into a routine, one day it seems to work and the next day it is shot to hell! it would be great to get her to bed earlier, it would give me and dh some time together. this bath, read, feed sleep sounds good. i have to try it. falling alseep while feeding is another problem! trying to get her out of that now. you must be pretty proud your baby is asleep at 8, maybe it gets better with time? good on you.

Hi sana remember me????? was on a thread with you(unless there are two of you) about this time alst year before Eid????
Well my dd is 4 starting full time at school wednesday sob sob, i am in West London looking after mil, xxx

Hi all,

hello ananayamum, well i do try with the whole routine thing , but it can be difficult. Good days and bad days. when they are crwling its just like you are on the go all the time. its early days for you to establish routine i mean my lil one was not in a routine at this age... i mean he pretty much fed and slept whenever..but now some routine is good so at least 000
you and your hubby got time to yourself. i just come back from uni today, i have evening lectures on tues and wed,missed my lil one so much , bless him he has a really bad cold. im sorry ive npt replied earliar but ive been up north to see my mum , shes hurt her leg and theres no one to cook and look after her. im going back until sunday but will try to post again 2mw. take carexxxx

hi sai,

nice to meet another mum around the corner. I know what you mean about returning to wrk , im in two minds myself, the fact is we need the money but its gna hurt to leave my lil boy. if go back it will be part time. what about you? i have a nursery place for my lil boy at sunbeams in leytonstoine its nice but also very expensive..also there are hardly any other muslim children, who are you going to leave the baby with? what do you do ? i wrk for the department of wrk and pensions. chat soon xxxameli

hey again! i'm sorry to hear abt your mum. it's hard to live away from parents huh, esp now they are getting older. my parents live in kuwait and i miss them so much all the time! and you do university, you are very good- i am so tired looking after baby all day i can't imagine doing study two days a week as well. but you are right abt the mortgage: it is going to get impossible to pay it without both of us working! it is crazy! btw sai did you know s woodford movie does baby odeon on thursday am? ameli is it too far for you to come? it is actually quite good. dd and i went for the first time last week and quite enjoyed the experience. i have to find out if there is a show tomorrow......

hi annie,

can i call you that? its easiar. yes i did know about the baby odeon is it part of that promotional thing also known as the Big scream? would love to come with you guys, i havnt watched a film in absolute ages. tellme more or if you want me to look up some times let me know. how is your little one today, studying is hard but im determined try. sometimes motivation is not the issue, its time. its full on this whole baby thing, what did we do with our free time before???

by the way , sai and annie.
im in lectures tues, wed where does that leave me with the whole cinema thing?