for ks and others who hate the school gate syndrome

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an a rticle int he times

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oh dear

sounds like me

and me

and it's not limited to just parents with an only child

I dont get it
maybe our school isnt cliquey

i know littlemissbossy....i got 3 kids.....i feel like an outcast...nobody talks to me despite desperate attempts to get people to talk to me.

maybe you are in the clique

I thik I scare them F as ai smile at everyone

cod, i meant!

I just wondered if i am the only one who forgets everything their kids do? and just dont want to talk about how many times they had a shit on the pot and stuff?

we dont talk about the kids

If you don't get it you're already in the inner circle coddy

id tlak to you fio
about wahing lines
we talk baou the same sort of stuff on as we do on mn

yes but Ihtink this theres a clique stuff is crap
our sch=ool is 2 years old and we knwo each other from standing outside
i talk to abyone am newar and would never ignore someone

Depresive but not surprising...I'm dreading it...

Maybe I'm pushy, but when ds1 started in Reception last yr, I just smiled and chatted to anyone who happened to be standing next to me. Some responded, some didn't.

This yr we're in a new queue, and so I'm busy chatting to anyone who happens to stand next to me again - usually it's exciting stuff about the weather.......

cod one of my washing lines broke yesterday! I am going to have to climb up the pole and fix it, when it is not so windy!

cod.. what?

ditto iota
i always theink that poeple who hate m and toddlers groups or school gates then end up on mn talking about hteir kids have not got the message !
surely you are talkingabout your kids all day ESPECIALLY those poeple hwo say they work to avoid it all

i talk to anyone who is near
if you stand miles away or look frosty or dont catch my eye then I woudlnt talk unless I had to
so its coems form both sides

Ours is like that too, coddy. Everyone always makes a big effort to include parents of children who started after the rest of them, it couldn't be less cliquey to be honest. We do talk about the children a bit, but more in terms of sharing concerns than hilarious anecdotes, and there's a complete mixture of single parents, married mothers and dads, SAHM and working parents.

I'd talk to you too Fio, I'm really sorry you've been caught up in something like this

yes
I even chat to a pole dancer!( I keep her well ay form the poles outside school)

Our playground is cliquey but I don;t want to be in any other clique than the one i'm in. Our clique has occurred as we have older children in the same year as each other so are therfore "old" parents and go back a long way. By the time our youngest have started school we already know the inner workings and personalities that make up the school. Invariably there were a lot of "first time mums" in our youngests' class and therefore they all stuck together. Now we have moved into the junior playground with our "babies" and have moved our eldest on, this adds a further "string to our school experience bow". I did spy a few wistful glances from the first time mums the other day obviously wanting to join our clique

Also just for amusement, the head once referred to us as "The Playground Mafia" and not in a good way

Do you compare notes?

I even chat to a SAHD - perhaps the others think I'm after him

I think the women in the article sounds a bit sad - most of the time when you start talking to someone, how are you going to know if they have one child or 16!!!! I think she needs a hobby (isn't that what they always say!!)