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mother left her children sleeping in the car and went shopping....one of them woke up....

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ruddynorah · 10/06/2007 17:53

i work at a huge out of town m&s with an enormous car park. this woman left her small baby and her 3 year old daughter asleep in the car. she locked the doors and left the windows slightly open (it was very very hot) and went into the store to do some food shopping.

while she was shopping, the 3 year old woke up, unlocked the car door, got out and started wandering around the car park. so there she is, bare feet, half asleep, dummy in her mouth, looking for her mummy... when another customer saw her and brought her into the store for us to look after and find her mum.

the 3 year old tells me her baby sister is still asleep in the car. so we did a tannoy for her mum (at that point not sure if she actually was in our store or the asda next door, or the boots...or that the girl had given us the correct name) and the security guard went into the car park to look for this car with the door possibly wide open and a baby asleep in it( or maybe awake by then).

so i'm standing there with this 3 year old feeling slightly shaky at how awful the whole thing is, when the mother turns up with the security guard. she's gone to her car with the shopping to find her 3 year old missing. the security guard found her shouting for her daughter. she's apparently mildly concerned, but not terribly. she sees the look on my face and says... 'i know what you're thinking and it's not like that actually, i only left them for 5 minutes to get a few bits so don't look at me like that, how was i to know she could unlock the car?!' and off they went

i'm not quite sure how i was looking at her, my head was just racing with...what if someone had run this tiny child over, or what if she'd wandered off and no one stopped her...or what if someone reached in and opened the car door and took her... silly, silly woman. doubt she'll do it again.

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Roobie · 10/06/2007 18:00

Yes, silly woman indeed. I expect she was suffering from shock at the time and just wanted to leg it home to duly commence beating herself up over it.

jalopy · 10/06/2007 18:03

No doubt someone will come on here and defend the woman.

colditz · 10/06/2007 18:11

I think you should have called the police. What a stupid bitch! "It's not like that, actually"

why not love? because you can afford to shop at Marks and Spencers?

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Enid · 10/06/2007 18:14

well I expect she was shocked.

Doubt she will do it again.

onlygirlinthehouse · 10/06/2007 18:15

I cant see anyone defending that, honestly poor little girl wandering in the car park, thats child abuse. things like that just make my blood boil, those children are relying on her and she let them down big time.

hatwoman · 10/06/2007 18:18

agree with enid. however ill-judged her actions were she presumably genuinely did think the children couldn't get out. she was presumably very shaken, and in such situations it's quite a natural reaction to try to defend what you know in your heart is indefensible. she won;t do it again

Flower3554 · 10/06/2007 18:18

Does this woman not read newspapers/watch TV
Good God anything might have happened, It's been scorching today as well.

Poor little things

Roobie · 10/06/2007 18:19

I think child abuse is a bit extreme and certainly wouldn't have been an angry mob type calling the police on her if I'd been there. The facts clearly speak for themselves in this case - she thought the kids were safe and would be OK but things backfired massively. An error of judgement which doubtless many others would have made. I'm sure she's not sitting at home congratulating herself on her fine work.

colditz · 10/06/2007 18:19

So what if they can't get out? It's been hot enough to roast a dog today! Kids can die in hot cars.

Peachy · 10/06/2007 18:21

Suspect her answer to you was being defensive, however there really is no excuse. I know its ahrd with little ones- I ahd 3 under 4 two with sn though and never ever left them alone (and pretty useless so whatever I can do anyone else can with gert knobs on)

InternationalMouseOfMystery · 10/06/2007 18:22

omg

stupid cow

Pixiefish · 10/06/2007 18:23

Similar happened to me when I pulled up at a hardware store. There was a 4 year old wandering around the car park. I asked her where her mummy and daddy were as she was cryinga nd she said in the store. I left dd with dh and walked towards the store. Her parents were shopping and totally unaware that their child had got out of the car and was wandering round the car park next to a busy main road.

The staff called for the parents and when the father turned up he gave his daughter one hell of a shake and screamed at her- I told you to stay in the car...

Some people have no bloody sense

WK007 · 10/06/2007 18:24

If child abuse is too strong a word then definitely child neglect and is that any better? people who (wilfully, through no accident or mistake) aren't responsible for their kids should never have had them in the first place.

mumofeight · 10/06/2007 18:31

Not abuser but a very very silly woman to do that, not only is it far too hot today, in the current climate with whats happened in portugal did she really think it was a clever idea ? She is lucky that nobiody called the police/social services etc.

I hope she is sitting at home this evening and beating herself up over it. Maybe next time she will remember and take them wih her.

ruddynorah · 10/06/2007 18:32

even if she didn't think her child could get out of the car i was thinking someone could have reached in and unlocked it, as she'd left the windows open. but then maybe she didn't leave the windows WIDE open, in which case i was fretting they'd have overheat in there. god it was awful. i was just stood there with the 3 year old thinking about the poor baby. makes me shudder.

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Oblomov · 10/06/2007 18:32

I am not condoning the woman, but you guys are well harsh. Peole won't even say a bad word against the -you-know-who's (because she is of course still missing) and that really gets on my nerves, because we all think it was irresponsible.
She too is clearly irresponsible. That's enough.

Enid · 10/06/2007 18:37

Well they were all fine and as I say, I doubt she will do it again so it was a positive outcome.

WK007 · 10/06/2007 18:38

I think its harsher to labour the point with someone who's child is missing, and therefore can't even learn from their mistake and move on. If the woman in this case had had a child go missing I wouldn't be commenting - the time for recriminations is when the crisis has passed. Just the same as if someone let their child play in the road you could have a go at them but if that child had been run over and killed it would be incredibly insensitive to.

Enid · 10/06/2007 18:39

can't really see what this incident has to do with the Madeleine McCann case though?

ChippyMinton · 10/06/2007 18:41

She was very foolish. Putting 'a few bits of shopping' before the safety and welfare of your children? It's not hard to shove them in a trolley is it? Or make do with what you have at home?

hercules1 · 10/06/2007 18:42

"current climate" ? WHy? Have the incidences of child abudction increased because of what happened?

handlemecarefully · 10/06/2007 18:42

I've seen posters on here saying they think it is fine leaving sleeping children in the car whilst they pop into the shops.

When you raise a query you generally get ridiculed with "Wot, and do you think there is a paedophile on every street corner". No actually, but I would worry about precisely the scenario that you have just described here

fillyjonk · 10/06/2007 18:43

its clearly not a very good idea, agreed

But I somehow can't get worked up about it.

I am more suprised that the 3 yo could unlock the car door. Mine can't.

Enid · 10/06/2007 18:43

filly thats what interested me, mine havent worked it out yet

fillyjonk · 10/06/2007 18:44

its bloody AWFUL shopping with 2 young kids. AWFUL

I can see the temptation, if I am honest.

What is needed is some sort of parked car creche with happy smiley young women handing out balloons and juice.