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mother left her children sleeping in the car and went shopping....one of them woke up....

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ruddynorah · 10/06/2007 17:53

i work at a huge out of town m&s with an enormous car park. this woman left her small baby and her 3 year old daughter asleep in the car. she locked the doors and left the windows slightly open (it was very very hot) and went into the store to do some food shopping.

while she was shopping, the 3 year old woke up, unlocked the car door, got out and started wandering around the car park. so there she is, bare feet, half asleep, dummy in her mouth, looking for her mummy... when another customer saw her and brought her into the store for us to look after and find her mum.

the 3 year old tells me her baby sister is still asleep in the car. so we did a tannoy for her mum (at that point not sure if she actually was in our store or the asda next door, or the boots...or that the girl had given us the correct name) and the security guard went into the car park to look for this car with the door possibly wide open and a baby asleep in it( or maybe awake by then).

so i'm standing there with this 3 year old feeling slightly shaky at how awful the whole thing is, when the mother turns up with the security guard. she's gone to her car with the shopping to find her 3 year old missing. the security guard found her shouting for her daughter. she's apparently mildly concerned, but not terribly. she sees the look on my face and says... 'i know what you're thinking and it's not like that actually, i only left them for 5 minutes to get a few bits so don't look at me like that, how was i to know she could unlock the car?!' and off they went

i'm not quite sure how i was looking at her, my head was just racing with...what if someone had run this tiny child over, or what if she'd wandered off and no one stopped her...or what if someone reached in and opened the car door and took her... silly, silly woman. doubt she'll do it again.

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fillyjonk · 10/06/2007 20:21

oh i think she was almost certainly feeling like crap and in no mood to be lectured by strangers

no it wasn't mum of the year behaviour, but its so obviously NOT that i think there must be more too it.

it really is awful to have to wake up two young kids, to have them howl grumpily round the store because you have stupidly run out of milk. it is the pits.

belgo · 10/06/2007 20:21

maisym - see my post of 18:58

Peachy · 10/06/2007 20:21

There's an article on this today 9the now V years agoa spect) i the paper today hich amde for interesting reaidng, one point si that in fact child abductions ARE more common now (it didnt specify though if that was as a result of custody type battles, which it may be)

A spokewoman of aprentline plus was very critical of this tendency that was revealed the other week t leave kids until they are 14 before they can go alone (personally i think thats too late as well), A headteacher also advocated some freedom for 8 year olds- part of a developing personlaity / developing a sense of responsibility approach. i wouldnt let my almost 8 year old out but he has SN so I cant really generalise from that.

A few years ago it wasnt so easy to take baby shopping by the way- my Mum had a tragic history losings everal babies to stillbirths and then had me, at the time there was a spate of baby abductions but the local shops were too small to get a great big seventies style pram into, so everyone just left babies asleep. these days there's trolleys wioth every manner of seat, its far easier

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handlemecarefully · 10/06/2007 20:21

If my 3 year old falls asleep in the car I don't make that stop at the Supermarket. Tis a pain in the arse sometimes but c'est la vie.

maisym · 10/06/2007 20:21

No a car going into flames isn't to be laughed at - any car crash could cause this. I saw a crash recently when this almost happened.

Not in this type of situation but if this mum had seeen this she might think more about the safety aspect.

nappyaddict · 10/06/2007 20:22

i would leave a child in the car if i only had to pop in the shop for 5 minutes tbh.

nappyaddict now waits to be shot down

fillyjonk · 10/06/2007 20:23

eh?

if cars are going to spontaneously combust...

aren't they MORE likely to do so when you are driving them, say down the motorway at 70mph with no easy way of getting out?

I don't think that this will be a signficiant concern for me, I must say

maisym · 10/06/2007 20:23

gosh belgo - how awful - two families as well.

your experience too.

I think if you see a dog in a car you can call the rspca?

maisym · 10/06/2007 20:24

nope fJonk - car crashed into a wall by another car can be lethal.

newlifenewname · 10/06/2007 20:25

RSPCA is probably better funded and better staffed than SS

Lots of old ladies leaving millions in their wills to RSPCA of course. Makes loads of sense.

fillyjonk · 10/06/2007 20:25

yes but this is not more likely to happen in a car park, surely?

surely most crashes happen when both cars are driving

and I am SURE that car parks are a bad bad place for kids to be walking in

easywriter · 10/06/2007 20:26

I think it's a mistake you might make (as we all make mistakes). Let's hope she learns from it and doesn't repeat it. I mean how many of us can honestly say that we have never, ever made a poor judgement, that could (even taking sponataneously combusting cars into account) could have gone horribly wrong, but realised we were wrong and learnt from it. Isn't this what parenting - being human is about. Mistakes are human, it's learning from them that's important. (And hopefully never having the potentially horrid side of our poor judgements come to pass.

maisym · 10/06/2007 20:27

a car stationary in a car park can be smashed as much as if parked on a street. The speed might not be the same but the effect can be terrible.

Imagine kids in the car, know one knowing they were there.

Perhpas it's just me - but I'd never leave my kids in the car. To me it's a metal box - not a place of safety.

fillyjonk · 10/06/2007 20:28

omg

the amount of time i have spent trying to get an ss referal where, say, a teenager with various problems was terrorising his family with knives, or women being battered by their husbands, etc

the idea that, round here, they'd come out and have a chat in that situation is a bit laughable

either that or i have been missing a shortcut to referrals

FrannyandZooey · 10/06/2007 20:29

I don't think it is dangerous (if you take basic precautions about locking car etc)

I just think it is quite likely to end in upset

LadyMacbeth · 10/06/2007 20:30

My parents used to leave me and my brother in the car all the time when we were little. I remember once they left the handbrake off and we went rolling off down a slope towards a road. Our screaming brought them running out to the rescue!

Instead of beating themselves up about it, dad gave me and db a lesson on how to use the handbrake should it ever happen again!

Times have changed!

Flame · 10/06/2007 20:30
fillyjonk · 10/06/2007 20:31

really franny? upset?

did you not see my plan re balloons and juice? (my poor deprived kids don't normally get juice, they'd be VERY happy)

fillyjonk · 10/06/2007 20:32

and i DO leave them to do the post office

and petrol

and i am investigating a small local shop with a car park out the front

they are HAPPY, they sit and chat and feel grown up, and can't get out ANYWAY to undo the handbrake.

VoluptuaGoodshag · 10/06/2007 20:34

My kids get upset with me all the time, usually if they don't get their way.

Here's a thought. If kids were left in cars more often then they would get used to it and not cry and bawl coz they know their mum or dad is just away on an errand and will be back asap

FrannyandZooey · 10/06/2007 20:35

No I missed the juice, that all sounds very cunning

my ds personally, would think he was ok at first and then get very upset when i didn't come back quick enough (has happened in garage forecourt when dp left him, I have told him not to leave him again)

the OP was an unhappy one obviously

and the one I mentioned with the car alarm, there are a few things that could go awry really

Flame · 10/06/2007 20:36

DD thinks its great being a big girl... and she also knows that her hands will fall off if she touches handbrake.

VoluptuaGoodshag · 10/06/2007 20:39

I am actually astounded here as I have never, ever in all my time as a mother (nearly 4 years) and as a driver (over 20 years) seen anyone take their children with them to pay for petrol. Is this normal procedure? Does everyone on this thread take their kids with them?

fillyjonk · 10/06/2007 20:39

oh i think it would be very crap to leave them if it made them sad

my kids love it because they are in charge of the car

they say "mummy PLEASE can we stop for petrol on the way back, PLEASE."

FrannyandZooey · 10/06/2007 20:39

No, I don't think it is normal

but that doesn't mean it isn't ok to do it if it makes you and your child feel happier, does it?

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