Would you leave her in hotel room while you were downstairs?

[llynnnn]

I know this is a very touchy (with very good reason) subject at the moment and dont want to start a big fight but just after honest opinions, would you leave a 12month old fast asleep in a hotel room, with a sensitive baby monitor on, while you were at a wedding party downstairs?
Its my sisters wedding in August at a very nice hotel, where most of the hotel will be taken by other guests (our friends and family) and my parents think it will be fine but I'm a bit worried in light of everything that has happened recently
Thanks for your opinions
Lynn

My honest answer is no, and would have been before the Maddy thing. Just put her in the buggy in the corner and she'll sleep, you'll relax and all will be well.

Everyone can feel free to argue but it is a personal choice and a decision only you can make about your child.

No I wouldn't, even before the recent tragic events.

At my brothers wedding I had to go upstairs early with our daughter who was 8 months at the time. I wouldn't have dared left her alone in the room, in case she choked or something and I didn't hear her in time. I just don't think its worth it.

i don't think i would, if she sleeps heavy, i would put baby in a buggy or pram, right next to me.

If they are a light sleeper, the i'd try to see if they would go to sleep, if not I'm afriad I would go to bed early.

No, and wouldn't of before recent events either.

And it's not about being abducted, that would probably never occur to me, it's the being sick and choking thing.

That's me, Verysensiblekbear!

big fat no from me also. Keep her up as late as she'll stay, and then take it in shifts going downstairs

I haven't had to make such a decision as the couple of weddings where young children were invited provided a babysitting room/creche facility - might be worth asking your sister whether she has thought of providing the same sort of thing. Ds was wheeled around in his buggy at one wedding until about 03:00 am, long-suffering baby and even longer suffering babysitters... I seem to remember we gave them a hefty tip!

No I wouldn't - because I wouldn't feel comfortable or relaxed.

And most babies shine like stars at weddings, being jiggled on the laps of the aunties!

PS - when we got married, the hotel were happy to provide a room with a DVD player and TV to accommodate such a service...

No. Pushchair in corner option for me too. A baby should sleep through the row perfectly fine if tired.

It's no more safe or dangerous to do this than it was 2 months ago. If you are in a loud party you may not hear the monitor if she cries. If she's at the party it may be too smoky for her. Why don't you do a rota of minding her in the room and rope other friends and family in. Most people won't mind having half an hours break from a wedding party if it's going on all day.

My dd2 was 10months old at my sil's wedding, we just put her in her pushchair and she fell asleep during the band. When we were all finished we just wheeled her back to the room.

Does the hotel offer any baby sitting services too?

I chose not to leave her in our room, remember it will be noisy you may not hear the moniter. You may be more relaxed knowing she is there with you.

Plus it means all you family get to coo the baby too!!!!

I've done this twice and would do it again.

No I wouldn't tbh.

Not because of teh risk of abduction, which is minimal, but in case the noise level was so high that even though the monitor is sensitive, you didn't hear her if she woke up.

What are other people there with children doing? If any of them with young children live locally maybe they could hire a nursery nurse or nanny for you all to share (police checked of course), or even just recommend you one if other kids will all be older?

I wouldn't do it, but I find it hard to leave ds with a babysitter, (I do but find it hard) just my personal choice.

Hope you have a great time whatever you decide.

Have done it once at a wedding and would do it again

PPS - under the Employ a Mumsnetter section, there was someone advertising a mobile creche facility for parties and weddings. Might be worth having a look at...

No I wouldn't even before recent events, I wouldn't feel comfortable or be able to relax.

Can you and DP/DH take it in turns or pushchair in the corner?

the no smoking ban will b e in effect by august so i would let child fall asleep in the hall with the noise then they will continue to sleep nicely in buggy that way you have piece of mind all round and both of you can enjoy together rather than doing shifts or you pay a babysitter to stay up in room with them

I'm not trying to say the band was bad, but small children will sleep through most noise however load.

I think though if you asked, some of your more 'mature' relatives might, as someone has suggested be up for 30min shifts to escape the hussle and bussle for a while if you did want to leave baby in your room.

You could aways wheel down if you run out of volunteers.

No way! Just wouldnt enter my head to leave my ds in a room by himself, we would take him to the party and let him have a late one as a one-off, he'd fall asleep in his buggy before the night was out and my tip is take pj's with you dont have to disturb her later on.

I wouldn't even before the Madeleine case. We went to a wedding with our 20 month old son and didn't even consider leaving him. I stayed in the room while my husband went to the evening do. I wasn't bothered about going so it suited us both.

We've done it twice though we sat in view of the bedroom window each time. I couldn't really relax though and I wouldn't do it now. They do tend to fall asleep even though you'll be dreading them being awake with you all night. If your buggy won't let them lie comfortably, maybe borrow something they can lie down in or get one of those blow up child beds that you can lie them in once they do drop off?