Would you leave her in hotel room while you were downstairs?

[llynnnn]

I know this is a very touchy (with very good reason) subject at the moment and dont want to start a big fight but just after honest opinions, would you leave a 12month old fast asleep in a hotel room, with a sensitive baby monitor on, while you were at a wedding party downstairs?
Its my sisters wedding in August at a very nice hotel, where most of the hotel will be taken by other guests (our friends and family) and my parents think it will be fine but I'm a bit worried in light of everything that has happened recently
Thanks for your opinions
Lynn

Not taking the piss out of what you said Enid, just trying to lighten the tone of this thread. Before everyone gets into a fight because this must be what, the 10th such thread since the McCann episode?

I must say I would never ever criticise someone for doing it though

I just have it in my mind so I wouldn't be able to relax, its a very personal decision

god do you know the mcann thing hadnt even entered my head

I'm sure the OP didn't think about that either, but these threads about leaving children unattended are taking up nearly the whole Mumsnet forum now and they don't end nicely.

NO its unsafe in my view, what if there was a fire! or she got hooked up or stuck, was sick and choked on her own vomit, I wouldnt risk it.

Not really Hatrick, I've come across the opposite tbh. I've been called neglectful and more or less accused of abuse!

But then these threads do get both sides hurling abuse at each other. Which is why I think ladybirds from Mars are a real and dangerous threat.

You'd have to think about who would know that your baby was alone. Anyone can work in a hotel.

ok, apart from a slightly increased risk of abduction, which i do acknowledge, how are they more at risk in a hotel room than at home, so long as you're listening in on a monitor?? (assuming that theyre not on the 20th floor of a high rise block.)

Well yes you could be paranoid. But a million and one things could happen to your baby whilst they are within sight of you. They can choke on their vomit etc whilst sleeping in the room next to you.

Hotels offered baby listening devices - what makes that any less acceptable than a baby alarm? At least I know that I'm listening to it all the time, unlike some 18yo receptionist.

10 years ago we wouldn't even be having this conversation. It's only recently that times have changed. Yet abduction is NOT on the increase, it's just reported on more. Hotels are safer for fires, cots are built safer etc etc. Yet we are more paranoid.

sorry, didnt mean to play down the whole abduction thing. i agree with what monkeytrousers said.

i actually think they could be more at risk with an unknown babysitter, than with a baby monitor, in some ways.

But why make sure every one who teaches children is security checked and then entrust your baby to gos knows who working at a hotel?

Or some spotty babysitter?

Blimey, go on like this and no parents would go out ever! Let's face it, if you could strap them to you they'd be much much safer. But life goes on and you take risks.

Any member of staff have access (keys) to a hotel room, whereas in your house only certain people do. That's a considerable risk of abduction IMO. Also you are not just "downstairs" but in another part of a large building so it will take much longer to go up and check on them, and if something has happened (chocking, stopped breathing etc.) those extra moments could be really precious.

Fair enough.

I do find it a bit sad I suppose when you don't see kids playing out anymore. They can't seem to go anywhere without an anxious parent following them and really times are no more dangerous for kids now than when we were kids and out playing till all hours.

But if guarding them makes you feel safe and secure then who am I to say otherwise?

And I do think we are all just a teensy bit too paranoid about abduction when in reality it is very very very rare indeed.

I just hope you take the same precautions with people you know, because these are the people who pose the most risk to your children. Statistically.

blimey, kamik, thats so scary. we will still do the hotel creche thing, but only because we are going to a small place that we know, with british nannies and fantastic security. no more risky than dd2's nursery in the uk, imo.

if you know the set up and feel that its safe, then fine. however, i'd never entrust my 3 or 5 yo to any old hotel run creche .

I dunno, I think it's when you let your guard down, when you think they are safe, that shit happens.

When you on holiday there are no facilities for the evenings. You can either lock yourselves in the bathroom with a bottle of wine and speak in whispers, or you can check that the alarm picks up every sound (cue dh coughing quietly to see if I can hear him in the bar) and escape from your parental duties for an hour or so.

Yes it is a risk. I am happy to take that risk. But other risks I wouldn't take that some of you might.

But hey ho, we all do a great job of raising our kids!

not read all of these, but no, I wouldn't

I wouldn't enjoy the evening so it would be a waste of time going

pram in room or not go imo

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