Would you leave her in hotel room while you were downstairs?

[llynnnn]

I know this is a very touchy (with very good reason) subject at the moment and dont want to start a big fight but just after honest opinions, would you leave a 12month old fast asleep in a hotel room, with a sensitive baby monitor on, while you were at a wedding party downstairs?
Its my sisters wedding in August at a very nice hotel, where most of the hotel will be taken by other guests (our friends and family) and my parents think it will be fine but I'm a bit worried in light of everything that has happened recently
Thanks for your opinions
Lynn

agree with ladymuck...for dinner, absolutely (could hear if monitor was working etc). for a party/wedding no. you can't hear yourself much less a monitor.

No, I wouldn't. My boy goes with me ... everywhere. It isn't to everyone's taste, but it's very much to mine.

If you are chilled out about it, and the baby monitor is DEFINITELY Working, and the baby is the Sort Who Sleeps soundly, then I think it's ok

Personally I would be a nervous wreck and my children rarely sleep for more than ten minutes without waking up screaming, so it's not something I've ever done

Are there any other small children going?

You could make arrangements for all the children to be in one room, and split the cost of a sitter.

what are you all afraid of that would not happen at home?

very good question otter.

Fire

Theft

Not hearing baby choke

Baby going through mini bar for WKD Blue

Mainly though just having baby wake up and being scared and mummy or daddy not being there to comfort her

I would, but only if I could definitely hear the baby monitor above the noise of the wedding, which I fear is unlikely.

If I were to do it, I would request a room very near to the reception room.

Given that I would be worried about not being able to hear the baby monitor, I would probably plan ahead and book a babysitter from the hotel.

I would.
My daughter could choke in her room at home and I would not hear it from downstairs (do not listen in on the monitor all the time, I just check in every so often). She would not sleep in her pram at anything as noisy as a wedding.

I have been to one wedding since she was born and I didn't leave her in the room but only because the reception was in a different building which was a 4 minute walk away, not just downstairs. If it had been in the same building and was a small hotel and I had the monitor, then I would.

I would stay at home

Have beer

Watch telly

Listen to baby snoring on baby monitor

Save £250

Wait for your sister's second wedding in 10 years

those things could all happen at home

lol mp thats naughty

I'm interested how many people say no. I would and if you are concerned about the monitor, leave it with the hotel reception. At the child-friendly hotels I've been to, the reception take on the baby listening duty.

Choking never occured to me - I have never even had a baby monitor at home. I can see the risk possibly for a newborn but I would have thought the choking risk in a 12 month old was minimal (choking on vomit I guess you are thinking about? or am I missing something?)

I would be more concerned about bringing a child to a party - I think it's a bit unfair and overstimulating and they get passed from pillar to post and end up frantic and tired and miserable. Mine would anyway.

"everything that has recently happened" is so so so so rare. My nanny who is Romanian told me this horrible abduction is headline news in Romania too. Just to try to illustrate how unbelieveably rare this is.

However, sounds like you feel uneasy about it and this is definitely about your personal comfort levels rather than a right vs wrong.

I've been in a holiday apartment and had a break-in - people looking for cash from tourists, very common

TBH that has really made me very scared of leaving them alone in hotels and public places

I would take a buggy and let them crash in there. DD's often done that when we've taken her to weddings and parties, and now she's bigger she'll sleep on a couple of chairs pushed together.

Hmm, I'm not sure I agree with that, Margo. I'm not sure it's about personal comfort levels. Leaving a 12 month old on their own in a hotel room just seems wrong to me.

i really don't think i would do this now. i'm going through a paranoid phase with mine just now because of current news.

before madeleine, i probably would have done.

i think i would try to get lo asleep in pram and then park her beside a relative...

No way! My personal belief is that when you have children, you have to realise that wedding invites etc are going to be tricky for a time until they are old enough to attend....plenty of time for invites when they are older!

DH and I got married when DD1 was 5 months. We paid for our babysitter to come for the evening do and when she went to bed at around 7 pm, babysitter stayed in an interconnecting room.

My children are light sleepers and are always terrified when they wake up in a strange place so, no, I wouldn't. I like the idea of letting them stay up on granny's knee.

hello, we had identical situation in 2002 at dh's dad's 60th birthday, dd was 9 months old and dh's dad expected us to leave her in room with monitor while we were downstairs. I just wasn't happy about leaving her (much to dh's dad's annoyance) and in the end she just came in her buggy and slept the evening away.

Margo, legally hotels aren't allowed to do baby listening anymore.

Why, and since when Dinny?