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Would you leave her in hotel room while you were downstairs?

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llynnnn · 29/05/2007 17:29

I know this is a very touchy (with very good reason) subject at the moment and dont want to start a big fight but just after honest opinions, would you leave a 12month old fast asleep in a hotel room, with a sensitive baby monitor on, while you were at a wedding party downstairs?
Its my sisters wedding in August at a very nice hotel, where most of the hotel will be taken by other guests (our friends and family) and my parents think it will be fine but I'm a bit worried in light of everything that has happened recently
Thanks for your opinions
Lynn

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NAB3 · 29/05/2007 17:42

A locked room is not a good idea if something sets alight.. Just take the child with you.

agalch · 29/05/2007 17:43

Would never consider it tbh.

We got married in April and arranged through a friend to have a registered childminder she knows in Gretna to come and babysit for us in the evening.

My dd's had a ball at the wedding and meal and Dh and i got them bathed and down to sleep for 7pm and babysitter arrived at 7.30pm.

We had a great night and could really relax and have a drink and a boogie knowing the dd's were looked after properly.

Would be worth looking for a babysitter imo.Only cost us 50 quid from 7.30 till 1am so well worth it!!

mumoftwoangels · 29/05/2007 17:47

I may be wrong , but if you feel the need for reassurance your not completely happy with the idea yourself?

Rember it is your child YOU decide what is ok. Your sister would rather have her Neice or NEphew safe and you relaxed on her wedding day, than see you spend the night on pins wondering if baby is ok.

Have a great time.

Ps if you have not had a drink in a while by the time of the wedding (BF or whatever) take it slow! (That is the voice of experience)

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TheBlonde · 29/05/2007 17:47

I have done this and would do it again

but if you aren't happy about it then don't do it

Otter · 29/05/2007 17:48

of course i would!

Hulababy · 29/05/2007 17:49

I wouldn't no - before or since recent events.

I'd have had DD at the wedding party itself. After July 1st the smoke thing will not be an issue as the hotel will be no smoking throughout anyway. DD could fall asleep in her car seat or pushcahir, so was never really an issue, and we were never ones for proper routines, so that bit didn't faze her or us either.

hana · 29/05/2007 17:50

agree with kbear completely
took dd when she was under one to a wedding and did just this - buggy in the corner - she slept a little, was awake a little, lots of cuddles from various guests - wasn't ideal, but really couldn't leave her in room on her own, and babysitters weren't an option

akaJamiesMum · 29/05/2007 17:55

I personally wouldn't do it but that's just me. You have a baby monitor on and can hear if you're needed. Your little one would probably be quite safe there.
Go with your instincts on the night. When we attended a hotel wedding there were so many relatives and 4 of us took turns at spending 30 mins in the room with DS while he slept - everybody had a good evening and I was happy that DS was safe.

HuwEdwards · 29/05/2007 17:58

I would have done this - however given recent events, it's quite likely to spark some comments/looks from other guests. You may be happy ignoring them, could be a bit uncomfortable though.

Songbird · 29/05/2007 18:07

I have and would again. I would keep dd up lateish as well though.

I think most grandparents would say it's fine, so do what you're comfortable with rather than what other people say. Bear in mind that no matter how sensitive the monitor is, it will have to go through a lot of walls/floors and the range might not be great. There was only one part of the dining room we could sit in in the hotel we were in as the monitor went out of range! Another thing to remember is that hotel rooms are very hot - I wouldn't leave a child in a ground floor room with a window open.

Don't think about abductors, think about practicalities. Is your child a light sleeper / frequent waker? Does s/he go down well in strange bedrooms. All things to consider.

Sorry, didn't mean to blather on

Aimsmum · 29/05/2007 18:25

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Gobbledigook · 29/05/2007 18:29

No, I wouldn't (and I wouldn't have before recent events either). I wouldn't be able to relax but 99 times out of 100 they are going to be fine.

It's a personal thing - only you know if you'd be comfortable with it.

Twiglett · 29/05/2007 18:30

I would never do that

went to a thing in a hotel when DS was 12 months old (over 5 years ago) and didn't then either

its personal as GDG says

FrannyandZooey · 29/05/2007 18:33

Personally no, because I know baby monitors can go wrong and I know how upset ds would have been if he had woken up and I hadn't come (this did actually happen to us once )

but I don't think there is anything inherently wrong / dangerous about doing this if your monitor is reliable, will work over that range and you will definitely be able to hear her over the noise of the party

kreamkrackers · 29/05/2007 18:38

no i wouldn't.

babies are loved at parties and they can go in puschairs when they're tired.

now with the no smoking ban coming into force i wouldn't see why anyone would want to leave a baby/child in another room.

if you do want to then i agree that taking it in turns to look after her with family members is a good idea and if there are other young children there then they could all be kept in the same room.

FioFio · 29/05/2007 18:39

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elkiedee · 29/05/2007 18:41

I can't imagine I'd feel able to leave baby unless with a human - my sister from my dad's second marriage is getting married in July and my mum (my dad's first wife hence not related to bride at all) has offered to drive us over and mind baby while I go to it. I won't stay late into the evening either. I'm also planning to go to other things where there will be evening socialising, but baby will have me or his dad with him at all times and I'll adapt what I do, as I won't want to be separated from baby for too long at once.

If I get married (considering it) any babies who may need to be invited will be, and our own will certainly need to be there.

tibni · 29/05/2007 18:41

I didn't and my dd was 7. For me its a peace of mind thing. I was lucky because her grandad had enough of the band so came and sat with her so I could go back to the party.

Ladymuck · 29/05/2007 18:44

If it was just dinner, then I would, but for a wedding or a party then I would get a sitter - you would want to enjoy yourselves, and I wouldn't have a 1yo sleeping in a room where people were smoking, or even where people were drinking heavily. I would phone the hotel and see if they had recommended babysitters, or else ask someone who lived locally as to whether they could recommend a sitter.

Phraedd · 29/05/2007 18:51

most good hotels will be able to offer you a CRB checked/first aid qualified nanny as a babysitter.

I do a lot of babysitting in hotels and i charge £8 per hour. Now sure what the hotel would ask as a booking fee though.

I would never leave my children in a locked hotel room even though at home they sleep very well. If a fire did break out (from the kitchen??), there is no way would be able to go to room and retrieve your child.

WideWebWitch · 29/05/2007 18:55

I would have been with the 'yes, do it, it'll be fine' crowd before but I'm afraid (and slightly ashamed to admit it) that recent events have made me ridiculously and completely irrationally afraid of doing it. I'd take a relative, a friend, a friend's nanny or hire a sitter.

lizandlulu · 29/05/2007 20:05

i went to a wedding in febuary, before any of this awful abduction. i was just giong to put her in a buggy and let her sleep. i know she would be more comfortable in a bed, but i wouldnt be willing to leave her on her own. as it turned out, she caught some kind of bug and was being sick all night from about 9pm, so i had to go to the bedroom and watch over her.

expatinscotland · 29/05/2007 20:08

No, and that is my honest answer.

Cadmum · 29/05/2007 20:10

I couldn't. It only takes a second for any accident. There must be someone who could sit with her. Maybe a teenage child of another guest?

gothicmama · 29/05/2007 20:12

I would not even before all this - I would use apush chair for dd or call it an early night if sh ecould not stay up

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