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Would you leave her in hotel room while you were downstairs?

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llynnnn · 29/05/2007 17:29

I know this is a very touchy (with very good reason) subject at the moment and dont want to start a big fight but just after honest opinions, would you leave a 12month old fast asleep in a hotel room, with a sensitive baby monitor on, while you were at a wedding party downstairs?
Its my sisters wedding in August at a very nice hotel, where most of the hotel will be taken by other guests (our friends and family) and my parents think it will be fine but I'm a bit worried in light of everything that has happened recently
Thanks for your opinions
Lynn

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dinny · 29/05/2007 21:09

hmmmm, think my sil told me this - will as here tmrw

margoandjerry · 29/05/2007 21:11

this a new law that's been introduced since April? (last time I used one of thoses facilities). I'm not aware of any new legislation.

I am not sure it's illegal - probably they all want to cover themselves so won't take responsibility for it any more.

I really understand people's concerns but you could also scare yourself to death with fears about the babysitter provided by the hotel that you didn't personally vet, or about any other of the childcare options you make use of.

I'm afraid, choking and health risks aside, your child is still statistically more at risk from a member of your family than from a stranger. And that is a fact.

margoandjerry · 29/05/2007 21:15

my last post sounds crap - sorry. It really sounds patronising and/or alarming...

NOT what was intended. I just really don't want everyone to get into a flat spin about this awful, awful thing that has happened so that perfectly normal and safe and healthy ways to live get pathologised into "dangerous" and "wrong".

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LucyJones · 29/05/2007 21:15

I would.
I would check on them every now and then which is more than I do at home.
Ther is more likelihood of something happening to them asleep in a buggy in the middle of a party IMO

aviatrix · 29/05/2007 21:19

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rookiemum · 29/05/2007 21:20

I would do it, provided I was absolutely sure that the baby monitor would work downstairs and I would check the room a few times as well.
However if its not something you are comfortable with then don't do it.

We stayed in a hotel in early May and they still had baby listening facilities, so I don't think baby listening is illegal.

mylittleimps · 29/05/2007 22:13

i would have ds's with me & DH (and have done with one asleep in pushchair he was about 22 months) at my cousins wedding always with DH or me there next to pushchair. we left before the end when older DS started to tire. (but he was very excited so didn't tire that early!)

you have to be comfortable with YOUR decision

ArtichokeTagine · 29/05/2007 22:28

I would as long as I could hear the monitor. As long as my room was nearby and not on the ground floor (where a stranger could get in through the window).

Baby listening is not illegal. No law has changed because of the McCanns.

NKF · 29/05/2007 22:32

If you wouldn't enjoy the party, is it really worth it? I'd take that as the starting point.

NKF · 29/05/2007 22:33

Sorry, I didn't explain that very well. I'd do whatever was most likely to help me enjoy the party.

mylittleimps · 29/05/2007 22:41

NFK - and bugger what's best for dc? [hmmm] hasn't anybody learnt? that's what the MCCann's did - did what was best for their holiday and their enjoyment (so but true) and who benefitted certainly not their daughter WHO IS STILL MISSING

NKF · 29/05/2007 22:42

Well, no actually. Using a baby monitor is taking responsibility.

NKF · 29/05/2007 22:42

is being sensible I mean. Sorry it's late.

paulaplumpbottom · 29/05/2007 22:44

What if there was a fire?

mylittleimps · 29/05/2007 22:44

You have still said that you would put your enjoyment first,

mylittleimps · 29/05/2007 22:45

wrt being sensible then yes it's a far better/suitable word than responsibility

NKF · 29/05/2007 22:45

Actually, you're assuming that I mean leave the child in the room and attend the party without her. What I actually meant was that if worry was going to prevent the original poster from enjoying the party then take the child to the party. There.

PrettyBetty · 29/05/2007 22:48

I stayed in a hotel recently.
Over 200 rooms. I asked how many children they had in the hotel - that weeekend there were 56 children. The hotel offered the baby listening facilities and a babysitter service.
We hired a babysitter. She sat in the living room in the room while hubby and I were having dinner in one of the hotel restaurants.

We were so happy to be finally having a lovely dinner cooked for us in a plush place.
We were happily sipping our wine, ordering our food and..... the fire drill went on..... everyone was rushing around, trying to find the nearest exit.... As we were running towards our room I bumped into the babysitter with my dd on her arsms..... THAT WAS BLOODY TERRYFYING....

After that experience I swear I will never leave my children unsupervised under any circumstances.

LittleWonder · 29/05/2007 22:54

Hotel staff have keys to locked room doors. these "strangers" can let themselves in, quite apart from the fire thing. We always took ours to parties at that age.

Other thing, if this is your first DC, they are different at 1 year to the way they are at 8 months...

Liked morningpaper's reply best.

dinny · 29/05/2007 22:55

yeah, LW - anyone that has worked in a hotel would never leave their kids alone in room, I suspect

ravenAK · 29/05/2007 22:59

I have done - with ds (then just 2) & dd (then 4 months). Took them both up to hotel room at about 11ish, settled them in bed & cot & returned to party.

It was a small hotel, fully booked for family wedding. Both very good sleepers.

Yes, I suppose an intruder could have got in with evil intent - but the whole building was riddled with family members going up to rooms to check on sleeping children, so they'd have been highly unlikely to get into the room unchallenged.

I might have been a bit more cautious given a large hotel full of guests not known to me.

ScaryHairy · 29/05/2007 23:14

The size of the hotel matters a lot.
My sister went to a birthday at a 20 room hotel which had been totally taken over for the party. She left her 2 children in the room which is fine imo - the staff listened at the door.

I think I would be less comfortable if it was a big hotel with lots of strangers.

A friend of mine is currently planning to go to a wedding when her baby is a few months old. She's paying for her parents to spend the night in the hotel too. They will get a day out while she and the baby are at the ceremony and then they can look after their grandchild in the evening. Such a smart move, I wish I had thought of it.

paulaplumpbottom · 29/05/2007 23:16

You see Pretty thats my nightmare

NoNoNoNo · 29/05/2007 23:19

Could you get a babysitter to mind the baby in the hotel room? Back in the day when mine were babies, on the few occasions when we were in hotels, with something on, that's usually what we did. It felt like overkill at the time, to be honest, but it did allow us to relax, knowing there was a teenager watching TV in the room with the child.

Or the buggy in the corner of the room could work, if she/he is a sleeper? Though I'd personally prefer a babysitter, if possible

NoNoNoNo · 29/05/2007 23:20

and yeah, I agree that the size of the hotel matters a lot!

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