Would you leave her in hotel room while you were downstairs?

[llynnnn]

I know this is a very touchy (with very good reason) subject at the moment and dont want to start a big fight but just after honest opinions, would you leave a 12month old fast asleep in a hotel room, with a sensitive baby monitor on, while you were at a wedding party downstairs?
Its my sisters wedding in August at a very nice hotel, where most of the hotel will be taken by other guests (our friends and family) and my parents think it will be fine but I'm a bit worried in light of everything that has happened recently
Thanks for your opinions
Lynn

I'd question whether 10 years ago many parents took tiny babies and small children to hotels with anything like the frequency that we do nowadays

on holiday I would get accomodation with a balcony and drink wine on there

or a caravan and sit outside on deckchairs like we did last year in wales (so chic)

But how can I flirt and pull other men whilst rocking a pram to and fro?

True Enid, they'd leave us in the caravan with Coke and crisps whilst they went off to the pub in their car!

No, I wouldnt either. xx

We allknow that paedophiles seek out jobs that give them opportunities to have access to children; this is why police checks exist to portect the most vulnerable in our society from these kind of preditors. That's not alarmist, it's a fact.

If you are on holiday and have a baby monitor next to you in the bar - that's advertising you have left your child unattended. Anyone who works in the hotel would be able to get your room number or you could let it slip yourself after a few relaxing drinks; because you don't think the worst.

Great, but it's naive to think that this kind of scenareo would be a dream to a paedophile.

^wouldn't

and apologies for typos

Paedophiles do not cross my mind AT ALL tbh

I just want to be there if they wake up (which is a lot

if I was on a different floor then I would not be to hand

Lynn if you're in Glasgow I'll babysit for you at the wedding!

Monkey - you are supposing that he is a hotel worker who would be able to get into your room without making a sound on the baby alarm and that he would know by looking at you which room you have come from.

I can see where you are coming from but I think it's unlikely.

However search through the archives of Mumsnet and you will find a whole host of horror stories involving nurseries and abusive babysitters.

As I said, you take calculated risks.

Slight hijack but are you in Newcastle Rubarb?

can i hijack too?

how many of you let your dc sleep with their windows open at night? i dont, because of the risk of intruders. (they are on the first floor, but the shed is just below their window.) the windows are child safe, as they open at the top, but an adult could squeeze through.

No MT, an hour away but I often go there for work. I'm there on Monday as it happens.

noonar we used to live in a caravan and the kids slept at the back with us at the front. A partition came across their bit. There was a large window at the back and although you could have the blinds down, an adult could still take a sleeping child.

Now we were in France during this time and it was either let the kids boil during the night in a stuffy small caravan or leave the window open and hope no passing paedo was around.

We left it open.

I must admit it did concern me however.

Ahar! She cracks!

I have done but wouldn't again, we were in a quiet restaurant downstairs and could have heard someone getting into the room but (and i can't believe it never occurred to me before) if someone terrifyingly dodgy gained access and we heard them, they'd be gone before we got there.
Last summer we were somewhere where our monitor didn't work and got a sitter through an agency who was a Mum and a childminder and felt so much more relaxed. Worth every penny.

We used a childminder for our 9 month old and 2 year old at my sisters wedding.
At least that way you can relax and enjoy yourself, your children can sleep in peace and you can still keep popping up to the room to check that everything is ok.

I'm soooo sorry for starting this thread! I didnt realise (i'm so naive to mumsnet! ) that it would create so much response. I hope I havent upset/p**sed anyone off for what looks like another child abduction thread, it wasnt intended in this way and I wouldve asked the question if this awful event hadnt happended.
Anyway, I have def decided not to leave her alone, I havent yet told my parents that she probably wont be attending, I'll save that joy for another day!
But thanks to everyone for replying!
toomuchtodo- thanks for the offer, but Glasgow is about a 6hour drive from here!
x

Haven't read the whole thread, but I would just take your pram and let them sleep in the corner. The baby will be the star of the evening and will probably drop off on someones knee anyhow! We took our DD to a wedding in Italy when she was 16 months old and she toddles about happily for ages and then fell asleep on my knee, we popped her in the pram and she slept quite happily next to us all evening. Would never occur to me to leave her elsewhere in case she had a bad dream or woke up and we weren't around. At this sort of age they will sleep through any amount of noise!! You'll be more relaxed if you can see that your baby is ok. Have a fab time!!

i would imagine that given the recent events no one would expect you to leave her alone upstairs.

you will not relax if she is upstairs so bring her pram and enjoy yourself safe in teh knowledge she is nearby the whole time