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have you pierced your daughters ears?

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Justposting · 22/04/2018 20:45

Still awaiting baby girls arrival, probably far to early to be thinking about this. Have you pierced your daughters ears? if so at what age do you feel it is appropriate, my sister did her baby at just a few months old. I have a friend who thinks it’s not fair on the child unless they are old enough to ask for it themselves, I am currently in two minds,
What are your thoughts?

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KennDodd · 22/04/2018 21:25

I'm amazed shops still pierce babies ears without their consent. How does that even work? I guess they're quite innocent about the first ear but you'd still have to hold their head still. Then what? They're writhing around screaming in pain while you hold them down while more pain in inflicted on them. Then parents walk away with a big smile on their face and baby is taken away screaming.

CarlPoppaJaJiggyJarJardoo · 22/04/2018 21:27

The ears are done at the same time and none of mine screamed or cried and they never had any problems.

Greenyogagirl · 22/04/2018 21:28

@carlpoppa why did you do it though?

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GreenStars · 22/04/2018 21:29

Oh god please don't pierce your precious baby's ears!!

Apart from the fact they can't consent in any way, I can't think of much that looks more awful or tacky.

gamerchick · 22/04/2018 21:32

You’re wasting your time. Anyone who’s thinking of putting holes in their baby before it’s even born won’t take a blind bit of notice.

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DairyisClosed · 22/04/2018 21:35

I had mine done at seven. It hurt enough for it not to be fair on a child who doesn't understand. Then it got complicated. My ears melt growing over the studs. This went on for nearly a year. I had to be taken to the doctor to remove the offending earing etc. A bit extreme but not something that I would want to experience as a parent. I would never pierce my daughters ears if I had one. If someone else did it (as sometimes does happen) I would take the rains straight out.

rebeccabecca · 22/04/2018 21:36

Looks awful and there is absolutely no need for it to be done. Why would you?

Aprilmightbemynewname · 22/04/2018 21:38

Dd's were 4+5 after a year of hounding me!! I told them it hurt, would likely hurt until they healed, that they had to turn them and clean them every day - they never cried, never had any bother and now 11+12 still love them.
I personally was 7 as a reward for learning to swim!! No regrets.

kissthealderman · 22/04/2018 21:40

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BackforGood · 22/04/2018 21:40

Seriously?
You've not even had this baby yet, and this is what you are thinking about ?

ineedwine99 · 22/04/2018 21:43

No way, will consider it when she starts secondary school. Had mine done as a baby and because i moved (as babies do!) i have uneven holes and 2 in one ear where the first attempt went wrong

K80E · 22/04/2018 21:43

Ear piercing on babies is dangerous! They'll pull them out.. they'll get ripped out, don't do it! There's no need to put a precious baby through pain when there's no need!

goose1964 · 22/04/2018 21:45

DD was 11 when she had her's pierced they got really badly infected and she needed antibiotics. Her GP suggested she gave up wearing them as she probably had a reaction to the metal. I could only ever wear gold hoops and even they started irritating my ears too . Be careful with young children

Heismyopendoor · 22/04/2018 21:46

I had DD’s pierced when she was about 8 months old and it’s actually something I deeply regret.

I was quite young when I had DD and it has always been the culture in our family to get them done young and I did as my mother suggested and got them done.

She never had any problems, but last year she asked to take them out as they were annoyIng her and getting infected so we took them out and never put them back in.

Looking back I wished I had thought more about it and not got it done. It’s not my body so really wasn’t my choice to make.

Wait until they are older and can make their own choice.

DuchyDuke · 22/04/2018 21:48

I come from a culture that does pierce baby ears (boys and girls) - generally wait until six months as by then the tetanus vaccinations have completed. I personally don’t think ear piercing is more wrong than circumcision as a religious / cultural practice.

TalkinPeece · 22/04/2018 21:54

I personally don’t think ear piercing is more wrong than circumcision as a religious / cultural practice.
cos cutting bits off kids and sticking holes in them is fine

DonutWorryBeHappy · 22/04/2018 21:55

I cocked up myear piercings at 13, so I won't let my dds have it done until 15 because they're related to me and may well do the same thing!!

MrsDeltaB · 22/04/2018 21:58

Eldest had gone on and on about it! Relented at the summer holiday she turned 8 so they were secure for at least 6 weeks (for school rules) middle child (bad turn of phrase I know) is 8 on Tues bit will wait until end of school year for them to bed down. Each to their own.

MrsDeltaB · 22/04/2018 22:02

Sorry missed the point of thread. I was very passionate about them being aware of a) the initial pain, b) the after care needed etc. Personally, not a fan of a non walking not coherent talking child having it done.

Allthecake · 22/04/2018 22:06

Aside the points made from others about consent etc I'd certainly think again about it. I got it young and after a couple of years got bored with them so didn't wear earrings often enough keep the holes open. They healed over and I got them re-pierced, then the same thing happened. When I wanted to wear earrings for my wedding I wasn't able to as my ears were to scarred to get them pierced safely again. Totally my fault but I wish I'd had them pierced later when I was more responsible.

DamsonOnThisDress · 22/04/2018 22:08

She pleaded when she was 10. Said I'd look into it which is what I say when I don't want to say no.

Being a by the book harridan I did look into it and heard that piercing with needle is preferable to gun (more sterile, less skin trauma/risk of infection apparently).

Only trouble was could only get it done by sterile needle in a piercing and tattoo parlour and they won't pierce under 12.

She said she'd wait until she was old enough to get it done properly but has clearly forgotten or changed her mind because she's 13 and there's been no mention since.

If she wanted it done now I'd have no issue.

Tbh at her age I had my ears done many times, belly button, tongue and had blue hair so I'm not a total shrew. I am pretty laid back but like things done properly. And done sterile.

Not my business but I really don't like seeing babies and young children with pierced ears.

PragmaticWench · 22/04/2018 22:11

Sixteen. Once they're old enough to consent and also care for piercings appropriately. I've seen a ripped ear lobe before and it's not pretty.

Vinorosso74 · 22/04/2018 22:14

I wouldn't get a baby's ears pierced. A child needs to be old enough to consent to it.
Ideally also old enough to take care of the piercings too. My DD is 8 and was vaguely interested a while back so I looked into it and discovered the needle method is better than a gun. She hasn't asked recently but I think at least 10/11 is the age I would let her.

lostfrequencies · 22/04/2018 22:17

It's utterly cruel to get a baby's ears pierced.

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